Does Fear-Based Or Faith-Based Thinking Define Your Life?

I have struggled with anxiety probably my whole walk with Christ. So, there’s my thorn for you to touch and feel.

And let me tell you, it’s one of those gifts that people just don’t talk about very often. I say it’s a gift because it’s one of the way’s God has answered my prayer for my life to have a purpose.  So, as you read today, this is not a lecture friend. This is my life, and I want to tell you that through Christ, God will do for you what he has done for me if you don’t quit. You can overcome the stranglehold fear has on your life and not let it dictate to you how your marriage, family, and career will be played out.

I thought I was broken mentally because I couldn’t see myself being faith-filled, gracious, kind or content. Couldn’t see myself making sound,  favorable decisions that helped me rule my queendom with power.  From the time my feet hit the floor in the morning, life was a struggle. As I pushed the coffee button, I heard in my mind….

I feel so sad. I hope today I will feel loved. I hope things go okay today with Jay and the kids. I hope I don’t get overwhelmed or anxious today. I hope God provides for me and I can pay that bill. I hope I am in the will of God. I hope my back doesn’t hurt. I hope things work out with so and so. This was my mindset. I hoped for change, but I never committed to it. That’s because change required me to be accountable to someone for my thoughts and actions. The change was RISKY. I didn’t know that learning how to THINK in a faith-based way just required a training and daily action. That it was GROW-ABLE!

I told myself there must be something wrong with me mentally. Maybe I had cancer somewhere in my body. Maybe I had a chemical imbalance. I even had two separate pastors who told Jay that I had psychological problems because of stupid stuff I did because of fear. Imagine that. No one saw in leadership potential in me that just needed refinement or training but rather In the very place in the body of Christ I am called to minister in, (coaching, equipping and releasing) I was told I was damaged by significant authority figures. I share this because this might have happened to you also and you need to understand….

The enemy will always find a vessel to reinforce to you his plans for your life. WATCH OUT. Be sober; it’s unrestricted spiritual warfare!  But here’s the truth. I didn’t have mental problems. What I had was an internal identity theft that had been going on since I was a child. Probably for multiple generations in my family. And the old Becky was so accustomed to being a victim of my disappointing thoughts about who I was and what God could do through me, that I  simply couldn’t see myself in any other way other than as someone who had a constant struggle. I performed for love spiritually, physically and emotionally with my closest relationships. I was comfortable with pain. I deserved pain. The pain had been my best friend for many years, and it saturated my physical body. The more freedom I tried to walk in, the more manifestations of anxiety I went through.This is normal. You will have PHYSICAL signs when you have an assignment of fear in your life. You have to train yourself to respond robotically just like the military trains you in boot camp and with a system in place, or you will not win.

Here are some of the daily symptoms I had and you might too:

  1. Couldn’t keep a thought straight in my mind. Super jumpy and sound sensitive. Terrible headaches at a migraine level anytime I went to confront anything in my life that overwhelmed me.
  2. My heart would race, I would get tunnel vision and stop being able to process. I couldn’t hear or make a decision. It would take me a full day to recover and think straight.
  3. I was exhausted to the point I had to go to bed but then couldn’t sleep. Cried constantly.
  4. I had no energy and was out of shape. Was a chronic asthmatic. Always coughing or chest was tight.
  5. Felt disillusioned with life and people. Had no vision and couldn’t formulate one.
  6. Woke up constantly at night and tossed and turned.
  7. I was moody, demanding and impatient with people. No contentment, constant drama.
  8. Didn’t want to go hang out with anyone who had joy. If I walked alone, I would be bombed with thoughts someone was going to attack, rape or harm me.
  9. I was cynical and sarcastic. Always second guessed people’s motivations. I couldn’t love sacrificially because I was saturated in FEAR!
  10. Had to drink alcohol to decompress or relax.
  11. Over processed every decision I made, struggled with perfectionism, taking action and what people thought of me. I was saturated with idolatry.

Boy wouldn’t that be a popular doctor to go to. Doctor Deliverance:) Hi, I would like to make an appointment to see if I have the sickness of idolatry. Sure, that will be $250.00 for the initial consult and be here 15 minutes early to fill out the paper work on how many generations in your family has been rebelling against God with perverseness, rebellion, gluttony, fornication, and drunkenness. Here’s your prescription: Pray for one hour a day, exercise instead of eating or drink, memorize the word of God, worship him instead of your needs. Spend any extra money on someone who is more destitute than you are. 

Insert Crickets. Nope, that’s way too easy.

Here’s the truth=> If you are not advancing daily into what you believe is God’s will for your life, what your heart desires, moving where you think God has called you to move and doing what you believe will bless not just yourself or others, then fear is defining your identity not Christ. If you are going forward because of finances or what other’s may think of your decision, waiting for permission, fear is defining you, not Christ.

What I found is CHRIST makes a way where this is no way WHEN YOU DECIDE TO OVERCOME THE FEAR. Not before. Why? Because he wants you to be dependent on him.

I had to go in my weakness and people see me “needy”. To training for speaking when I was melting down with migraines. We moved to Atlanta with a team to church plant when we lost THOUSANDS and THOUSANDS to do so. I decided to train for a marathon in the middle of a fear of cancer because of rectal bleeding spasms. I launched a business during the recession and after a million dollar ID theft with no resources financially. Nothing my friend. NOTHING has come to me without a fight. And most likely it won’t for you either. Get used to it!

I dreamed bigger by the grace of God because I wanted to be a giant slayer in my generation and break free from the idolatry of fear.  Now, I had people suggest medication, but my personal decision was that I wanted to press through it with the word of God, herbs, vitamins, and exercise because I knew what I got the breakthrough it would help others. When I was dealing with thoughts of harming myself I promised my friends and family I would tell them if I considered following through and would be willing to go on medication if it came to that point. Which it never has. God has used this weakness to minister to many people now, and I want to encourage you that if you will choose to look at where you are weak as an INVITATION for Christ to be glorified in your life then whatever your giant is, your weakness will be the stone that brings him down. I have noticed now over decades that so many leaders will go down massive self-sabotaging roads just because they won’t admit they are stuck in fear-based thinking. It’s more socially acceptable to say you’re an alcoholic and call that at a disease than to say you’re fearful.  Why don’t more people just admit,

I NEED DELIVERANCE FROM FEAR, PEOPLE PLEASING AND NARCISSISM!

I can tell you why I didn’t for the longest time. I didn’t want to admit I was saturated with ANXIETY and negativity and that I had control over it.  Seeing myself as fearful was a real eye-opener because I had built up so many walls of “cool-ness,” self-sufficiency and what I wanted people to see me as. I had to admit all my relationships needed to change and boundaries had to go into my life to raise my leadership level.  And then I began to learn how to practice the presence of God which was life changing for me and one of the main things I teach to those who struggle with fear. Friend, there are PRACTICAL actions you can take without attending a fire-walking seminar, listening to self-help audio’s, running to conference after conference for a religious high.  The first step is admitting this is you and you want to be conformed to the Lord’s identity and not the plans the enemy has for you. Another is understanding that you will have to let God work this through your life in his timing and not your’s. And that feeling out of control makes you HUMAN not broken.

Also, if this is something you struggle with also and need support, I want to invite you to join my community, it’s free. There you will be challenged to break out of this idolatry in a supportive, focused way.

Faith forward my friend because God has a POWERFUL and BOLD plan for your life that is filled with righteousness, peace, and joy in the HOLY GHOST!

Love, love, Bec:)

Poverty Vs. Wealth Thinking

This is a week where we remember the FIGHT we had to commit to as a nation to develop our national identity that was strong and FREE!

There was a great financial SACRIFICE and consistent WORK to birth this. And so it will be for you too. Anything less is not worth fighting for!  Your purpose will only come if you are freed up limiting mindsets and INVITE the kind of covenant relationships into your life that ensures challenge.

Unfortunately, so many Christians are saturated with an independent identity they associate success with self-reliance. I’m going to do it my way!  In America, it’s a shame to depend or live with our children when you grow old (as if you didn’t plan well enough financially), but in China, it’s something to be boasted of! “My children love me so much they fight over who get’s to have me stay with them!”

But the truth is, dependence and vulnerability in a safe enviroment is BIBLICAL!

So many people hold back investing in training that will take them into their next breakthrough because they are still struggling with what people think about them if they see they still have problems or what if they find out I used to be in prison, or had a porno problem, I’m on my 3rd marriage, or I still struggle with poor financial patterns, been labeled a trouble maker or I WASTE TIME WATCHING TV when I should be working on my vision.

The list goes on and on. WHATEVER! Please introduce me to anyone who is currently PERFECT or did everything perfect so I can touch their magical robe!

God set’s the isolated into a spiritual family so that you learn how to IGNORE condemnation and all the things the enemy wants to sabotage you with to hold you back from living a heroic God life! So you’re equipped for the work of the ministry, and you can multiply your significant life! It’s not God’s plan for you to stay on survival mode or have a dream in your heart for years that never get’s birthed! It’s not God’s will for you to keep rehearsing what you could’ve, should’ve done 10 years ago or stay on perpetual I DON’T KNOW what God has for me mode!

Loneliness, isolation mean no breakthrough. Imagine, this time next year, you’re still saying the same things about your life!!!! That would stink! And that’s what you will be saying if you don’t do the work!

I understand what it feels like to feel alone. To feel accused daily and have recurring patterns of financial lack, relational disappointments or infirmity that just takes on new forms. I can tell you the truth though; God allowed constant tension in my life for a reason. It was to train me to PERSEVERE, reach out to others in humility and to move forward despite what the enemy threw at me. You see when you’re a slave, you have no dreams. But when you catch your REAL IDENTITY, that you’re a son/daughter, you still are doing the same work, but you know you’re going to step into an INHERITANCE with it.

Poverty mentalities don’t get support because they have to have all the answers themselves. Wealth mentalities set a goal, work as a team, reach further, ask for input as they go. Same brains, same talents, same time constraints, it’s how they REACT to obstacles. Have you ever thought that you weren’t meant to live in survival mode? That there is an easier way?

A way for you to lose the 10 pounds. To end the loneliness. To end the poor decision-making processes. To use your writing, speaking gift to impact others for the kingdom.

The longer you stay in survival mode, the longer that BECOMES WHO YOU ARE IDENTITY WISE. The quicker you make decisions to suffer for a bigger vision; GRACE is released. People are CHANGED by just watching your life!

Have you ever thought of that? That God has given you obstacles so others can look at your difficulties as you attempt to do bigger things HIS WAY instead of your own and say, there is a God in heaven if he/she can have such a right attitude or not quit in the midst of so much oppression.

Remember what Father Paul said…Eph 3: 13… So please don’t lose heart at what they are doing to me here. It is for you I am suffering, and you should feel honored and encouraged.

Let me break that down for you. You’re going to get SPIRITUAL WARFARE and SUFFERING for living a sacrificial life that involves others growing in Christ.  I still get emails from people who believe once your saved, all is in the blood and you can just sit back in your inner tube and float down the river with your worship music on. That acknowledging spiritual warfare means you’re looking for a devil under every rock. READ YOUR BIBLE!

So, if Jesus was crucified sacrificially, all the apostles suffered for sharing the gospel and were martyred for their faith, why do you think you’re exempt from that? There is no Christian prosperity gospel except for having an overcoming FAITH! That’s your WEALTH, not your bank account! Do not come under idolatrous teaching that if you’re more holy or spiritual if you have more money! We aren’t promised perfect health or fat bank accounts as Christians. Do I believe in healing and to be financially stable? Yes, but I don’t measure my identity around that!

Today, pray in tongues, listen to worship music, pray with faith-filled people. If you don’t have this in your life,  join my community for free and begin to do some identity work!

Faith Forward! Love, Bec:)

Building Customer Loyalty That’s Easy

This is part 4 in a 4 part series I am doing on how to grow an authentic sales funnel and profits without hype. This week I want to share with you the mindset and practical way you create customer trust, so your business is profitable.

SUCCESS=> What makes someone effective at growing their business is their work ethic and how well they prepare ahead for a new client. When I launched SUCCESSnotsabotage, I didn’t have any marketing experience, but I had been practiced in prayer, follow up in ministry and just being faithful with my friendships. In other words, I knew how to prepare people’s hearts for following Jesus into more growth. I was willing to learn new skills until I could hire out.

With that said, I am big on watching what people do CONSISTENTLY and not just what they say about themselves.  I have a little different way of doing business than most coaches in that I look at my business as a ministry, so for that reason, I am not money driven. I am driven by transformation and profit’s second.

When I get in front of a potential customer, I don’t like to talk to them about my more expensive coaching unless I have spent some time watching their life and actions. I have the opposite strategy. When people come to me and want private coaching, I often down-sell them! I ask them to join my team first. Now I do this for a couple of reasons.

  1. I know from my own experience in business that people are missing boldness, creativity on how to serve and consistent execution skills. That’s a leadership issue, not a business problem! Who likes to knock on doors, cold call or challenge people with the truth of the gospel? Anyone? No, none of it is comfortable. But if you believe it will save someone pain or suffering than getting bold! Seriously, you can learn for $114 in a team instead of 2,000 to start with.
  2. I know I can save them money and help them grow their leadership skills to a place they are consistent. I will keep them encouraged and accountable there which is frankly why most people quit before they make money (not because they don’t have what it takes). Ninety percent of business or ministry is work ethic and perseverance, and that happens better with teaming. Create an identity and culture for your business, not just a product!
  3. When people know you’re not after their money but helping them get results they will invest more money with you when they are ready. That comes from your casting a bigger vision for them and helping them attain it. Clients who have been on my team and wanted to attend an in-person event I am doing that cost one or two thousand, know from being part of my lower end programs that I will tell them the truth. I can look at the work they have done and told them honestly if think they have what it takes to go to the next level. That doesn’t always guarantee they will be successful because I can’t do the work for them but at least I can see a track record of what they have done in the past!

So as you consider building bigger programs financially with a deeper investment for your client, think of this. Stay away from the rah-rah emotional talk and bling talk. Pray, walk in integrity and then help people receive TANGIBLE RESULTS. Start with a core product that helps them stay consistent with their leadership and make it doable financially for every mom or dad. You want them to be able to integrate this into their every day life. (Around $100 a month)

Then when they see that they can build success with simple strategies, invite them to become more disciplined with their time and focused on how they serve people. Always associate investing money with becoming more disciplined! Developing products is not hard but it does take you thinking strategically ahead. Expanding your business is going to require you to have to learn, implement and teach new systems and there’s a learning curve in all that, but you don’t go to the next level of profitability without a better system. I have experienced it about five times now in my personal life and business. There’s a crisis, and it brings me to a place of expansion that overwhelms me with having to block my time better and develop a better system for myself, my family or my clients.

Think about anything that bought you more environmental, emotional peace or financial stability. It’s most likely because you had to take the time to prune, organize and plan for what you wanted to see result wise. You had to do it consistently for a long while. During this period you built trust. People trust what they watch you be faithful in the long term. This is why if you aren’t in 100% committed to building long-term results, you can’t ask God for a blessing. He’s an inter-generational God. That was a freebie!

Need help building your leadership? Get started for free in my community!

Faith forward! Bec:)

Accountability Partners

When I have a client come to me for private coaching, one of the first questions I ask them is if they have anyone in their life they are accountable to. The truth is most people do not have any good experiences with accountability done rightly! You see, in order to grow your identity in Christ, you need to be mentored by spiritual mother’s and fathers and also have sisters and brothers in Christ who hold you accountable for the vision God has given you to accomplish in the earth.

They avoid it because they are afraid of being “found out” that they are failures or other negative outcomes that maybe they saw someone else experience. You see, in order to grow your identity in Christ, you need to be mentored by spiritual mother’s and fathers and also have sisters and brothers in Christ who hold you accountable for the vision God has given you to accomplish in the earth. You see, the number one way to push through spiritual warfare is through unity in prayer!

Here are some challenges my clients have pushed through using accountability and action!

  • A lack of personal discipline
  • Sloppy eating patterns
  • Fitness and weight goals
  • Addictions and other compromising patterns
  • Marriage Difficulties
  • Financial chaos
  • Social awkwardness or rejection that leads to isolating themselves
  • Parenting challenges

If you are confused constantly, fighting the same battles over and over, then you need to develop a focused plan and ask someone to hold you accountable to stay on track to finish what you start. Watch this to discover what that person should do for you!

Accountability from Becky Harmon on Vimeo.

10 SUCCESS Strategies For Challenging Transitions

Hindsight is always 20/20. We see the clearest after we navigate through difficult life transitions.

Because of the main ways I serve my clients is helping them turn what sabotaged them into success for others, I want to encourage you today that you can successfully pass through assignments the enemy has for your delay and even destruction. Especially if you see patterns occurring in your life that was in your parents, previous marriages or old spiritual relationships. Patterns are typically there due to either spiritual warfare that hasn’t been addressed or a lack of leadership training that you haven’t committed to.

If you are in significant life/identity shifts to be ALERT to the following ten potential sabotages. These success strategies are time tested not just in my life but have been used by my clients over the past decade with great success. They will help relieve the pressure that changes in vision and different outcomes bring into your spiritual sight and emotions.

Remember before reading these you will not see the result’s of clarity and understanding until you are well away from it. When you are crossing over into a new season, you will feel the sabotages (fear) but must act (faith-filled) to gain success and operate in your identity in Christ.

  1. As best as you can, do not quit or make life defining relational decisions when you feel persecuted, rejected, offended or insecure. There is always a work of God going for your PROMOTION and stability when you feel the most double-mindedness or feel like quitting. You need immense wisdom during transitions, especially those that involve covenant relationships like church matters, marriages, sabotages with your children. SUCCESS=> It is human nature to want to stop the emotional pain and just get a new job, run from your marriage or church relationships, cut off your disrespectful kids or whatever it is that creating the conflict. Breathe. Ask God in prayer to give you the grace to finish what you started all the way to the end. Your identity is to finish what you start. 
  2. Do not ask everyone’s opinion on what you are to do, if so you will come under the fear of man and make a poor decision. You want to take your transition to the Lord in prayer, confess the scripture over it and ask God to confirm to you the way you should go. SUCCESS=>Find one or two people that have already successfully navigated what is challenging you (successful means they have experienced the best case scenario of what could go right) and ask them to coach you through it. Hire someone if needed. Your identity is to be a follower of Christ, not people.
  3. Do not internalize negative circumstances as who you are, or you will become a victim during the transition, not a victor.  When you are the midst of a transition, there can be negative emotions like fear, anger, depression. These all have a tendency to cause you to become introverted and be more negative which will position you with others as a victim. SUCCESS=> Put on worship music and focus on leaning on God for the outcome. Praising God takes our eyes off our situation and into his presence. Smile frequently when discussing your current transition. Your identity is to remain peaceful in Christ because of who you serve not how you perform.
  4. Do not fret or spend anytime projecting what could go wrong in this situation. Worry does nothing but makes you feel more out of control and is harmful. SUCCESS=> Find a scripture and quote it out loud whenever you feel anxious about your outcome. Remember God is good and he will orchestrate what is best for you. I ask God to give me the grace to accept what his will is. Don’t think the scripture, say it out loud as Jesus did. Your identity is to remain in authority in the will of God.
  5. When people ask you how you’re doing, don’t speak about what you’re fearful about. Fear driven statements create those emotions in your body that you have to get now rid of physically. SUCCESS=> Tell them what you expect will happen if you take faith-filled actions and share with them the truth, you’re praying for the perfect will of God to be done! Your identity is to take bold action and remain courageous.
  6. Don’t sabotage yourself by not accepting help if people offer. God meant for the body of Christ to work in unison. You’re not supposed to be able to handle transition alone or do it perfectly by yourself. SUCCESS=> Practice saying yes to people’s invitations and considering the best outcome of what they might be suggesting to you. Think about that! It might go well if you accept their help! Your identity is to be surrounded and supported by trustworthy and encouraging spiritual family during painful transitions. 
  7. Don’t delay or procrastinate. When people don’t know what decision feels right or they don’t know what the will of God is, they delay taking action. Most likely your situation is one most everyone has had to solve. SUCCESS=> Set a timeline for making decisions and consult with someone who has solved this successfully. Ask them to pray with you and make a decision. If you’re asking God in prayer to hear him about this situation, trust him that he will make it clear to you the direction he wants you to take. Execute on what you think is best within the timeline. Trust God with the outcome. Your identity is to break through gates and cut through iron. The gates of hell will not prevail against you the church! 
  8. Don’t use I’m busy, tired, feeling far away from God… as an excuse to bump prayer. Without prayer, you’re not honestly depending on him to guide you. SUCCESS=>Bring your problem to God, read what the word of God has to say about it and then sit and listen. Write down what you believe God spoke to you. Your identity is to be in fellowship, hearing God daily for your next instructions. 
  9. Don’t hide in your house or stay sedentary if you’re super smart. Intellectuals have a tendency to introvert their emotions and over think problems. They exhaust themselves with what if’s! SUCCESS=> Go walking, running, play tennis, pray in tongues while you walk. Do something to sweat and force yourself to process out the heaviness you’re experiencing from your transition. Your identity is to be filled with power in the Holy Ghost and receive supernatural edification for your challenges!
  10. Don’t process your stress with food and alcohol. Food may seem like a comfort, but the wrong kinds of foods just make you feel more cloudy and sluggish. SUCCESS=> Eat as healthy as you can during the transition, and don’t overindulge as that just creates more condemnation for you which doesn’t help! Your identity is to be moderate and model restraint and power under control.

Are you in a difficult transition right now? Leave me a comment below about your specific situation and let me be praying for you!

Faith forward! Bec:)

7 Questions To Help You Discover Your Purpose

Every day I coach people who are desiring to grow into a more significant life. It could be that they have found themselves in an unfortunate place of an unwanted divorce, illness or layoff and they have lost their vision. At times people have built success, but now they are ready to go to the next level. Other times people just feel like they haven’t found their boldest identity zone due to a lack of clarity on how to do that work.

I created the following resource for my team to help them get more clarity on their life purpose and what they are called to leadership-wise. Whether you are a stay at home Mom wanting to bring in some extra money, empty nester, or don’t feel energized by your current vision. If so, this 45-minute audio is going to answer some questions for you so that you can begin to apply yourself in prayer to live the kind of life that is going to fuel you. This is pure training but incredibly powerful if you are ready to do the work to live your best life before God.

Here are some of the result’s you will get from this call:

1. The first question that everyone should ask who is committed to authentic Christian life.

2. The one thing that will keep you balanced and on overflow rather than living in crisis.

3. How to be child-like in faith practically.

4. How to think about your life through a lens of philanthropy and find you’re calling.

5. The one question to ask if you have to raise money fast.

6. Recovering lost success that you’ve forgotten about.

7. Why you want to ask your friends this question to stay in your boldest identity zone.

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I’m Done With Ministry. Are You?

This is a guest post by Anna Latshaw. I followed this up for my Leadership Team with a 60-minute question and answer time by Anna herself. 

I’m Done with Doing Ministry! Are You?

Ministry. What feeling does that word evoke? Is it a dirty word? Are you burned out? Do you feel taken advantage of. Maybe in your heart, you’re even “done” with ministry?

If that is the way you feel, could it be that you have fallen into the trap of doing ministry?

How’s this mindset switch?

What if we were created to not gain a sense of BEING, out of DOING. But to DO out of a sense of BEING?

When we try to do ministry before we know who we are – we will gain identity from ministry and that’s not healthy. Authentic, life-giving ministry flows out of a secure identity, an already established identity, a comprehensive understanding of who we are in Christ.

Eph 2:10 For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand that we would walk in them.

Can you see the order this verse flows in? We are to know: That we have been created by God, in a very intentional and expert manner. That we are empowered by Jesus to do good works. That God has already prepared us for the purpose He has created us for. When that is the case, our good works or ministry will flow out of who we already are and what He has done. Our being!

As John 7:38 says: He who believes in Me, from his innermost BEING will flow rivers of living water”.

As we seek God – to know Him and become more like Him – ministry becomes a natural overflow – not something we do or manufacture. It’s not a title or position – it’s an authentic and continual overflow of our relationship with God.

It’s not contrived and it’s not something we put on & off. Ministry isn’t a compartment of our lives. Our lives minister. We comfort others with the comfort we have received. Out of our bellies flow rivers of living waters. Those who have received much, will give much.

Think about a Rolex watch. A Rolex costs so much money because of the fine craftsmanship that goes into making it. Only watches that meet the highest standards of excellence are worthy to bear the Rolex name. But the minute (excuse the pun) a watch has been branded with a Rolex logo and put onto a shop floor for sale – that watch isn’t trying to earn the credibility of a Rolex. It IS a Rolex. It functions out of the craftsmanship and purpose it was created for. In the same way we are not trying to become children of God, loved and approved by Him, chosen for His purposes and bearing His name. That IS who we already are. Our good works aren’t something we do to gain significance- they flow out of who we are. We are branded by the creator as fully approved and absolutely worthy of His name.

Unfortunately, the problem is that, even in the church we still allow ourselves to be defined by worldly standards. Think about it? How does the world get definition about “who they are”? It’s by what they do! If you were to ask someone to tell you a little bit about themselves – probably the first thing they will mention is what they do – “Well, I am a doctor, or a teacher, or a pastor, etc.”
Every definition of self is typically a reflection of a job, a position, a relationship status, (i.e. husband, wife, single), our talents or hobbies, our accomplishments, our academic success, etc.

If we are to minister to the world – shouldn’t we have a good news message that offers something other than what they already know? “Hey, come join our church, you can come and get your sense of significance by serving in the kids church, or handing out meals to homeless people or leading worship. Come and find out how awesome you are. The more you “do” the more we will pat you on the back and give you bigger titles! Something is wrong with that picture.

No wonder there is an exodus from traditional church. We are not inviting people into a true gospel experience. We are inviting them into works dressed up to look a little more pretty. But it is works and it still equals death.

The good news is – that even if others around you aren’t living out of this sure identity in God. You still can. It’s not that we are to abandon church – but you can take responsibility to ensure you function healthily within it!

We aren’t better Christians because we do more!

For by grace you have been saved through faith; and that not of yourselves, it is the gift of God; not as a result of works, so that no-one may boast. Eph 2:8

It is a lie when we think that ‘doing’ more ministry makes us a “better Christian”. If we understand the finished work of the cross, the wholeness, healing, freedom and righteousness that was attained for us as a free gift by the death & resurrection of Jesus. Then we realize our righteousness is only attained through Jesus. It’s not possible to earn a free gift. It is simply to be received. The moment we truly receive that free gift – our life becomes a ministry. You now have something to offer a broken world. “I was lost but now I am found, I was blind but now I see.”\

Christianity was never supposed to be a more sanctified version of works. It is a radical encounter with a living God, where we discover that we are loved, not because of what we do; That we are successful, not because of what we have achieved; That we are approved of, not by our merit – but because of who God says we are. Because we are His child. Created in His image. And God sent His Son to die for us in order that we can be in relationship with Him & free from the crippling and merciless standards of the world.

Think about Jesus’ ministry. He is our greatest example. He never had a title. He was mostly unrecognized by the organized church. But He knew where he came from and where He was going – John 13:3. He only did what He saw the Father doing – John 5:19. Jesus’ entire ministry flowed out of relationship with God and out of a secure identity. Knowing that He was the Son of God, all power was given to Him and that His purpose was to do the will of God.

It’s as simple as that folks. You are created by God. He lives inside of you and He has empowered you to walk out His purposes for your life. Your life is a ministry. The church or ministry can’t take away from you any of your joy, sense of value or purpose if you don’t give it the power to. The only reason those things can be robbed from you is if you are trying to get those needs met through ministry. If we know our value, our joy is in serving the Lord because of what He has done for us, and our purpose is already established in Christ – ministry becomes an expression of those truths in your life.

Enjoy being who God has created you to be today. Ponder on the reality that you have the living God on the inside of you & go and be a light to the world around you in a way that only you can. And let your river flow!

[guestpost]Anna Latshaw is a daughter of God. Out of that identity, Anna Latshaw currently pastors Dwelling Place Atlanta, a church in Marietta, Georgia that she and her husband Dan have helped plant. She is also a full-time mother of four beautiful girls. Born and raised in England, Anna has had the heart for vulnerable children since she was a child. This passion has led her to actively serve the poor in Atlanta and South Africa and to participate in short-term missions to orphanages in Romania, Russia, and Uganda. After being introduced to Pastor Elijah Sebuchu, Anna founded Hands of Love USA in May of 2007. Through her fundraising efforts, the second Hands of Love orphanage and school in Kiteezi, Uganda was begun.[/guestpost]

The Transformation Offer

In step two you have caught the attention of your potential client (read that here), and they have either signed up for a free offer you have extended to them or purchased inexpensive training. (under $25.00). You’re now at the transformation offer where you are going to share an opportunity for them to experience your core BOLD IDENTITY zones.

Your bold identity zone is the ONE or TWO things you do best that create the best results for people. It’s the unique gift that separates you from other people in your field. For example, I have two main places where people can receive profound transformation from me. That is either in a personal coaching program where I can listen and help them put a system in place for the next phase of influence, or it’s on my Leadership Team where I take them step by step how to practically break of limiting mindsets and build their first $25,000 from scratch.

Typically, the transformation stage is the one that people get to experience what God has anointed you to do (in the way he’s sent you). People can read your blogs, they can join you for free teleconferences, watch you speak or follow you on social media but I don’t see people receive lasting transformation until they either commit to personal coaching or they get accountability in a team environment.

So essentially, this is where you give your customer an opportunity to be personally mentored by you which is a deeper relationship. This is also where I begin to get prayer burdens for people. This is because I am completely focused on their business needs, their marriage, their family and how to help them overcome what they have hired me to equip them in.

So let’s call the transformation offer, “business-discipleship”. A great funnel for a ministry for a faith-based business should begin with catching people’s attention that can help them solve a practical problem. This means you have to learn how to talk about things people are struggling to address without mammon like hype, religious jargon or making them feel like they are not measuring up.

Jay and I are currently attending Woodstock Church which is an extension of Andy Stanley’s Northpoint church. Every sermon I turn to my husband and say if God ever graces me to communicate as well as this man I will die a happy woman. Here is how Andy breaks down each sermon into one-point messages.

  • Me (How do I struggle with this?)
  • We (How do we all struggle with this?)
  • God (What does the Bible say about this?)
  • You (What should you do about this?)
  • We (How can we all live this out together?)

I have always tried to follow this system because I have seen it work without me having to say=> Buy, buy, buy… you’re going to miss out FOREVER, buy now…you’re going to turn into an embarrassment for your family if you don’t buy my product, you won’t make a million dollars…don’t you want to be a millionaire?). Holy cow. Watch people do this, it’s standard practice with marketers, and it grows businesses but manipulating people’s emotions like that is not consistent with how the Holy Spirit works.

I do share one pain point per video or blog that I have struggled to overcome. I take a bit of time describing this emotionally because people often think they are the only person in the world who has that problem. I show people this is a common challenge for most. When I am writing a blog or doing training, I will say something like, if you have this challenge, here is what I can help you solve it. If it’s a leadership issue, I give them the scriptural context behind it. If it’s business, I just show them how this can help them serve people better. I typically direct people towards my team because:

A. It helps people see if coaching is right for them without plunking down 5,000.00 to see if they know how to execute!  I have grown through stewardship and taking daily small actions.

B. My team is an entirely built in a step-by-step training to take them through identifying sabotaging patterns and then exactly how to overcome them.

C. They have the opportunity to get prayer accountability and feedback in a super safe environment overseen by me.

On my blogs, I provide a link people can follow to sign up for the team or personal coaching. On the first page of the sign-up, I have a system in place to capture their email without asking for payment. If they don’t go to the next step, I have a system in place that asks them if I can answer any questions for them. I often will have numbers of people just take that point to personally email me what they have going on, make sure I think the program will solve their problem and then the next day they usually sign up. When they do, they are now in the transformation stage being aligned for the best connection for their success.

Here’s what I love about systems. They are scaleable. And because I have homeschooled, church planted with a team, worked a job in the middle of that and parented four children who are two years apart…I understand at a significant level how to grow without having a nervous breakdown. I can put 30 people into my teams, or I can put 300. I could put 3,000 people in with just adding moderators. I would do no more extra work on the front end. I still would pray the same and still serve the same. That my friend is why you want to do the work to build a grace-filled sales funnel.

So many times people don’t realize they are holding themselves back because they are afraid of getting too big. If you feel stressed today with what you have, I guarantee you are holding yourself back unconsciously! Join my free community or read the next step in my series on how to take your clients to the next level of investment easily!

Faith Forward! Love, Bec:)

The Difference Between A Vain Imagination And A Kingdom Vision

There is a big difference between a vain dream that glorifies the flesh and an authentic kingdom vision.

A Kingdom Vision Vs. A Worldly Vision

A Carnal or Selfish Vision Will~Reflect what the world values which is sexual power, money, and fame. It will require you to conform to this in your dress, speech, and actions.  For example, if you believe God has promoted you in the entertainment industry,  your job is to adhere to biblical standards with boldness. This will give you an opportunity to express why you will not take actions in your dress or speech that do not glorify God. This is so others may be convicted by the righteousness of Christ within you.  If you feel like you will not be able to be hired or keep your job if you do not do what is required to maintain it, then you need mentoring to birth more courage, or you need to immediately quit and trust God for provision. Authentic promotion does not sabotage your own faith or cause other’s to stumble for your “liberty or favor.” Duck Dynasty is a great example of this. They have grown from a simple business, then to a cable show to a multi-million dollar empire. Their simple dinner time blessing reaches millions yearly.

A Godly Vision Or Dream Will~ Take the existing gifts and talents you have already and grow them into results that will benefit others. Even though you are persecuted, rejected, suffer loss financially or oppressed for a season you will be able to stay consistent serving, and people will be convicted by your steadfastness, your courage, and your faith. Think of Joseph in the Old Testament, Joyce Meyers starting in her living room and local church and Chick-Filet for business. They started out with one yummy chicken sandwich, opened a location, close on Sundays are completely militant about their core beliefs and faith. And they grow every time they are boycotted for it:)

A Carnal Dream Or Delusion Will~ Not come to pass and will confuse people scripturally. One of the first questions to ask anyone who wants to give you input for your life or vision is if they believe Jesus Christ is the only way, the truth, and the light. If the answer is yes, but….then you don’t listen to one more statement. It’s not Jesus + or – anything. Secondly, people who are suffering with narcissism or under religious deception are not able to clearly articulate the results they can provide within a reasonable amount of time.  They can be great speakers and very persuasive, but they won’t have testimonials or results that can be tested over time and that you can see the fruit from.  They will have the endless talk about what they believe God has called them to with no result’s that ever come out of it which is characteristic of vain imaginations. Vain imaginations are grandiose and seldom practical. Like, Hey, that makes sense. The next step is to tell people we can help them produce this, this and this. Third, if God has spoken to you, then what you said you were going to do happens within a short time span, and it glorifies Christ. It’s just that simple. If you keep hearing God tell you to do something over and over and you can’t get provision for it, then consider you’re either not hearing God, or you need to move in a different direction. Provision always follows compelling Christ-like vision.

A Godly Vision Or Dream Will~ Give you the endurance to overcome the pain and obstacles you will require seeing it come to pass. For example, my youngest son Joe is in Bootcamp for the Marines. When he joined, he was willing to endure the drill sergeant screaming at him 24 hours a day, the endless physical fatigue, swim test, gas chamber and lastly the crucible at the end which includes a complete test of mental toughness. His platoon will hike 48 miles, with 45lbs of gear, full 29 team building obstacles courses, with only two meals and 6 hours of sleep. When they are done, they will be handed their Marine pin. And here’s the thing, he’s submitted himself to this process because he has a vision of WHO HE WILL BECOME IDENTITY WISE AT THE END OF this process. If you don’t have a clear and compelling vision for your life that FUELS you, when you encounter hardship you give in because pain is to be avoided, not embraced on your road to significance. Again, this seems simple, but you can create a vision that fuels you regardless of how untalented or how little money you have because God promotes through stewardship!

What are your thoughts? Faith forward, Love, Bec:)

Where Are You On The Grit Scale?

This is a guest post by Business Strategiest, Beverly Lewis. I followed this blog up with a private question/answer time with my Leadership Team.

Unintimidatable. Now there’s a $50 word. It has popped up numerous times as I have reflected on the nuances of mental toughness.

Intimidatable means being reduced to a state where the spirit is broken or courage is lost.

Thus unintimidatable implies strength of mind in the face of forces that would disrupt, distract, and deter. It defines an unwillingness to give in to a sense of inferiority or back down. It is the relentless ability to maintain vision, faith, and optimism. It results in the achievement of goals and the accomplishment of dreams.

Mental toughness can’t be bottled, bought, or borrowed. You only come by it the hard way – you develop it. Psychologist Angela Duckworth conducted fascinating research about what she calls the “Grit Scale.” Grit has little to do with IQ, genetics, personality or talent – yet it is a strong predictor of success
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Duckworth studied thousands of people; ranging from West Point cadets to undergraduate students at elite universities to children who qualified as finalists in the Scripps National Spelling Competition. She calls grit the power of passion and perseverance. Another researcher, Stanford University psychologist Carol Dweck, states, “Attitude is more important than IQ in determining success.”

It is fascinating how often modern scientists often announce breakthrough research that is technological validation of timeless Truth. When it comes to grit, look at the lives of Moses, Abraham, Joseph, David, Paul, and ultimately Jesus. The Hall of Faith is filled with those who displayed all the characteristics of mental toughness. The formula for mental toughness is basic:

No discomfort = no growth.
No pushing = no toughness.

One day, while sweating it out at the gym, I noticed someone’s t-shirt that said, “It doesn’t ever get easier, you just get stronger.” That’s true of every aspect of life and brings us to the importance of developing your physical stamina. Successnotsabotage Coach, Becky Harmon, has always taught clients to pair physical training with spiritual and mental development for remarkable results. I’ve known Becky for years, and for a long time I, resisted her continuous challenges to train for a race. As I struggled in the process of writing my book, Becky threw down the gauntlet and said, “if you’re serious about obtaining this victory, it’s time to run.” I was finally ready to listen and began training for a half-marathon.

I am certain it is not coincidental that I finished my book the month after I completed the race. Was it tough? Absolutely. Did I love the process? Absolutely not. Was it worth it? Unequivocally – yes!!
The battlefield of the mind is where grit is refined. Grit is a fundamental quality of leaders and is developed through a disciplined thought life. Mental toughness is the ability to remain consistent and produce at the peak of your ability despite feelings of inadequacy and lack. It means you finish what you start.

Five Indicators of Mental Toughness:

  • You have an ability to absorb unexpected emotional peaks and valleys and are still able to have peace and humor in the midst of it.
  • You maintain integrity under pressure and sustain a powerful fighting spirit against seemingly impossible odds.
  • You have an ability to take a punch emotionally and bounce back quickly from disappointments, rejection and missed opportunities.
  • You understand the power of words in influencing your own behavior and take negative thoughts captive. (See 2 Corinthians 10:5)
  • You have the discipline to choose what you want most over what you want now.

Just as pearls are formed inside the shell of certain mollusks as a defense mechanism against a potentially threatening irritant, grit is developed in response to adversity. The result is unique and valuable.

Pearl has become a metaphor for something rare, fine, admirable and precious. Mental toughness is a pearl in the strand of leadership qualities necessary for success. The next time you encounter resistance, remember: No Grit, No Pearls. Be unintimidatable.

[guestpost]Beverly Lewis is an Executive Trainer, Speaker and Leadership Coach. She is the CEO (Chief Encouragement Officer) of BeverlySpeaks.com. Strong teams, enduring relationships, and dynamic, healthy organizations are built when this energetic business catalyst brings her brand of business from the heart. Her first book, Win From Within: The Heart of Success and Significance is born out of 35 years of work with over 10,000 professionals, in-depth research on leadership, communication, and lessons from her entrepreneurial ventures.[/guestpost]

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