How To Share What You Do With Humility

Many Christians confuse God-given confidence with pride because honestly, can I say this? Sometimes we struggle with false humility.  It’s important that you don’t miss opportunities to help someone receive results because you are worried that people will think your arrogant.

Here’s a practical example. You have been asking God for favor, and someone shares with you a problem they are trying to solve. This is an area of your life where God has built a message in you. You struggled with that bondage, the Lord gave you breakthrough and you know deep down you have spiritual authority in this area. But you hold back. Many times when I am coaching people on developing their messages and growing their faith-based business, it’s because they don’t know the difference between narcissism and authentic Godly confidence. Remember, even David was accused by his brothers for being prideful when he just merely articulated what God had helped him overcome and how he would do the same with Goliath.

Remember, spiritual warfare always comes to attack your faith in God’s ability and the identity you reproduce in others.

So, let’s talk about what real self-promotion is in action as opposed to Godly confidence. Because typically individuals who engage in me, me, me~ do not receive the fruit of deep respect and honor that they are looking for. They usually get the opposite; they feel like they never arrive, judgment from others and disrespect because the glory of God is extended by common consent. People also can sense if you’re confidence comes from some people who have received transformation authentically or because you have a vacation to fund. (Can we just be real?) When you share how you serve and then get OFFENDED if people don’t move forward with you, then you’re under a spirit of Mammon which partners with pride. Godly confidence does not take offense or try to manipulate others into doing what they want to see done.

What I typically have to coach clients through, especially if they grew up in a shame-based or fear-based thinking home, is that they are not comfortable with being the person who creates tension. They were either raised in an environment where everyone was passive-aggressive, or they were intimidated when they showed initiative or strength. But here’s the bottom line if you ever want to multiply the message God has given you! In order to move people towards freedom, they have to be illuminated at times to the pain they are in, the results that

To move people towards independence, they have to be illuminated at times to the pain they are in, the results that their choices are producing for them and you have to be the one to challenge them to embrace the work new breakthrough entails. How you know if God is sending YOU to be the one to set them free is it’s an area you have struggled and received RESURRECTION LIFE. See friend; you’re not responsible as the messenger for their choice to accept the work God has for them. Your responsibility is to boldly communicate how you serve and how you can help them solve that problem.

 Often times people either receive a “no” as rejection they internalize as WHO they are IDENTITY-WISE, or they feel the tension that is coming to them because underlying the whole interaction, the person wants to take bold action, they want to get the result’s you have produced in your life or others, but they are struggling with the fear of failure. That’s why they have to CHOOSE OFFENSE! In the spirit realm, you are feeling in the conversation the doubt and unbelief and how they mask that in jealousy or putting you down. Honestly, if they didn’t choose to be offended, they would have to decide to repent for fear and accept faith. Most people are not that healthy, intuitive enough or practiced in the presence of God enough to discern doubt and unbelief that fast.

In a nutshell:

1. Never hold back your message and the overcoming work God has done in your life or how you can solve people’s problems with your programs. I was sharing this with someone I prayed with today. Mammon is part of ministries and marketplace businesses. You can discern it by the lack of generosity, trust, and manipulation that people feel around the giving or the transaction. When you’re fueled by excellent service, you will be thankful you invested the money and had the faith to believe for a significant return and impact. Charging in business for your service (even if it’s faith-based) is not greedy just as if being in ministry and running a 501c makes you immune from making poor financial decisions. It’s the motive and results people get from interacting with you. If you’re excellent at what you do, your ministry or business will grow as you faithfully steward it.

2. Know precisely what results people will receive from your product or program. You should have minimally three apparent results.

3. Be ready at all times to have something going on you can invite people to or capture their information on email so you can follow up. Without this, you’re going to miss opportunities to help people receive transformation.

Becky Harmon is the founder and CEO of Successnotsabotage Coaching, located outside Atlanta, Ga. Gifted with a strong teaching and training mission, she has coached, spoken and ministered throughout the United States and overseas. She is a sought-after identity coach and speaker and has authored more than six books. Whether training on how to apply your identity in Christ, pray and break people out of victimization thinking, or multiply your influence authentically, Becky equips Christians for a demonstration of practical power. She transitions pastors, churches and marketplace leaders, into new identities and impact in their sphere of influence. No matter how stuck you have been, Becky will show you how to begin to use what the enemy sabotaged you with for the glory of God.

Building Customer Loyalty That’s Easy

This is part 4 in a 4 part series I am doing on how to grow an authentic sales funnel and profits without hype. This week I want to share with you the mindset and practical way you create customer trust, so your business is profitable.

SUCCESS=> What makes someone effective at growing their business is their work ethic and how well they prepare ahead for a new client. When I launched SUCCESSnotsabotage, I didn’t have any marketing experience, but I had been practiced in prayer, follow up in ministry and just being faithful with my friendships. In other words, I knew how to prepare people’s hearts for following Jesus into more growth. I was willing to learn new skills until I could hire out.

With that said, I am big on watching what people do CONSISTENTLY and not just what they say about themselves.  I have a little different way of doing business than most coaches in that I look at my business as a ministry, so for that reason, I am not money driven. I am driven by transformation and profit’s second.

When I get in front of a potential customer, I don’t like to talk to them about my more expensive coaching unless I have spent some time watching their life and actions. I have the opposite strategy. When people come to me and want private coaching, I often down-sell them! I ask them to join my team first. Now I do this for a couple of reasons.

  1. I know from my own experience in business that people are missing boldness, creativity on how to serve and consistent execution skills. That’s a leadership issue, not a business problem! Who likes to knock on doors, cold call or challenge people with the truth of the gospel? Anyone? No, none of it is comfortable. But if you believe it will save someone pain or suffering than getting bold! Seriously, you can learn for $114 in a team instead of 2,000 to start with.
  2. I know I can save them money and help them grow their leadership skills to a place they are consistent. I will keep them encouraged and accountable there which is frankly why most people quit before they make money (not because they don’t have what it takes). Ninety percent of business or ministry is work ethic and perseverance, and that happens better with teaming. Create an identity and culture for your business, not just a product!
  3. When people know you’re not after their money but helping them get results they will invest more money with you when they are ready. That comes from your casting a bigger vision for them and helping them attain it. Clients who have been on my team and wanted to attend an in-person event I am doing that cost one or two thousand, know from being part of my lower end programs that I will tell them the truth. I can look at the work they have done and told them honestly if think they have what it takes to go to the next level. That doesn’t always guarantee they will be successful because I can’t do the work for them but at least I can see a track record of what they have done in the past!

So as you consider building bigger programs financially with a deeper investment for your client, think of this. Stay away from the rah-rah emotional talk and bling talk. Pray, walk in integrity and then help people receive TANGIBLE RESULTS. Start with a core product that helps them stay consistent with their leadership and make it doable financially for every mom or dad. You want them to be able to integrate this into their every day life. (Around $100 a month)

Then when they see that they can build success with simple strategies, invite them to become more disciplined with their time and focused on how they serve people. Always associate investing money with becoming more disciplined! Developing products is not hard but it does take you thinking strategically ahead. Expanding your business is going to require you to have to learn, implement and teach new systems and there’s a learning curve in all that, but you don’t go to the next level of profitability without a better system. I have experienced it about five times now in my personal life and business. There’s a crisis, and it brings me to a place of expansion that overwhelms me with having to block my time better and develop a better system for myself, my family or my clients.

Think about anything that bought you more environmental, emotional peace or financial stability. It’s most likely because you had to take the time to prune, organize and plan for what you wanted to see result wise. You had to do it consistently for a long while. During this period you built trust. People trust what they watch you be faithful in the long term. This is why if you aren’t in 100% committed to building long-term results, you can’t ask God for a blessing. He’s an inter-generational God. That was a freebie!

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Faith forward! Bec:)

Becky Harmon is the founder and CEO of Successnotsabotage Coaching, located outside Atlanta, Ga. Gifted with a strong teaching and training mission, she has coached, spoken and ministered throughout the United States and overseas. She is a sought-after identity coach and speaker and has authored more than six books. Whether training on how to apply your identity in Christ, pray and break people out of victimization thinking, or multiply your influence authentically, Becky equips Christians for a demonstration of practical power. She transitions pastors, churches and marketplace leaders, into new identities and impact in their sphere of influence. No matter how stuck you have been, Becky will show you how to begin to use what the enemy sabotaged you with for the glory of God.

The Transformation Offer

In step two you have caught the attention of your potential client (read that here), and they have either signed up for a free offer you have extended to them or purchased inexpensive training. (under $25.00). You’re now at the transformation offer where you are going to share an opportunity for them to experience your core BOLD IDENTITY zones.

Your bold identity zone is the ONE or TWO things you do best that create the best results for people. It’s the unique gift that separates you from other people in your field. For example, I have two main places where people can receive profound transformation from me. That is either in a personal coaching program where I can listen and help them put a system in place for the next phase of influence, or it’s on my Leadership Team where I take them step by step how to practically break of limiting mindsets and build their first $25,000 from scratch.

Typically, the transformation stage is the one that people get to experience what God has anointed you to do (in the way he’s sent you). People can read your blogs, they can join you for free teleconferences, watch you speak or follow you on social media but I don’t see people receive lasting transformation until they either commit to personal coaching or they get accountability in a team environment.

So essentially, this is where you give your customer an opportunity to be personally mentored by you which is a deeper relationship. This is also where I begin to get prayer burdens for people. This is because I am completely focused on their business needs, their marriage, their family and how to help them overcome what they have hired me to equip them in.

So let’s call the transformation offer, “business-discipleship”. A great funnel for a ministry for a faith-based business should begin with catching people’s attention that can help them solve a practical problem. This means you have to learn how to talk about things people are struggling to address without mammon like hype, religious jargon or making them feel like they are not measuring up.

Jay and I are currently attending Woodstock Church which is an extension of Andy Stanley’s Northpoint church. Every sermon I turn to my husband and say if God ever graces me to communicate as well as this man I will die a happy woman. Here is how Andy breaks down each sermon into one-point messages.

  • Me (How do I struggle with this?)
  • We (How do we all struggle with this?)
  • God (What does the Bible say about this?)
  • You (What should you do about this?)
  • We (How can we all live this out together?)

I have always tried to follow this system because I have seen it work without me having to say=> Buy, buy, buy… you’re going to miss out FOREVER, buy now…you’re going to turn into an embarrassment for your family if you don’t buy my product, you won’t make a million dollars…don’t you want to be a millionaire?). Holy cow. Watch people do this, it’s standard practice with marketers, and it grows businesses but manipulating people’s emotions like that is not consistent with how the Holy Spirit works.

I do share one pain point per video or blog that I have struggled to overcome. I take a bit of time describing this emotionally because people often think they are the only person in the world who has that problem. I show people this is a common challenge for most. When I am writing a blog or doing training, I will say something like, if you have this challenge, here is what I can help you solve it. If it’s a leadership issue, I give them the scriptural context behind it. If it’s business, I just show them how this can help them serve people better. I typically direct people towards my team because:

A. It helps people see if coaching is right for them without plunking down 5,000.00 to see if they know how to execute!  I have grown through stewardship and taking daily small actions.

B. My team is an entirely built in a step-by-step training to take them through identifying sabotaging patterns and then exactly how to overcome them.

C. They have the opportunity to get prayer accountability and feedback in a super safe environment overseen by me.

On my blogs, I provide a link people can follow to sign up for the team or personal coaching. On the first page of the sign-up, I have a system in place to capture their email without asking for payment. If they don’t go to the next step, I have a system in place that asks them if I can answer any questions for them. I often will have numbers of people just take that point to personally email me what they have going on, make sure I think the program will solve their problem and then the next day they usually sign up. When they do, they are now in the transformation stage being aligned for the best connection for their success.

Here’s what I love about systems. They are scaleable. And because I have homeschooled, church planted with a team, worked a job in the middle of that and parented four children who are two years apart…I understand at a significant level how to grow without having a nervous breakdown. I can put 30 people into my teams, or I can put 300. I could put 3,000 people in with just adding moderators. I would do no more extra work on the front end. I still would pray the same and still serve the same. That my friend is why you want to do the work to build a grace-filled sales funnel.

So many times people don’t realize they are holding themselves back because they are afraid of getting too big. If you feel stressed today with what you have, I guarantee you are holding yourself back unconsciously! Join my free community or read the next step in my series on how to take your clients to the next level of investment easily!

Faith Forward! Love, Bec:)

Becky Harmon is the founder and CEO of Successnotsabotage Coaching, located outside Atlanta, Ga. Gifted with a strong teaching and training mission, she has coached, spoken and ministered throughout the United States and overseas. She is a sought-after identity coach and speaker and has authored more than six books. Whether training on how to apply your identity in Christ, pray and break people out of victimization thinking, or multiply your influence authentically, Becky equips Christians for a demonstration of practical power. She transitions pastors, churches and marketplace leaders, into new identities and impact in their sphere of influence. No matter how stuck you have been, Becky will show you how to begin to use what the enemy sabotaged you with for the glory of God.

Where Are You On The Grit Scale?

This is a guest post by Business Strategiest, Beverly Lewis. I followed this blog up with a private question/answer time with my Leadership Team.

Unintimidatable. Now there’s a $50 word. It has popped up numerous times as I have reflected on the nuances of mental toughness.

Intimidatable means being reduced to a state where the spirit is broken or courage is lost.

Thus unintimidatable implies strength of mind in the face of forces that would disrupt, distract, and deter. It defines an unwillingness to give in to a sense of inferiority or back down. It is the relentless ability to maintain vision, faith, and optimism. It results in the achievement of goals and the accomplishment of dreams.

Mental toughness can’t be bottled, bought, or borrowed. You only come by it the hard way – you develop it. Psychologist Angela Duckworth conducted fascinating research about what she calls the “Grit Scale.” Grit has little to do with IQ, genetics, personality or talent – yet it is a strong predictor of success
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Duckworth studied thousands of people; ranging from West Point cadets to undergraduate students at elite universities to children who qualified as finalists in the Scripps National Spelling Competition. She calls grit the power of passion and perseverance. Another researcher, Stanford University psychologist Carol Dweck, states, “Attitude is more important than IQ in determining success.”

It is fascinating how often modern scientists often announce breakthrough research that is technological validation of timeless Truth. When it comes to grit, look at the lives of Moses, Abraham, Joseph, David, Paul, and ultimately Jesus. The Hall of Faith is filled with those who displayed all the characteristics of mental toughness. The formula for mental toughness is basic:

No discomfort = no growth.
No pushing = no toughness.

One day, while sweating it out at the gym, I noticed someone’s t-shirt that said, “It doesn’t ever get easier, you just get stronger.” That’s true of every aspect of life and brings us to the importance of developing your physical stamina. Successnotsabotage Coach, Becky Harmon, has always taught clients to pair physical training with spiritual and mental development for remarkable results. I’ve known Becky for years, and for a long time I, resisted her continuous challenges to train for a race. As I struggled in the process of writing my book, Becky threw down the gauntlet and said, “if you’re serious about obtaining this victory, it’s time to run.” I was finally ready to listen and began training for a half-marathon.

I am certain it is not coincidental that I finished my book the month after I completed the race. Was it tough? Absolutely. Did I love the process? Absolutely not. Was it worth it? Unequivocally – yes!!
The battlefield of the mind is where grit is refined. Grit is a fundamental quality of leaders and is developed through a disciplined thought life. Mental toughness is the ability to remain consistent and produce at the peak of your ability despite feelings of inadequacy and lack. It means you finish what you start.

Five Indicators of Mental Toughness:

  • You have an ability to absorb unexpected emotional peaks and valleys and are still able to have peace and humor in the midst of it.
  • You maintain integrity under pressure and sustain a powerful fighting spirit against seemingly impossible odds.
  • You have an ability to take a punch emotionally and bounce back quickly from disappointments, rejection and missed opportunities.
  • You understand the power of words in influencing your own behavior and take negative thoughts captive. (See 2 Corinthians 10:5)
  • You have the discipline to choose what you want most over what you want now.

Just as pearls are formed inside the shell of certain mollusks as a defense mechanism against a potentially threatening irritant, grit is developed in response to adversity. The result is unique and valuable.

Pearl has become a metaphor for something rare, fine, admirable and precious. Mental toughness is a pearl in the strand of leadership qualities necessary for success. The next time you encounter resistance, remember: No Grit, No Pearls. Be unintimidatable.

[guestpost]Beverly Lewis is an Executive Trainer, Speaker and Leadership Coach. She is the CEO (Chief Encouragement Officer) of BeverlySpeaks.com. Strong teams, enduring relationships, and dynamic, healthy organizations are built when this energetic business catalyst brings her brand of business from the heart. Her first book, Win From Within: The Heart of Success and Significance is born out of 35 years of work with over 10,000 professionals, in-depth research on leadership, communication, and lessons from her entrepreneurial ventures.[/guestpost]

Becky Harmon is the founder and CEO of Successnotsabotage Coaching, located outside Atlanta, Ga. Gifted with a strong teaching and training mission, she has coached, spoken and ministered throughout the United States and overseas. She is a sought-after identity coach and speaker and has authored more than six books. Whether training on how to apply your identity in Christ, pray and break people out of victimization thinking, or multiply your influence authentically, Becky equips Christians for a demonstration of practical power. She transitions pastors, churches and marketplace leaders, into new identities and impact in their sphere of influence. No matter how stuck you have been, Becky will show you how to begin to use what the enemy sabotaged you with for the glory of God.

Connect With Coffee

You have presented valuable information to someone, and they decided to take the next step and go through one of your opt-in offers. (You can learn about that here)  The next step is what I call coffee and connect! Again, this is part 2 in a no-hype sales funnel that helps you serve with excellence and multiply without stress.

Successful people are busy and have lots of people pulling on them. So the first thing I want to do is show them that I value their identity and expertise and not say to them…”Hey, can I pick your brain”? “I have no money and want you to give me your time for free because I have not been taught how to build great mentoring relationships in my spiritual life or business.”

Hope that doesn’t come across offensively but that’s what people do all the time and when this happens they have just HUGELY sabotaged themselves.

Here’s the point. You always want to have content you give away for FREE but another track for people who are really prepared to book a move:). When you are ready to build actual results and not just hypothetically think or pray about it…you take specific actions like investing time and money to get the help you need. This is NORMAL for successful people. For example, I say..”May I have 30 minutes of your time to ask you a couple questions about how you have cultivated a great marriage (ministry, business, parenting). I promise I will not go over 30 minutes and would you do me the honor of purchasing your breakfast. I greatly value your opinion. May I email your assistant and have her schedule me in perhaps in the next month. Now, at this point, they typically give me their personal email and number because they are impressed with the fact I value them and are not just asking them to give me something for free. This has worked successfully for me for over thirty years. I alway end the meeting exactly when I told them I would and not a minute over. If I feel like the time was essential to my growth, I move forward into bigger investments with them.

For example, I say..”May I have 30 minutes of your time to ask you a couple questions about how you have cultivated a great marriage (ministry, business, parenting). I promise I will not go over 30 minutes and would you do me the honor of purchasing your breakfast. I greatly value your opinion. May I email your assistant and have her schedule me in perhaps in the next month. Now, at this point, they typically give me their personal email and number because they are impressed with the fact I value them and are not just asking them to give me something for free. This has worked successfully for me for over thirty years. I alway end the meeting exactly when I told them I would and not a minute over. If I feel like the time was essential to my growth, I ask them directly how I might access more of their expertise by reading the books they have written or hiring them for coaching or mentoring.

What does this have to do with your sales funnel? I want you to flip this scenario, and now you are the sought out mentor.

You want to provide your potential client with a “coffee and connect” offer that will answer a specific challenge they have for around the price of a classy breakfast. ($25.00). This is the first time connect point, so you want to create a product that is high quality and activates faith in you as a mentor. For example, one of the products that work well for my coaching practice is my Biblical Vision Board Training for $29.99. Every once in a while I will put out a promo code to take 50% off for a short amount of time.  This training is unique in that I break down for my clients exactly how to tell the difference between a biblical vision and new age “name it, claim it, envision it mantra stuff.” I show them exactly what to put on their board, the scriptures behind the mindsets and how they can use stir their hearts to move out of survival mode into PROMISES! I also provide them with a time management course for no extra cost. This is so popular because once people realize they do have a compelling vision from God, they can activate their faith at a high level to make it prosper! All you need to know for your clientele is that you want to take the time to create a quality product. Remember, quality products deliver concrete and tangible results. 

After you create the product, you want to then place it on a landing page that you can drive traffic towards through your website, Twitter, Facebook, Google Ads, etc. Now, the first purchase that people make with you is usually a make or break one because they are either going to feel like you over-delivered and are faithful with their money or you wrote a bunch of hyped up sales speech, and you’ve lost their trust. If you can gain it, you are now positioned to help them take the next step into a more solid investment.

Some of the things you want to put on your lead page is a clear understanding of the feelings you’re customer will experience after they make the right choice to invest with you. Why NOT taking action will completely sabotage their needed results, and the practical reason’s why investing in this product is a good decision.  Remember, no need to hype. Just be you and take the time to create something if you purchased for that amount of money, you would feel BLESSED to have invested in! Now, onto step 3 in the cycle, Transformation!

Faith Forward, Love Bec:)

Becky Harmon is the founder and CEO of Successnotsabotage Coaching, located outside Atlanta, Ga. Gifted with a strong teaching and training mission, she has coached, spoken and ministered throughout the United States and overseas. She is a sought-after identity coach and speaker and has authored more than six books. Whether training on how to apply your identity in Christ, pray and break people out of victimization thinking, or multiply your influence authentically, Becky equips Christians for a demonstration of practical power. She transitions pastors, churches and marketplace leaders, into new identities and impact in their sphere of influence. No matter how stuck you have been, Becky will show you how to begin to use what the enemy sabotaged you with for the glory of God.

5 Steps To Building A No Hype Sales Funnel

After you begin to solidify your leadership model and walk consistently in authority, the next order of agenda is establishing a system that takes people from the beginning of contact with you to being a customer or in the case of non-profits, members. Today, I want to begin sharing this process with you by talking about the first C which is CONNECTION!

During this first point, your goal is to establish trust and to initiate some form of relationship by making potential clients aware of how you can serve them. When you’re beginning to grow your expertise, the objective is to build an authentic connection, so they trust you as a resource for helping them grow into the life and result’s they desire.

What I found in my coaching practice was that because I chose to grow my business through my story on how Christ helped me overcome,  I had to be thoughtful about how I marketed. My ultimate goal was to be able to do for a living what I was passionate about: Helping people get free in Christ and then share how they did that with others through writing, speaking, coaching or their own non-profit or business. I had already been part of two church planting teams and knew God wasn’t calling me to church plant but rather on the mountain of business.

If I came across pushy or too intense, it caused people to accuse me of being greedy and using the gospel to profit. If I wasn’t able to touch on what was causing people pain and communicate that in a compelling way, I couldn’t make money consistently and I wasn’t going to survive my first couple years coaching! So honestly, in the first level, I made it a point to really examine my heart before God so my conscience was clear, write down and communicate consistently my core leadership beliefs to people and show them how overcoming spiritual warfare was going to glorify God. All the leadership coaching I did and still do today is basically taking people through the process of breaking out of victimization mindsets and into courageous actions.

Honestly, this took trial and error, watching the struggles that people had and writing consistently every day because I had to be able to create momentum or a buzz about what I could help people gain result wise through the grace of God on my life. I had no marketing background or business training, but I did know how to pray, take action and minister to people’s needs because I had been doing this for decades already.

I developed a plan for delivering one blog a week and one conference call a month that was free. The first year I did 12 conference calls and broke up writing them into four blogs. So mainly I came up with the next month’s conference call and just sectioned them into four separate blogs. When I had written all of those, I smushed them together and did a live conference call where I presented the content, and then I prayed with people at the end of the call. Now, prayer is part of my identity, and God has graced me to pray boldly, and it’s something people find that attracts them to my life and business. What I want to make clear to you that it only works because it’s WHO I AM Identity-wise. I didn’t start praying with people when I launched a business. I had been living a bold prayer life since I had received Christ in my early twenties. It was a lifeline to me and part of my personal leadership model. This is crucial if you want to be authentic and fruitful. My top three core leadership principles are daily prayer, 1 hour of cardio and staying consistent with the mission God has given me. (Which means you need to craft your vision and manage your time excellently)

When they signed up for my conference call, they were put on my email list, and that’s how I began to send out weekly blogs. Sometimes people unsubscribed after the first teleconference but most of them stayed, and now I was touching base with them every week as an Identity Expert with their permission. This is way better than just putting people on a list without them giving you permission.

The next thing I learned to do was offer special 14 days series that required another email sign up, and that was very specific about what result’s it helped them gain. For example, last year I created a 14 Day Messenger Series that helped my clients discover their boldest identity zones, who they were anointed to serve and how to get started marketing to this audience!

Why this is important is you are teaching your audience how to trust you and take action in the direction that you can serve them in. I give very specific homework on this series because I want them to associate my coaching with having to not just pray for their clients but create content that solves problems in very specific ways.

Again, what your doing by creating opt-ins is attracting a more narrow audience within your current list. Those who sign up for opt-ins within your subscriber list are actually warm leads now.

When I first began doing this I would create numbers of free opt-ins and see which one’s were the most popular. When I ascertained this I would create a team or workshop that helped solved this problem and integrate it into my coaching for that year. This is how I began to branch out of just one on one coaching into teams, seminars and workshops.

Meanwhile, the great thing is while you’re doing this, you’re still touching base with people weekly, and sending them weekly growth tips in your industry. This also takes you to the next phase which is what I call the connect with coffee! You can read that here!

Faith Forward! Love, Bec:)

Becky Harmon is the founder and CEO of Successnotsabotage Coaching, located outside Atlanta, Ga. Gifted with a strong teaching and training mission, she has coached, spoken and ministered throughout the United States and overseas. She is a sought-after identity coach and speaker and has authored more than six books. Whether training on how to apply your identity in Christ, pray and break people out of victimization thinking, or multiply your influence authentically, Becky equips Christians for a demonstration of practical power. She transitions pastors, churches and marketplace leaders, into new identities and impact in their sphere of influence. No matter how stuck you have been, Becky will show you how to begin to use what the enemy sabotaged you with for the glory of God.

5 Ways To Learn Through SUCCESS not sabotage

In today’s training, I want to help you recognize how to pick up your pace as opposed to lingering in old patterns that will delay your destiny.

You must build your leadership skills as well as discerning spiritual warfare.

This is important as you won’t know whether to pray more assertively or just take practical action. Many times people quit prematurely before they see their dreams come to pass just because survival mode is more comfortable!!!  To break this pattern you must learn how to proactively learn from success and not always have to learn from pain.

  1. All Influential People Have A Spiritual Father, Mother Or Leadership Mentor.  If you want to learn how to navigate obstacles through SUCCESS and not having to learn the hard way (through pain that comes from bad decisions), SEEK someone who will mentor you spiritually and stretch your comfort zone. If you don’t have one or two people in your life you get advice through weekly, that only leaves you one way to grow. The hard way. Leaders always have someone pouring into them and the better leader you are, the more comfortable you will be with building relationally with people who think completely opposite of you!
  2. Successful People Recognize Negative Patterns And Address Them Through Consistent Prayer First. If you have a situation happen to you more than once or twice and it’s creating turmoil for you, then consider it could be it spiritual warfare that you need to assertively address in prayer. Here are some examples of what you need to apply your identity in Christ to overcome.  Rejection in a job, marriage or parenting. Anxiety, Panic Attacks or Depression, Intimidation and Control From Family Members, Car accidents, Migraines, Lay-Offs, Financial Turmoil, Perverted Dreams (And you’re not doing anything that would open the door for this), Addictive Tendencies, these are just a few tactics that the enemy uses to discourage and wear you down. Remember, we do not wrestle with flesh and blood but with principalities over family’s and regions.
  3. You Teach People How To Respect You By The Boundaries You Consistently Implement. You show people what is unacceptable and acceptable by the way you respond to inappropriate behavior. This means becoming intentional and raising the bar on what you believe you’re worth. This is not to say people can’t disagree with you. This just means you’re valuing yourself, verbalizing what you need and expecting that your voice will be heard. Successful people watch for boundary violations and resentment so they can communicate it early to stay in the place of quality service. You will have what you tolerate.
  4. Believe In Your Ability To Problem Solve And Execute Quickly. Leaders do not wait for others to solve their problems. They assume all challenges are “figure-out-able.” They use what is in their hands, resist needing more and set deadlines around challenges. I have one analogy that may seem unyielding but it’s effective for snapping people out of “I don’t know what to do.” Imagine this. Somebody has a gun to your head. They are going to pull the trigger by the end of the day if you don’t have the problem solved. (I told you it was extreme). If your life was on the line, do you think you could solve the problem? Yes, I think you could make some pretty bold and quick decisions not caring what anyone thought about it. In other words, most people struggle with the fear of risk, and when it’s life or death, you fish or cut bait.
  5. Don’t Be Defined By Other People’s Vision’s But Create Your Own. We are all born with the potential for greatness. I shared this with someone this past weekend; there are many people who can teach on leadership. There are not people who equip and RELEASE. The releasing part is where you identify whose kingdom the leader was building for. People who are truly kingdom minded will not feel threatened by individuals investing and leaving to start their own thing. A matter of fact, they see that as a compliment. There is a time to learn and serve, and there is a time to launch and lead. Great leaders do both.

Have these points resounded with you? Need prayer AND practical support? Check out my Leadership Team where I provide both.

Love, Bec:)

Becky Harmon is the founder and CEO of Successnotsabotage Coaching, located outside Atlanta, Ga. Gifted with a strong teaching and training mission, she has coached, spoken and ministered throughout the United States and overseas. She is a sought-after identity coach and speaker and has authored more than six books. Whether training on how to apply your identity in Christ, pray and break people out of victimization thinking, or multiply your influence authentically, Becky equips Christians for a demonstration of practical power. She transitions pastors, churches and marketplace leaders, into new identities and impact in their sphere of influence. No matter how stuck you have been, Becky will show you how to begin to use what the enemy sabotaged you with for the glory of God.

Waiting For Doors To Open For You: Success or sabotage?

In this video I break down for you how God promotes, why you don’t want to wait for someone to open a door for you and how to avoid comparison that will KILL your calling.

Faith forward! Love,Bec:)

Becky Harmon is the founder and CEO of Successnotsabotage Coaching, located outside Atlanta, Ga. Gifted with a strong teaching and training mission, she has coached, spoken and ministered throughout the United States and overseas. She is a sought-after identity coach and speaker and has authored more than six books. Whether training on how to apply your identity in Christ, pray and break people out of victimization thinking, or multiply your influence authentically, Becky equips Christians for a demonstration of practical power. She transitions pastors, churches and marketplace leaders, into new identities and impact in their sphere of influence. No matter how stuck you have been, Becky will show you how to begin to use what the enemy sabotaged you with for the glory of God.

7 Ways To Write Powerfully & Bring Transformation

What prompted me to write this week’s blog was a number of clients who have shared with me in the past couple month’s how impacted they were by my writing when they came to my website.

They said they were sharp, to the point and unlike a lot of the other fluff they read on people’s sites. They all said, my writing gave them clarity on how to overcome their challenges and activated their faith!
Of course , I said “Thank You” and I am thankful to God for the grace he has given to me.  But more so, I wanted to write something for all of you who want to grow your own faith-based ministries and businesses! 

I started off just like you. I didn’t major in English and frankly, I still get emails telling me I have grammar mistakes:)

I had nothing but a feeling or impression in my heart that was simply. “Write.”

It wouldn’t go away. I remember finishing my first TERRIBLE short manuscript and asking a friend to go through it and tell me what she thought. She returned it to me with pen scribbles, feedback and it left me with nothing but overwhelm, and this feeling of WHY BOTHER! I didn’t have a website at this point, wasn’t blogging. I just knew I wanted to coach and write.

But here’s the thing, I didn’t quit. I kept writing every day for one hour, and in one month all those terrible paragraphs turned into my first coaching system that I began to take one, two, 20, 50, 100 clients through. I had no idea that my absolutely  TERRIBLE writing would turn into a website, 100 blogs that have been shared internationally, 4 coaching systems, an international leadership team, (my first published book) and frankly the feeling of significance I have received from watching what the enemy stole from me be turned into 90 fold return for the kingdom of God. Fist pump for Jesus!

So, listen. Here are eight ways to push past the fear of failure and write every day so you can grow yourself into an expert status!

  1. Set your bedtime an hour earlier than you normally do and get up one full hour before you have too.  I have always gotten up at 5 am. When I am writing a book or coaching manual, I get up at 4. Why? Because I am at a high level of clarity and focus at this time and can write without any interrupting my flow. Try this for one week. If it doesn’t work, pick a new time and try that for a week. The point is to find what works for you and be consistent.
  2. You’re objective is to write three sentences, not three paragraphs. If you write three paragraphs, you’re ahead, but frankly, it takes me about an hour to write a decent blog. I don’t publish it the day I write it because I go back the next day and shorten non-important thoughts. The second day is typically the tweak day along with writing three more clarifying sentences if I am writing more than a blog. I write for one hour without judging myself.
  3. If I am struggling with clarity, I do a little research. I read what other people have written on the subject. I NEVER write about what I haven’t walked or experienced in my life or with my clients. I want to offer tried and true tips that are result oriented. So read other people’s thoughts but write results you have experienced or breakthrough’s your clients have received.
  4. If you’re stuck, go back through your journaling. Often you will remember a thought that can be expanded upon to serve others. The emotions of the pain are something that I constantly try to focus on as it’s very powerful for people when they feel understood, and you give them hope.
  5. Think of how what you’re writing points people to their identity in Christ. If it does not bring a greater dependence on the Lord, then it is self-improvement, not identity work. Business strategies are the exception.
  6. If you are stuck for more than three days, there is a chance you could be under spiritual warfare. Take authority over any mind-binding spirits on assignment to block your influence. Ask the Lord if there is any unforgiveness in your heart or lack of faith. Speak the word over yourself and then get back to work.
  7. Have a conversation about this topic with the Lord in prayer. Visualize you and he talking about this challenge. Ask him what he would have to say to you and then begin to write down what you hear him say.

Hope this helps you begin to write. The world needs your message! If you need accountability and business training to help you grow your message,  join my Leadership Team and get a plan for your success!

Faith Forward, Bec:)

Becky Harmon is the founder and CEO of Successnotsabotage Coaching, located outside Atlanta, Ga. Gifted with a strong teaching and training mission, she has coached, spoken and ministered throughout the United States and overseas. She is a sought-after identity coach and speaker and has authored more than six books. Whether training on how to apply your identity in Christ, pray and break people out of victimization thinking, or multiply your influence authentically, Becky equips Christians for a demonstration of practical power. She transitions pastors, churches and marketplace leaders, into new identities and impact in their sphere of influence. No matter how stuck you have been, Becky will show you how to begin to use what the enemy sabotaged you with for the glory of God.

Simple Tip For Building Racial Diversity In Your Business

Lot’s of churches and businesses love the idea of racial diversity but don’t know how to take the practical steps to see it come to pass. My father owned a bar and I never heard him say a racist or belittling thing to anyone who worked for him.

We have a responsibility as Christian’s to reflect the unity of the body and our businesses will be extensions of our own personal identity. In today’s video I show you how I have built all my teams to be diverse with NO trouble.

Enjoy!

Thoughts? Leave me a comment! Love, Bec:)

Becky Harmon is the founder and CEO of Successnotsabotage Coaching, located outside Atlanta, Ga. Gifted with a strong teaching and training mission, she has coached, spoken and ministered throughout the United States and overseas. She is a sought-after identity coach and speaker and has authored more than six books. Whether training on how to apply your identity in Christ, pray and break people out of victimization thinking, or multiply your influence authentically, Becky equips Christians for a demonstration of practical power. She transitions pastors, churches and marketplace leaders, into new identities and impact in their sphere of influence. No matter how stuck you have been, Becky will show you how to begin to use what the enemy sabotaged you with for the glory of God.

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