Men: 3 Keys To Gain More Respect In Your Marriage

If you are married to a strong woman who does not always see things eye to eye with you, there are practical things you can do to make your wife feel more secure in your leadership in times of transition or tension.

Ephesians 5:25-33 The Message

Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church~ a love marked by giving, not getting. Christ’s love makes the church whole. His words evoke her beauty. EVERYTHING he DOES AND SAYS is designed to bring the BEST out of her, dressing her in dazzling white silk, radiant with holiness. And that his how husbands ought to love their wives. They’re doing themselves a favor`since they’re already “one” in marriage. No one abuses his body, does he? No, he feeds and PAMPERS it. That’s how Christ treats us, the church since we are part of the body.

3 Keys To Make Your Wife Respect YOUR Leadership

  1. When you go to make a decision that you think your wife will have a different opinion on, do this: Pray for this ~ Father, I am trying to make the best decision I can, but I want you to know I am open to doing it differently. Ask him to confirm to you through your wife if this is a right direction. Then go to your wife, and tell her I HAVE BEEN PRAYING ABOUT THIS and I WANT YOUR THOUGHTS ON THIS. This is going to produce multiple things for you as a leader. First, your wife is going to feel more secure that you’re praying about decisions that impact her and the kids. Second, she’s going to feel valued that you had asked her opinion before you plowed ahead.
  2. If she disagrees with a decision, tell her: Thank you, I hadn’t seen that side of it, I am going to go back to God now (or talk to another leader about this before executing) and see if this is the right decision. The biggest mistakes are made when you are isolated, you have no male friends to run any resolution’s by and you’re trying to lead into new territory with no “intel” (you’re not reading books on the topic/talking to your sources who might know the region better or otherwise you’re just hoping you’re going to be successful with literally no training, preparation or advanced weaponry (prayer). If men looked at their marriages and families with a military perspective, they would be much more willing to get additional support in difficult seasons in their family.
  3. Take ownership of the results in your marriage and your family. This isn’t just a wedding tip though it will make your wife BRAG on your leadership, it’s a business teaming tip. Leadership means YOU OWN THE RESULTS no matter what happened or what goes wrong. That’s why most people don’t build successful long-term visions. It’s not your wife’s fault, it’s not your kid’s fault. It’s not the ministry or business team that was not cooperating or rebellious. It’s your ability to pray and lead effectively. Everything rises and falls on your leadership. Leadership is being willing to be evaluated, taking ownership when things go wrong without shift blaming and changing your style if what you’re doing isn’t working. You don’t need a year to examine your results. Sometimes Jay and I could see results from a decision in 2 days, sometimes two months. Jay has always been willing to change what isn’t working which had made me trust him more even during times when things seemed like they were going south.

Bottom line. We don’t want to be ordinary Christian leaders. We want to finish strong and win the war our culture is in. To win, you’re going to have to be willing to be different which is why I create communities. Need support to grow your leadership? Join my Leadership Team, your spouse receives a membership for no extra cost.

Love, Bec:)

Becky Harmon is the founder and CEO of Successnotsabotage Coaching, located outside Atlanta, Ga. Gifted with a strong teaching and training mission, she has coached, spoken and ministered throughout the United States and overseas. She is a sought-after identity coach and speaker and has authored more than six books. Whether training on how to apply your identity in Christ, pray and break people out of victimization thinking, or multiply your influence authentically, Becky equips Christians for a demonstration of practical power. She transitions pastors, churches and marketplace leaders, into new identities and impact in their sphere of influence. No matter how stuck you have been, Becky will show you how to begin to use what the enemy sabotaged you with for the glory of God.

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