Desperation: The Key To Courage

Here’s the truth. Everyone has reached a point in time where they are desperate for change. They have either gotten tired of feeling limited or maybe there was a crisis of faith moment that was forced upon them. We all want to act in a way that is consistent with WHO we want to become or the goals we set for ourselves. So it’s very sabotaging if we say we want to launch a business or a ministry but then when we are given an invitation to learn the steps we have to take to do it successfully, we create excuses to delay our “suddenly season”.  It’s important to understand where this choice is made and how God provides financially for you to be enlarged.

Your old identity is who you were before you accepted Christ and unless it’s renewed through the word of God, prayer, and executing FAST~it will keep you from enjoying all the blessings and favor God has for you. It requires WORK to be enlarged and does not come through spiritual impartations. You cannot have someone lay hands on you or pray for you to have a work ethic. That’s something you have to dig down deep and cultivate because you are willing to do WHATEVER IT TAKES to be successful with the vision God has given you. This drive has always come to me when I felt like I was desperate, in a wilderness season, and honestly when I felt like I was on survival mode. There is never much provision when you’re in a transition, which is why it takes FAITH!

Through the cross you have been seated with the Christ and sit high above every principality and power that seeks to oppress or limit you. However, it takes time for your mind, soul and body to be renewed to the point where you develop a vision and purpose for your life that is significant. It takes time to learn the leadership and business skills necessary to run a profitable business or impactful ministry.  Without discipleship or mentoring, you simply don’t know how to develop the discipline (unless you had parents model Lordship to you)  that is required to push back the spiritual warfare you came under the moment you received Christ.

Here’s an example: Peter came to me because he had a desire to grow an online training program. He was frustrated with feeling all this potential but he was surrounded by people who were minimizing his confidence. He had a lack of vision and BELIEF that if he took the time to craft a fulfilling vision, he would even stay consistent enough to finish what he started. He said things like this to himself:

  • I would love to feel like I could impact people and grow my own coaching programs but I just can’t seem to get my head on straight and be consistent.
  • (After I spoke to him about getting disciplined with his physical identity) If I could find someone to work out at the gym with me, I would be successful. I keep asking people but no one will be committed to do it with me.
  • I’m pretty ADHD. I get overwhelmed and distracted. I’ve always been like this.

Peter is under spiritual warfare and seriously under-estimating the amount of tension he is getting from having a vision that will impact people spiritually! AND he is stuck in an old identity. I started Peter out on the steps he needed to take EVERY SINGLE DAY to move out of passivity and into asserting WHO he was a leader. We start by leading ourselves out of the wilderness and out of survival mode.

Where does these mindsets and choices come from? Sometimes from generational curses that can be broken off of you by someone who walks in authority. Maybe passivity was modeled to you. Many times it comes from things significant people in your life have told you that you have RECEIVED as truth, like…you would lose your head if it weren’t attached. You will never amount to anything. More often, the Lord just wants you to get to the place where your so miserable with a vision, you will step out in faith to stop caring about what people think and do what God told you to do! 

In addition, the enemy is crafty. He knows our weaknesses and then prompts people to reenforce what we fear. After you receive Christ, you can actually get more of this! When I walked him through the steps he needed to take daily to BECOME the kind of individual he wanted to be, his friends and family began to ask him if he had started on medication he was such a different person!

Your old identity is attached to very strong feelings of fear, rejection from people you want to please and what you believe is possible or not possible for you. It is deep down in your soul and the enemy has had time to reinforce what he wants you to believe with numerous life experiences. Once you have experienced a fear repeatedly, it has the potential to become your reality and DEFINE where you go in the future despite all your desire to want a different outcome.

I remember a time in my life where I was considering (and praying) investing time and money into becoming a public speaker. I shared that goal with a significant person in my life and they said to me, “Becky, why would you want to do that? You’re not a speaker, you’re a behind the scenes person as an intercessor”. The truth? I was a behind the scenes person at one time but God was trying to position me to be able to communicate at a higher level for what I would be doing today. The fear of speaking in groups was deeply rooted in me because of how many times I had been publicly shamed as a child in front of people.  (A year later, I made the top sales team in a job I had no experience for simply because I had learned to do presentations when I was fearful). This is why it is so important for you to learn a map for renewing your mind. I experienced the same thing Peter did, when you become focused and bold about the things you set your hands to, it creates a tension for the people who are familiar with the “old you”! I constantly had people tell me, ” You look different!” It is amazing what courage does for your appearance!

In Christ, you have the opportunity to co-create a powerful life with God. Results that are beautiful, influential and deeply satisfying to you. You have the choice to move from sabotage to SUCCESS. Unbelief to FAITH. However, it will not begin until you become uncomfortable enough to risk by creating new HABITS you have built of failure into habits of success. SUCCESSFUL habits will always point you towards faith and a future hope. Sabotaging habits will always remind you of past failures and keep you stuck in an old identity based on limiting beliefs.

Remember who you are today and share with me one realistic goal you could accomplish next year if you had the support you needed. Would it be starting a business? Becoming a speaker? Coach? Who would you become? 

3 Tips For Keeping Momentum Through Chaos

What makes the difference between success and sabotage in overcoming chaos? Perseverance.

Often times it isn’t the most talented individual or the person with the most money who is successful, it’s the person who simply will not quit and keeps investing into their vision by FAITH!  I believe one of the things that enables us to persevere to the end of a vision, through chaotic seasons, is simply coming to a place where our natural strength is gone and we have to ask God to give us a supernatural faith to finish. The enemy comes to steal, kill and destroy so you must guard you daily prayer time and your faith in Christ. Here’s a quick way to discern how to persevere through a trial.

FAITH will always be future oriented. It gives you an expected hope and end. FEAR will remind you of where you failed, who you can’t trust, why you can’t move forward due to lack and why you can’t be successful.

Here’s what you need to know about starting and finishing your vision. You will have moments when you’re exhausted and you’re ready to quit. That is the time you have to pray and ask God to ignite you for the sake of others.  I try never to put my hand to something that is all about me because I know myself. I will quit. However, if I am serving others, I will always finish because I am motivated by love.

It makes no difference whether you want to lose 50 pounds or speak for Christ.  These principles apply.

  1. Become militantly aware of your thoughts.

This is the first battleground and where most people fail. Satan will always inject a fear-based thought that you think is your own and if you don’t reject it immediately, he will grow it. Here are some of mine from literally two hours ago.

  • I feel fuzzy and unclear.  (overwhelm)
  • I am too old for horses. I don’t have what it takes to train a high energy horse. I am going to get seriously injured. (steal my joy)

Do you think any of those thoughts were from the Lord? Hmmm. Nope. I said out loud to all of them. I do not receive this thought.

2.    Believe God wants to give you victory and your footsteps and circumstances are ordered by him even thought they feel completely overwhelming.  

When you see the compassion and works of Christ, you know he is simply reflecting his Father. Your Father wants to heal. He wants to provide. He wants to bring mercy where there is judgment. HE IS A GOOD DAD! When you fail, you simply run back to your Dad and ask for forgiveness and that you can yield to the work he wants to do in your life. When you have trouble, turmoil and challenges, go to the Lord and say this:

Lord Jesus, I accept all you bring by your hand. The sabotages and the successes. However, if this trial is from Satan, I resist it and I ask you Lord to illuminate to me in prayer if this a demonic attack. Learn how to pray and take patterns and repetitive challenges into prayer with you. God will show you if it is an obstacle that he has brought to conform you to the image of Christ or if it is from the pit of hell and you are to resist, pray and stand strong until he flees. Most of what you will deal with will be oppression not discipline from God.

3.    Plan on sharing your testimony with others. Today because you can’t be a victim and a victor at the same time. 

We have overcome through the blood of the lamb and the word of our testimony. Revelation 12:11

Always tell the Lord in prayer that you can’t wait to share this victory story with others. The enemy wants to suffocate and restrict, he loves pity. Loves painting you as a victim because it detracts from your sonship/daughtership in Christ! When people ask you how you are doing, or how things are going, ALWAYS SHARE something God has done to move your forward rather than what is lacking. Even in the midst of a fiery trial, this will keep you full of faith. If people ask you how they can pray, share with them that you want prayer that your faith will stay activated and passionate and that God’s will be done. You will see tremendous increase in your life from declaring the praises of God DURING the battle and what God is going to do for you AHEAD. Remember David and Goliath!

Meet me in the comments and let me know what God is currently doing for you! #victornotvictim



The Root Of Not Being Able To Build A New Identity

I want to begin by sharing with you that you’re not broken and you’re not crazy. There are a couple reason’s why you haven’t been able to discover your purpose and step into a new identity but it’s not because you’re not able to. After coaching thousands of people I can safely tell you that most people understand how much spiritual warfare they are under and how militant they have to be to get free. Most of the time people make excuses which leads to more delay and passivity in overcoming their challenges.

The kingdom of God is ASSERTIVE in nature and until you are ready to let go of excuses, God does not give you the GRACE to grow into a new identity. The Holy Spirit is poured out in FULLNESS in response to faith and repentance.

In today’s video, I give you some thought processes that I discovered hindered me and if you grew up in an addiction based environment than this is where OLD MINDSETS and IDENTITY’S come from. The statistics say up to 50% and more of the church have grown up in a dysfunctional or shame-based home. Once you are able to recognize the old identity and spiritual warfare, you can now begin to apply yourself to overcoming it. There are 5 points I break down more specifically in this video:

  • Hiding  
  • Surrounding yourself with partners and staff who enable you and won’t require bold actions from you 
  • Narcissism and lack of boundaries 
  • Surrounding yourself with people who are victims
  • Disposable relationships

Watch the video and I will meet you in the comment section! Love, love, Bec:)


Are You On Survival Mode? Tips For Thriving

My overall mission is to help you take the places in your life that the enemy meant to DESTROY you and show you how to use your identity to kick him in the hinderparts so you can transform lives for Christ!

In every conversation that I have with a client or friend who is hurting, I want to activate their faith to believe God for resurrection power and then take IMMEDIATE action. When we have real biblical faith we take action. Without that, we have a powerless religion and no demonstration of Christ on our lives. 

When you begin to see what God will do for you with just these two simple strategies, you will find He delights to enlarge you to share your story on how you overcame. 

Some of you have a strong calling for ministry, speaking, coaching, writing your own books and the enemy wants to keep you in survival mode so you don’t accomplish the purpose God has given you! Don’t let him! Watch today’s video and learn what you can do to move out of this state within a very short amount of time. 

Love, Bec:) 


Spiritual Warfare Or Discipline From God?

I remember a time in my life where I would tell people I must be the most loved woman on the planet because all I got night and day from the Lord was discipline. The truth was I was pretty rebellious when I came to the Lord, and it took me a while to learn how to trust God the Father that he had my best intentions in mind when he brought something to my attention he wanted to work on. This is why doing identity work is imperative if you want to break out of poverty mentalities and fulfill your purpose. 

As I began to learn how to be an overcomer,  more ministry opportunities opened up, and I started to have an impact in the kingdom through my prayers and actions. As this happened, I began to get TREMENDOUS spiritual warfare. If you don’t know how to recognize the difference, you will feel held back and unclear in your identity.


1. You are making a stand for righteousness in your family, work or community where you have to put healthy boundaries into place where there have been none.
2. You are being persecuted because you have preached Christ rather than self-help, new age doctrines or idolatry. You are actively praying and speaking to people about receiving Christ and getting tension for it.
3. You are declaring Christ in regions of the world that are closed to the gospel.
4. You are in the process of getting delivered from worldly lust like addictions, mammon or witchcraft. (yes, witchcraft, satanic cults and all those things we don’t like to talk about are real and produce spiritual warfare when you come out of it) Breaking out of curses, rebellion can also cause spiritual warfare.

The discipline of the Lord comes when he has given you an instruction, and you are not yielding to the Holy Spirit. Often God is attempting to form a testimony in your life and create a healthy fear and respect for you so that he can BLESS and answer your prayers to send you with POWER. His discipline gets harder and harder when you don’t listen to the Holy Spirit convicting you first and then the people he put in your life to guard you. Here are a couple of ways I have experienced the discipline of the Lord and got my chain yanked. 


1. The Lord point blank told me to stop watching horror movies, and it took a very scary spiritual situation to open my eyes. Never watched another horror movie after the Holy Spirit disciplined me.
2. The Lord told me through a close friend that I was seeking affirmation (in idolatry) from leaders, and I didn’t listen because I was so wrapped up in people pleasing. I experienced a very embarrassing public situation.
3. The Lord asked me to stop arguing with people and just pray. It was more important to me to right than be in the relationship. The Lord let me experience many broken friendships, and anxiety until I realized I didn’t have to defend myself he would.
4. God told me to block time to step out of ministry and into prayer and life coaching. I kept hesitating, and I got convicted and anxious. I was scared of FAILURE, but when I finally repented for not trusting God and obeyed, I began to have peace and prosper.

Need more prayer support on how to become an overcomer, accountability from a prayer partner? Training on how to apply your identity in Christ to everyday obstacles so you can be sent to serve with a powerful testimony? That’s what we dig down and cultivate for you in my private Leadership Team. Join and receive the personal mentoring you need to be equipped and released today!

Faith forward! Love, Bec:)


13 Tips To Combat FEAR Without Meds

Are you struggling with a distracting level of fear? Then you’re in a battle. When you are in a fight, in order to win, you have to become strategic about WINNING once and for all. If you are a Christian, you have an extra arsenal at your disposal. Your identity in Christ!

Even though your salvation is instant, the process to become an overcomer requires TRAINING. Here’s a little cheat sheet I made up for when you’re dealing with fear and need some practical steps on how to overcome it.

Be as militant about solving fear at the roots because the enemy is committed to your bondage.

Approach Fear With A Life Or Death Militancy

1. Get up at 5 am with coffee and start reading the word to activate faith. Ask God for more courage, declare your identity in Christ over yourself. Speak specific scriptures.
2. Walk fast or run for 1 hour and listen to your favorite worship music. Worship is WARFARE that confuses the enemy.
3. Eat a protein every 21/2 hours to keep blood sugar stable. Fatigue creates double-mindedness.
4. Call a friend to agree with me in prayer that you will be an overcomer in this area and Christ will have a testimony that glorifies himself.
5. Do not talk about this fear with anyone else after committing it to prayer and with a friend. Rehearsing what may happen does nothing but saturate your body with anxiousness.
6. When realizing you are visualizing a bad outcome, just redirect thoughts an out-loud quote a scripture that will give you courage. (Jesus didn’t think answers to the devil, he spoke the word out-loud. It’s a sword, use it.)
7. Avoid negative, critical people, any TV programs or movies that are fear based or reflect people becoming victimized.
8. Pray and ask God for a solution to this challenge. When you get ANY idea’s, act on them immediately. Evaluate outcome and lean in the direction of anything that took you one step closer to victory.
9. Think of two or three friends that you respect in this area that have been over-comers. Ask them for their best tips. Even if you tried it already, do it again with faith.
10. During the day, pause internally and just acknowledge the presence of Christ. He is with you, he never leaves you or will abandon you. Just inwardly drawing near will give you more peace.
11. Get out in sunshine for 1 hour a day; Vitamin D elevates your mood.
12. Get a good night sleep and try to resist sugar. Run to God and try not to medicate with food or alcohol. It only gives temporary relief rather than God’s peace which will point to him.
13. If people ask you how you are doing, tell them that you expect the best and describe what you are hoping happens. Make sure to smile when you share where you are going in faith! This is not fake it till you make it, this is SPEAKING order to the chaos. (Genesis 1)

Do you need more training or support? Coaching is pro-active and result oriented. This course is a low-cost way to invest in growing more clarity, confidence and success. 

Love, Bec:)

How To Pray And Bless Your Enemies Practically

Today, I want to share with you how to pray for the people that are causing you to feel bitter and resentful.

Why do we want to do this? Well first, unforgiveness will kill your clarity and every bit of purpose you are called to. It’s SPIRITUAL WARFARE that has to be overcome by PRAYER.

I have been betrayed. Disappointed. Let down. But every single time the enemy came in to steal my peace and my hope…like a FLOOD the spirit of God lifted up a standard, and I was promoted. I believe this in part was due to what I am going to share with you today so listen, this is one of the best tips I have for you if you feel stuck in past conflicts and relational traumas.

You’re going to pray very specifically and consistently for this person. I tell people to pray for a year if necessary on a daily basis. Many times we just give people platitudes that are generic and don’t bring them to the personal pain and suffering in the cross. It’s reasonable Christianity to pray for those who mistreat and persecute you unjustly.

Everything you want in your own life and need RIGHT NOW, you’re going to pray for them to receive a powerful blessing. Here’s some I have helped clients work through. I learned this by implementing it and seeing the results in my own life. This works SO POWERFULLY you’ll be amazed by the freedom and joy you feel after a very short time. I have even written out prayers for my clients with these issues.

  1. Bitter Divorce. You’re going to pray financial provision that is abundant for this individual. That their heart heals from the abandonment, they have felt. You’re going to pray against any assignment of rejection coming against them. You’re going to pray that God sends them a new spouse that is under Lordship and parents out of a revelation of feeling deep love and highly favored by God.
  2. You got fired. You’re going to pray that God sends the leadership team or your ex-boss fabulous, spirit-filled employees who are on fire for God and walk in authority. You’re going to pray a financial blessing on the whole company. That their business will explode with profits and they will run the company with integrity.
  3. You have family that is addicted to… That the Lord will bless them with a long life and great peace. That he provides money for them and they use that to make right choices. That they know how to receive and give God’s abundant love and be sent to serve others out of their own overcoming message. That the Lord uses for good what the enemy means to destroy them with.
  4. You’ve been molested or sexually traumatized. You’re going to pray for this individual that they receive the love of Christ. That they can break free from the shame, guilt, and condemnation that they are under and that they receive a revelation of their identity in Christ. That they find good friends that help them safe, forgiven and free. That they can walk in wholeness in their sexuality.

And here’s the thing, praying like this will KILL your flesh, and you will walk under the PROMOTION of God. Any thoughts to add? Meet me in the comments below and let’s talk about it!

Accountability Partners

When I have a client come to me for private coaching, one of the first questions I ask them is if they have anyone in their life they are accountable to. The truth is most people do not have any good experiences with accountability done rightly! You see, in order to grow your identity in Christ, you need to be mentored by spiritual mother’s and fathers and also have sisters and brothers in Christ who hold you accountable for the vision God has given you to accomplish in the earth.

They avoid it because they are afraid of being “found out” that they are failures or other negative outcomes that maybe they saw someone else experience. You see, in order to grow your identity in Christ, you need to be mentored by spiritual mother’s and fathers and also have sisters and brothers in Christ who hold you accountable for the vision God has given you to accomplish in the earth. You see, the number one way to push through spiritual warfare is through unity in prayer!

Here are some challenges my clients have pushed through using accountability and action!

  • A lack of personal discipline
  • Sloppy eating patterns
  • Fitness and weight goals
  • Addictions and other compromising patterns
  • Marriage Difficulties
  • Financial chaos
  • Social awkwardness or rejection that leads to isolating themselves
  • Parenting challenges

If you are confused constantly, fighting the same battles over and over, then you need to develop a focused plan and ask someone to hold you accountable to stay on track to finish what you start. Watch this to discover what that person should do for you!

Accountability from Becky Harmon on Vimeo.

7 Questions To Help You Discover Your Purpose

Every day I coach people who are desiring to grow into a more significant life. It could be that they have found themselves in an unfortunate place of an unwanted divorce, illness or layoff and they have lost their vision. At times people have built success, but now they are ready to go to the next level. Other times people just feel like they haven’t found their boldest identity zone due to a lack of clarity on how to do that work.

I created the following resource for my team to help them get more clarity on their life purpose and what they are called to leadership-wise. Whether you are a stay at home Mom wanting to bring in some extra money, empty nester, or don’t feel energized by your current vision. If so, this 45-minute audio is going to answer some questions for you so that you can begin to apply yourself in prayer to live the kind of life that is going to fuel you. This is pure training but incredibly powerful if you are ready to do the work to live your best life before God.

Here are some of the result’s you will get from this call:

1. The first question that everyone should ask who is committed to authentic Christian life.

2. The one thing that will keep you balanced and on overflow rather than living in crisis.

3. How to be child-like in faith practically.

4. How to think about your life through a lens of philanthropy and find you’re calling.

5. The one question to ask if you have to raise money fast.

6. Recovering lost success that you’ve forgotten about.

7. Why you want to ask your friends this question to stay in your boldest identity zone.

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20 Signs You Need To Grow Your Spiritual Authority

I believe in the power of prayer and taking militant action. One of the things that constantly comes up with my clients is a mindset that the devil can cause them constant spiritual warfare. Here’s the truth. The devil is defeated but our passive mindsets empower him.  The only real power he has is fear, intimidation, and deception.

Here’s how this breaks down practically. The longer you take to assertively co-create the life you love with Christ and align your daily actions with your vision, the longer you stay stuck in survival mode. Much of this can be changed by just receiving training on how to operate in your ALREADY ESTABLISHED spiritual authority. This is the list I CREATED after working with people in ministry and business for over thirty years.

Here are 20 Ways To Know You Need To Grow Your Spiritual Authority

1. You are in survival mode and doubt that God has an EXACT purpose for your life. Little or muddled vision. You have not memorized or are actively confessing any scripture over your life and vision. You’re waiting and waiting for breakthrough.

2. Who you are hanging around can change your direction, convictions and the vision you have established for yourself. You don’t know enough of the word of God to keep you channeled and you’re not speaking it over yourself daily.

3. Your closest relationships that you share your heart with are chaotic or unchallenging. They have worldly mindset’s and are low in leadership.

4. You say yes when you want to say no. You struggle with what people think of you and you make decisions for what you can avoid not what you believe is the right choice.

5. In relationships or friendships, you feel guilty for blocking time for your self-care. If they have a need, that comes first to your detriment. Then you’re resentful, or you struggle with self-pity.

6. You connect with people intensely, but then something happens to derail it, cause you to be offended or to find something wrong with them. There’s always a reason you are disconnected.

7. You spend time investing in helping those who are down-trodden, but you’re not able to experience the resurrection to your dreams and desires.

8. You are the most influential person in your circle. You don’t have anyone pioneering before you in your family, ministry or marketplace dreams.

9. Can’t step into your vision because you don’t have the faith or finances to see them come to life.

10. You find people just aren’t honest or real with you. Constant situations where you know people have misrepresented themselves in ministry or in the marketplace.

11. You suspect something is wrong in a situation and might even share that with one other person, but you don’t take action on it because deep down, you don’t trust your discernment. When you find out you were right, you are angry with yourself for staying stuck in it.

12. You wear yourself out analyzing, what-ifing and being tormented by negative outcomes. You have faith in prayer but can’t translate that into practical action that helps you get results.

13. You are distracted by other people’s visions and causes. You don’t have that one thing that is your God given purpose to help solve or a vision that invigorates you.

14. You are more comfortable with animals than you are people. They are safe; people are not.

15. You are happiest when everyone is at peace. You avoid any conversations that could create tension. You don’t want to challenge people to change as they may ask you about your life.

16. You are intimidated by individuals who have a lot of money or external success. It makes you feel “less then”.

17. Very creative but you can’t channel it. Always coming up with brilliant idea’s but never executing on them long enough to see any fruit or financial payout.

18. You have great difficulty keeping things organized or throwing things away. = It prevents you from thinking, strategizing or planning for the future.

19. When someone is being put down or minimized, you have difficulty speaking up for them because you don’t want that negative attention focused on you.

20. You have trouble serving others when you’re not feeling confident or strong. You shut down, hide in your house when you’re not performing the way you want.

From time to time, we all struggle with these but if you answered yes to more than 3 of these questions and it’s been a pattern for you then consider being part of my Leadership Team and getting coaching in this particular area of your life.

Faith Forward, Bec:)

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