Many Christians confuse God-given confidence with pride because honestly, can I say this? Sometimes we struggle with false humility. It’s important that you don’t miss opportunities to help someone receive results because you are worried that people will think your arrogant.
Here’s a practical example. You have been asking God for favor, and someone shares with you a problem they are trying to solve. This is an area of your life where God has built a message in you. You struggled with that bondage, the Lord gave you breakthrough and you know deep down you have spiritual authority in this area. But you hold back. Many times when I am coaching people on developing their messages and growing their faith-based business, it’s because they don’t know the difference between narcissism and authentic Godly confidence. Remember, even David was accused by his brothers for being prideful when he just merely articulated what God had helped him overcome and how he would do the same with Goliath.
Remember, spiritual warfare always comes to attack your faith in God’s ability and the identity you reproduce in others.
So, let’s talk about what real self-promotion is in action as opposed to Godly confidence. Because typically individuals who engage in me, me, me~ do not receive the fruit of deep respect and honor that they are looking for. They usually get the opposite; they feel like they never arrive, judgment from others and disrespect because the glory of God is extended by common consent. People also can sense if you’re confidence comes from some people who have received transformation authentically or because you have a vacation to fund. (Can we just be real?) When you share how you serve and then get OFFENDED if people don’t move forward with you, then you’re under a spirit of Mammon which partners with pride. Godly confidence does not take offense or try to manipulate others into doing what they want to see done.
What I typically have to coach clients through, especially if they grew up in a shame-based or fear-based thinking home, is that they are not comfortable with being the person who creates tension. They were either raised in an environment where everyone was passive-aggressive, or they were intimidated when they showed initiative or strength. But here’s the bottom line if you ever want to multiply the message God has given you! In order to move people towards freedom, they have to be illuminated at times to the pain they are in, the results that
To move people towards independence, they have to be illuminated at times to the pain they are in, the results that their choices are producing for them and you have to be the one to challenge them to embrace the work new breakthrough entails. How you know if God is sending YOU to be the one to set them free is it’s an area you have struggled and received RESURRECTION LIFE. See friend; you’re not responsible as the messenger for their choice to accept the work God has for them. Your responsibility is to boldly communicate how you serve and how you can help them solve that problem.
Often times people either receive a “no” as rejection they internalize as WHO they are IDENTITY-WISE, or they feel the tension that is coming to them because underlying the whole interaction, the person wants to take bold action, they want to get the result’s you have produced in your life or others, but they are struggling with the fear of failure. That’s why they have to CHOOSE OFFENSE! In the spirit realm, you are feeling in the conversation the doubt and unbelief and how they mask that in jealousy or putting you down. Honestly, if they didn’t choose to be offended, they would have to decide to repent for fear and accept faith. Most people are not that healthy, intuitive enough or practiced in the presence of God enough to discern doubt and unbelief that fast.
In a nutshell:
1. Never hold back your message and the overcoming work God has done in your life or how you can solve people’s problems with your programs. I was sharing this with someone I prayed with today. Mammon is part of ministries and marketplace businesses. You can discern it by the lack of generosity, trust, and manipulation that people feel around the giving or the transaction. When you’re fueled by excellent service, you will be thankful you invested the money and had the faith to believe for a significant return and impact. Charging in business for your service (even if it’s faith-based) is not greedy just as if being in ministry and running a 501c makes you immune from making poor financial decisions. It’s the motive and results people get from interacting with you. If you’re excellent at what you do, your ministry or business will grow as you faithfully steward it.
2. Know precisely what results people will receive from your product or program. You should have minimally three apparent results.
3. Be ready at all times to have something going on you can invite people to or capture their information on email so you can follow up. Without this, you’re going to miss opportunities to help people receive transformation.
Becky Harmon is an identity coach, intercessor and business leader. Her success in these arenas has placed her in demand as a personal advisor to ministry and marketplace leaders world-wide. Her personal experience of growing up in an alcoholic home, struggling with how to overcome food & alcohol addictions, depression, and financial sabotages through her identity in Christ rather than self-help, led her to develop her own out of the box coaching systems. To discover the specific attacks that accompany each part of your walk with Christ and the strategies you can implement to be an overcomer, order 4 Phases of Spiritual Warfare. Available on Amazon and Kindle.