Pulling The Jesus Card

I have an essential training today that if you choose not to be offended by, will help you build grace and more authenticity into your life.

Sabotage=>Don’t pull the Jesus told me card unless literally, Jesus told you and you can back them up with a specific scripture. When Jesus leads you to a decision, it’s mission-minded and will bring life to everyone involved.  There will be a fruit that will be established and can be discerned within 1,3,6, 12 months. Why? People will get disciplined. People will get set free. People will grow more disciplined. There will be an impact for the kingdom NOT ADDING TO YOUR BANK ACCOUNT so that you can hypothetically give more away.

There are times that a coach, mentor or spouse will ask you to move forward on something and I had had clients tell me they pulled the Jesus card when they insisted on getting their way.

Here’s the problem with that. If you’re married, wonderful that Jesus told you that but one small detail. You aren’t one anymore. You’re two. So, you should not move forward until you’re spouse feels comfortable because of you once you pull the Jesus card, you shut down the whole conversation. Because I don’t know about you, but I’m not going to argue with Jesus. I mean, come on. That invites a lot of potential lightening strikes and the ground opening up to swallow me. I would rather just watch the fruit of what “Jesus” told you and see if it pans out or not. If its spirit led, you’re going to have peace, right living and results that you can use to train someone else with.  In other words, the cycle of sabotage in your life is going to end. Your marriage gets better not more strained. Because when you obey Jesus, you are lifted out of your situation and resurrection power is released.

If it was merely your will because you didn’t want to deal with your consequences, come under more Lordship or didn’t want to do what you’re spouse or mentor suggested…guess what? YOU GET TO GO AROUND THE MOUNTAIN ANOTHER 1,347 times. That process comes with tension, discord, and people resenting you for bullying them into a decision. Why? Because God is pretty patient and he doesn’t push accountability or mentoring down anyone’s throat. He just lets you get tired of the stupidity and frustrating results. I’m just keeping it real for you, not trying to be offensive. It’s important to be authentic, NOT RELIGIOUS!

So, here is the kind of things you don’t want to pull the Jesus card for as it lessens your authority:

  • Boundaries on your time. You are called to be mission-minded and invest time into what God has revealed is your purpose and who you do that mission with. You don’t need to tell people that you prayed about it and Jesus said no. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for being purposed about your time nor should you feel guilty for actually thinking strategically about your life. Just say no but thank you for offering the opportunity!
  • Decisions that you think you’re friend, parent, boss, pastor, spouse might not be in agreement with. That is not going to work well for you trust me. Manipulation is witchcraft to God.

SUCCESS=>Do the work to build an apparent and compelling vision for the year. This video will help you understand how to manage your time more efficiently. When your idea is clear you won’t be easily manipulated by others. If you receive an invitation that you are just not comfortable with, spend a day in prayer asking God to show you why you’re feeling a check about it. It’s either one of two things. Not the time for this or consider you just don’t want to die in your flesh. God will speak to you clearly about how to move forward but just remember, just say yes or no! Save the Jesus card for those times when you’re being pressed, and you took the time in prayer to seek God’s will on this. Anything else lessens your authority. Hope this helped!

Faith Forward! Love, Bec:)

Becky Harmon is the founder and CEO of Successnotsabotage Coaching, located outside Atlanta, Ga. Gifted with a strong teaching and training mission, she has coached, spoken and ministered throughout the United States and overseas. She is a sought-after identity coach and speaker and has authored more than six books. Whether training on how to apply your identity in Christ, pray and break people out of victimization thinking, or multiply your influence authentically, Becky equips Christians for a demonstration of practical power. She transitions pastors, churches and marketplace leaders, into new identities and impact in their sphere of influence. No matter how stuck you have been, Becky will show you how to begin to use what the enemy sabotaged you with for the glory of God.

Spiritual Warfare Or Discipline From God?

I remember a time in my life where I would tell people I must be the most loved woman on the planet because all I got night and day from the Lord was discipline. The truth was I was pretty rebellious when I came to the Lord, and it took me a while to learn how to trust God the Father that he had my best intentions in mind when he brought something to my attention he wanted to work on. This is why doing identity work is imperative if you want to break out of poverty mentalities and fulfill your purpose. 

As I began to learn how to be an overcomer,  more ministry opportunities opened up, and I started to have an impact in the kingdom through my prayers and actions. As this happened, I began to get TREMENDOUS spiritual warfare. If you don’t know how to recognize the difference, you will feel held back and unclear in your identity.

SPIRITUAL WARFARE

1. You are making a stand for righteousness in your family, work or community where you have to put healthy boundaries into place where there have been none.
2. You are being persecuted because you have preached Christ rather than self-help, new age doctrines or idolatry. You are actively praying and speaking to people about receiving Christ and getting tension for it.
3. You are declaring Christ in regions of the world that are closed to the gospel.
4. You are in the process of getting delivered from worldly lust like addictions, mammon or witchcraft. (yes, witchcraft, satanic cults and all those things we don’t like to talk about are real and produce spiritual warfare when you come out of it) Breaking out of curses, rebellion can also cause spiritual warfare.

The discipline of the Lord comes when he has given you an instruction, and you are not yielding to the Holy Spirit. Often God is attempting to form a testimony in your life and create a healthy fear and respect for you so that he can BLESS and answer your prayers to send you with POWER. His discipline gets harder and harder when you don’t listen to the Holy Spirit convicting you first and then the people he put in your life to guard you. Here are a couple of ways I have experienced the discipline of the Lord and got my chain yanked. 

DISCIPLINE

1. The Lord point blank told me to stop watching horror movies, and it took a very scary spiritual situation to open my eyes. Never watched another horror movie after the Holy Spirit disciplined me.
2. The Lord told me through a close friend that I was seeking affirmation (in idolatry) from leaders, and I didn’t listen because I was so wrapped up in people pleasing. I experienced a very embarrassing public situation.
3. The Lord asked me to stop arguing with people and just pray. It was more important to me to right than be in the relationship. The Lord let me experience many broken friendships, and anxiety until I realized I didn’t have to defend myself he would.
4. God told me to block time to step out of ministry and into prayer and life coaching. I kept hesitating, and I got convicted and anxious. I was scared of FAILURE, but when I finally repented for not trusting God and obeyed, I began to have peace and prosper.

Need more prayer support on how to become an overcomer, accountability from a prayer partner? Training on how to apply your identity in Christ to everyday obstacles so you can be sent to serve with a powerful testimony? That’s what we dig down and cultivate for you in my private Leadership Team. Join and receive the personal mentoring you need to be equipped and released today!

Faith forward! Love, Bec:)

 

Becky Harmon is the founder and CEO of Successnotsabotage Coaching, located outside Atlanta, Ga. Gifted with a strong teaching and training mission, she has coached, spoken and ministered throughout the United States and overseas. She is a sought-after identity coach and speaker and has authored more than six books. Whether training on how to apply your identity in Christ, pray and break people out of victimization thinking, or multiply your influence authentically, Becky equips Christians for a demonstration of practical power. She transitions pastors, churches and marketplace leaders, into new identities and impact in their sphere of influence. No matter how stuck you have been, Becky will show you how to begin to use what the enemy sabotaged you with for the glory of God.

Practical Presence Of God

Today I want to talk to you about the presence of God as it is a shield around your life.  I have been around people who were fasting and praying in such a concentrated way that when they came into the room, you could feel tangibly the presence of God. To me, the presence of God causes a real stillness in a room. It makes time slow down, and you’re in a hyper-awareness that grips your spirit. It’s supernatural, but yet, there are things you can do every day to cultivate this kind of aroma and fragrance around you even without praying for 3/4 hours a day like some of the intercessors I know.

So, here’s the thing.  The presence of God is something you grow in your life. You don’t go there with a map in one day. People can’t lay hands on you, and suddenly you’re like WHALA, poof! A cloud surrounds you. Nope! The presence of God comes from simple things like suffering well, praising God during times you’re fearful and making right choices when it’s easier to take short-cuts.

I used to have ZERO presence of God in my life and now I walk with God daily in a way that people tell me is tangible, compelling, and frankly, I see God work on a daily basis. So, let me break this down for you into specific actions. You can see God’s presence grow in your marriage, parenting, finances, work, etc.

    1. Everyone wants the “abundant life, ” but that means you have to be abundant relationally towards others. So next time you want to say something cynical, judgmental or snarky, shut your mouth and assume the best. This will cause you to decrease and the Holy Spirit to take greater control of your life. Just imagine they made a simple mistake like you want others to think about you. The Holy Spirit is a gentleman who is sensitive, and he likes to be around people who are gracious, kind and thoughtful. Don’t you?
    2. Delight and joy come when you choose to be grateful for what you have, thankful for the things others do for you, and you praise God instead of pursuing “happiness.” God cares about character more than he cares about comfort. You will see your life become significant to others when you begin to be the kind of person that is a blessing instead of a pain in the butt, narcissistic, all about you all the time.
    3.  Wisdom and protection come when you memorize scripture and speak to fear instead of letting it define your decisions. This takes practice. Ask the Holy Spirit to reveal to you when you’re making choices based on what people think about you or what will bring you the best outcome instead of what will serve others. God often asks us to sacrifice first before others. Watch what you look at with your eyes and who you hang around. Faithful people surround themselves with other trustworthy people who guard their hearts.
    4. The financial provision comes when you have a vision that is compelling, and you help others receive the results they are needing. You don’t have to talk about money, tithing, why people should give, and other pressure tactics that spiritual leaders do when they have NO FAITH or they are under a mammon spirit.  When you hear someone talk about a need or lack, become the kind of person who FIGURES OUT HOW TO SOLVE THAT FINANCIALLY for them! Guess what happens to you in return? People know you can have the faith to push through lack and they will be magnetized with grace towards what you have going on! Get good at delivering specific results, and you will grow with grace.
    5. Favor comes from God’s presence when we sacrifice our time to sow into the lives of others when we would prefer to be doing something else. Time is money. So when we purposely sacrifice our time or efforts to sow into people that can’t return the favor, you will see answered prayers, salvation and supernatural support. It’s amazing!

    One more thing. Some of the most significant times of God’s presence in my life have come from me crying out to God in very desperate situations in which I had no answers or solutions. I talk about how this happened and what you can do to grow this in this short video. Do whatever you have to do to cultivate this in your life, and you will die a very wealthy man or woman.

    Faith Forward! Bec:)

Becky Harmon is the founder and CEO of Successnotsabotage Coaching, located outside Atlanta, Ga. Gifted with a strong teaching and training mission, she has coached, spoken and ministered throughout the United States and overseas. She is a sought-after identity coach and speaker and has authored more than six books. Whether training on how to apply your identity in Christ, pray and break people out of victimization thinking, or multiply your influence authentically, Becky equips Christians for a demonstration of practical power. She transitions pastors, churches and marketplace leaders, into new identities and impact in their sphere of influence. No matter how stuck you have been, Becky will show you how to begin to use what the enemy sabotaged you with for the glory of God.

How To Pray And Bless Your Enemies Practically

Today, I want to share with you how to pray for the people that are causing you to feel bitter and resentful.

Why do we want to do this? Well first, unforgiveness will kill your clarity and every bit of purpose you are called to. It’s SPIRITUAL WARFARE that has to be overcome by PRAYER.

I have been betrayed. Disappointed. Let down. But every single time the enemy came in to steal my peace and my hope…like a FLOOD the spirit of God lifted up a standard, and I was promoted. I believe this in part was due to what I am going to share with you today so listen, this is one of the best tips I have for you if you feel stuck in past conflicts and relational traumas.

You’re going to pray very specifically and consistently for this person. I tell people to pray for a year if necessary on a daily basis. Many times we just give people platitudes that are generic and don’t bring them to the personal pain and suffering in the cross. It’s reasonable Christianity to pray for those who mistreat and persecute you unjustly.

Everything you want in your own life and need RIGHT NOW, you’re going to pray for them to receive a powerful blessing. Here’s some I have helped clients work through. I learned this by implementing it and seeing the results in my own life. This works SO POWERFULLY you’ll be amazed by the freedom and joy you feel after a very short time. I have even written out prayers for my clients with these issues.

  1. Bitter Divorce. You’re going to pray financial provision that is abundant for this individual. That their heart heals from the abandonment, they have felt. You’re going to pray against any assignment of rejection coming against them. You’re going to pray that God sends them a new spouse that is under Lordship and parents out of a revelation of feeling deep love and highly favored by God.
  2. You got fired. You’re going to pray that God sends the leadership team or your ex-boss fabulous, spirit-filled employees who are on fire for God and walk in authority. You’re going to pray a financial blessing on the whole company. That their business will explode with profits and they will run the company with integrity.
  3. You have family that is addicted to… That the Lord will bless them with a long life and great peace. That he provides money for them and they use that to make right choices. That they know how to receive and give God’s abundant love and be sent to serve others out of their own overcoming message. That the Lord uses for good what the enemy means to destroy them with.
  4. You’ve been molested or sexually traumatized. You’re going to pray for this individual that they receive the love of Christ. That they can break free from the shame, guilt, and condemnation that they are under and that they receive a revelation of their identity in Christ. That they find good friends that help them safe, forgiven and free. That they can walk in wholeness in their sexuality.

And here’s the thing, praying like this will KILL your flesh, and you will walk under the PROMOTION of God.

Becky Harmon is the founder and CEO of Successnotsabotage Coaching, located outside Atlanta, Ga. Gifted with a strong teaching and training mission, she has coached, spoken and ministered throughout the United States and overseas. She is a sought-after identity coach and speaker and has authored more than six books. Whether training on how to apply your identity in Christ, pray and break people out of victimization thinking, or multiply your influence authentically, Becky equips Christians for a demonstration of practical power. She transitions pastors, churches and marketplace leaders, into new identities and impact in their sphere of influence. No matter how stuck you have been, Becky will show you how to begin to use what the enemy sabotaged you with for the glory of God.

Accountability Partners

When I have a client come to me for private coaching, one of the first questions I ask them is if they have anyone in their life they are accountable to. The truth is most people do not have any good experiences with accountability done rightly! You see, in order to grow your identity in Christ, you need to be mentored by spiritual mother’s and fathers and also have sisters and brothers in Christ who hold you accountable for the vision God has given you to accomplish in the earth.

They avoid it because they are afraid of being “found out” that they are failures or other negative outcomes that maybe they saw someone else experience. You see, in order to grow your identity in Christ, you need to be mentored by spiritual mother’s and fathers and also have sisters and brothers in Christ who hold you accountable for the vision God has given you to accomplish in the earth. You see, the number one way to push through spiritual warfare is through unity in prayer!

Here are some challenges my clients have pushed through using accountability and action!

  • A lack of personal discipline
  • Sloppy eating patterns
  • Fitness and weight goals
  • Addictions and other compromising patterns
  • Marriage Difficulties
  • Financial chaos
  • Social awkwardness or rejection that leads to isolating themselves
  • Parenting challenges

If you are confused constantly, fighting the same battles over and over, then you need to develop a focused plan and ask someone to hold you accountable to stay on track to finish what you start. Watch this to discover what that person should do for you!

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Becky Harmon is the founder and CEO of Successnotsabotage Coaching, located outside Atlanta, Ga. Gifted with a strong teaching and training mission, she has coached, spoken and ministered throughout the United States and overseas. She is a sought-after identity coach and speaker and has authored more than six books. Whether training on how to apply your identity in Christ, pray and break people out of victimization thinking, or multiply your influence authentically, Becky equips Christians for a demonstration of practical power. She transitions pastors, churches and marketplace leaders, into new identities and impact in their sphere of influence. No matter how stuck you have been, Becky will show you how to begin to use what the enemy sabotaged you with for the glory of God.

7 Questions To Help You Discover Your Purpose

Every day I coach people who are desiring to grow into a more significant life. It could be that they have found themselves in an unfortunate place of an unwanted divorce, illness or layoff and they have lost their vision. At times people have built success, but now they are ready to go to the next level. Other times people just feel like they haven’t found their boldest identity zone due to a lack of clarity on how to do that work.

I created the following resource for my team to help them get more clarity on their life purpose and what they are called to leadership-wise. Whether you are a stay at home Mom wanting to bring in some extra money, empty nester, or don’t feel energized by your current vision. If so, this 45-minute audio is going to answer some questions for you so that you can begin to apply yourself in prayer to live the kind of life that is going to fuel you. This is simple training but incredibly powerful if you are ready to do the work to live your best life before God.

Here are some of the result’s you will get from this call:

1. The first question that everyone should ask who is committed to an authentic Christian life.

2. The one thing that will keep you balanced and on overflow rather than living in crisis.

3. How to be child-like in faith practically.

4. How to think about your life through a lens of philanthropy and find you’re calling.

5. The one question to ask if you have to raise money fast.

6. Recovering lost success that you’ve forgotten about.

7. Why you want to ask your friends this question to stay in your boldest identity zone.

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Becky Harmon is the founder and CEO of Successnotsabotage Coaching, located outside Atlanta, Ga. Gifted with a strong teaching and training mission, she has coached, spoken and ministered throughout the United States and overseas. She is a sought-after identity coach and speaker and has authored more than six books. Whether training on how to apply your identity in Christ, pray and break people out of victimization thinking, or multiply your influence authentically, Becky equips Christians for a demonstration of practical power. She transitions pastors, churches and marketplace leaders, into new identities and impact in their sphere of influence. No matter how stuck you have been, Becky will show you how to begin to use what the enemy sabotaged you with for the glory of God.

3 Ways To Overcome Doublemindedness

Do you recognize the SPIRITUAL signs of doubt and unbelief in your life? This is important if you want to become an overcomer through your identity in Christ because it DILUTES your ability to JUMP INTO the deeper purpose of God for your life! Here are just a couple negative results this causes in your leadership.

  1. It shrinks our prayer life because wrath and doubt go hand in hand. Do you struggle with angry outbursts? Then pray for more faith and to live a purposeful life, not for more self-control.  Timothy 2:8 (KJV)
  2. It sabotages our ability to become overcomers in all situations and to live our dreams. Mat. 21:21
  3. It destroys our ability to receive the confession and results from our actions. Matt. 11:23
  4. It causes people to lose respect for you and your leadership because you can’t be consistent with your goals and outcomes.  James 1:6

Today I want to give you three ways to get free from this from a coaching perspective.

First, double-mindedness is spiritual warfare. You’re not being inconsistent, you’re not being insecure or weak-minded, it’s a spiritual attack. Double-mindedness is an assignment of fear that is attacking you.  Ask God for the action you are to take to solve your problem and obey HIM. He is the one who gives you an ability through the Holy Spirit to be an overcomer and stay courageous. Die to your flesh and let God be enlarged.

Second, and this may offend you, but God will wait to deliver you until you fight for what you want.  Double-mindedness is to keep you from finishing what you put your hand to now matter how small or big your goal is.  Now what I have noticed is whenever I set my sights on something that God lays on my heart to pursue, the enemy comes in with tons of condemnation about how I am failing in other areas and I am not worthy to receive what I am asking because LOOK BECKY, YOU FAILED HERE, HERE AND HERE.

So, here’s where you whip out the word of God, and you use it like a sword and FIGHT!  Do you want to know WHO is righteous before God? We are, with the blood. That’s all you have to do. Tell the devil over and over again, WHOO-HOO…I am made clean and whole and able by the blood of Christ. Insert this statement 45x into his day every time he reminds you that you will fail, it won’t work, God isn’t listening to your prayers, here’s another time just like the last that you failed and finally my favorite…now your going to get found out that you really don’t have it together.

This is why you pick one goal at a time and not overcommit to overcoming 12 things at once. This one thing is a big deal, or the enemy wouldn’t be haggling you over it. People consistently underestimate the power of achieving small goals sequentially.  When you see the results from this, you will begin to develop an IDENTITY of an overcomer which gives you faith to do bigger and bigger things. Stop trying to slay GOLIATH before you have killed your first bear. You don’t have to hit a home run, just get on first base!

Third, it’s normal after coming out of emotionally challenging season’s to deal with double-mindedness, but once you lay your hand to the plow, you CAN’T BACK UP IF YOU WANT TO BUILD A BOLD IDENTITY! My team will tell you I don’t cut much slack on feeling overwhelmed because if you don’t learn to do work during chaotic seasons, guess what? All the enemy has to do is throw a little chaos you’re way, and he’s stopped you! You’re not a victim of your circumstances, you are WHO GOD SAYS YOU ARE!

What I see over and over again is when people realize it’s not them but it’s WARFARE because they are trying to build a bigger identity which will influence more people for the kingdom, they get free from the double-mindedness.

God wants this year to be bigger, bolder and more fulfilling for you. If you need support to help you stay focused on your goals and who you desire to impact, join my free or paid community! We have videos, coaching work, a Facebook group and business training to help you learn how to multiply your message!

Faith forward! Bec:)

Becky Harmon is the founder and CEO of Successnotsabotage Coaching, located outside Atlanta, Ga. Gifted with a strong teaching and training mission, she has coached, spoken and ministered throughout the United States and overseas. She is a sought-after identity coach and speaker and has authored more than six books. Whether training on how to apply your identity in Christ, pray and break people out of victimization thinking, or multiply your influence authentically, Becky equips Christians for a demonstration of practical power. She transitions pastors, churches and marketplace leaders, into new identities and impact in their sphere of influence. No matter how stuck you have been, Becky will show you how to begin to use what the enemy sabotaged you with for the glory of God.

20 Signs You Need To Grow Your Spiritual Authority

I believe in the power of prayer and taking militant action. One of the things that constantly comes up with my clients is a mindset that the devil can cause them constant spiritual warfare. Here’s the truth. The devil is defeated but our passive mindsets empower him.  The only real power he has is fear, intimidation, and deception.

The only real power he has is fear, intimidation, and deception. So the longer you take to assertively co-create the life you love with Christ and align your daily actions with your position, the longer you stay stuck in survival mode. Much of this can be changed by just receiving training on how to operate in your ALREADY ESTABLISHED spiritual authority. This is the list I CREATED after working with people in ministry and business for over thirty years.

Here are 20 Ways To Know You Need To Grow Your Spiritual Authority

1. You are in survival mode and doubt that God has an EXACT purpose for your life. Little or muddled vision. You have not memorized or are actively confessing any scripture over your life and vision. You’re waiting and waiting for breakthrough.

2. Who you are hanging around can change your direction, convictions and the vision you have established for yourself. You don’t know enough of the word of God to keep you channeled and you’re not speaking it over yourself daily.

3. Your closest relationships that you share your heart with are chaotic or unchallenging. They have worldly mindset’s and are low in leadership.

4. You say yes when you want to say no. You struggle with what people think of you and you make decisions for what you can avoid not what you believe is the right choice.

5. In relationships or friendships, you feel guilty for blocking time for your self-care. If they have a need, that comes first to your detriment. Then you’re resentful, or you struggle with self-pity.

6. You connect with people intensely, but then something happens to derail it, cause you to be offended or to find something wrong with them. There’s always a reason you are disconnected.

7. You spend time investing in helping those who are down-trodden, but you’re not able to experience the resurrection to your dreams and desires.

8. You are the most influential person in your circle. You don’t have anyone pioneering before you in your family, ministry or marketplace dreams.

9. Can’t step into your vision because you don’t have the faith or finances to see them come to life.

10. You find people just aren’t honest or real with you. Constant situations where you know people have misrepresented themselves in ministry or in the marketplace.

11. You suspect something is wrong in a situation and might even share that with one other person, but you don’t take action on it because deep down, you don’t trust your discernment. When you find out you were right, you are angry with yourself for staying stuck in it.

12. You wear yourself out analyzing, what-ifing and being tormented by negative outcomes. You have faith in prayer but can’t translate that into practical action that helps you get results.

13. You are distracted by other people’s visions and causes. You don’t have that one thing that is your God given purpose to help solve or a vision that invigorates you.

14. You are more comfortable with animals than you are people. They are safe; people are not.

15. You are happiest when everyone is at peace. You avoid any conversations that could create tension. You don’t want to challenge people to change as they may ask you about your life.

16. You are intimidated by individuals who have a lot of money or external success. It makes you feel “less then”.

17. Very creative but you can’t channel it. Always coming up with brilliant idea’s but never executing on them long enough to see any fruit or financial payout.

18. You have great difficulty keeping things organized or throwing things away. = It prevents you from thinking, strategizing or planning for the future.

19. When someone is being put down or minimized, you have difficulty speaking up for them because you don’t want that negative attention focused on you.

20. You have trouble serving others when you’re not feeling confident or strong. You shut down, hide in your house when you’re not performing the way you want.

From time to time, we all struggle with these but if you answered yes to more than 3 of these questions and it’s been a pattern for you then consider being part of my Leadership Team and getting coaching in this particular area of your life.

Faith Forward, Bec:)

Becky Harmon is the founder and CEO of Successnotsabotage Coaching, located outside Atlanta, Ga. Gifted with a strong teaching and training mission, she has coached, spoken and ministered throughout the United States and overseas. She is a sought-after identity coach and speaker and has authored more than six books. Whether training on how to apply your identity in Christ, pray and break people out of victimization thinking, or multiply your influence authentically, Becky equips Christians for a demonstration of practical power. She transitions pastors, churches and marketplace leaders, into new identities and impact in their sphere of influence. No matter how stuck you have been, Becky will show you how to begin to use what the enemy sabotaged you with for the glory of God.

5 Ways To Learn Through SUCCESS not sabotage

In today’s training, I want to help you recognize how to pick up your pace as opposed to lingering in old patterns that will delay your destiny.

You must build your leadership skills as well as discerning spiritual warfare.

This is important as you won’t know whether to pray more assertively or just take practical action. Many times people quit prematurely before they see their dreams come to pass just because survival mode is more comfortable!!!  To break this pattern you must learn how to proactively learn from success and not always have to learn from pain.

  1. All Influential People Have A Spiritual Father, Mother Or Leadership Mentor.  If you want to learn how to navigate obstacles through SUCCESS and not having to learn the hard way (through pain that comes from bad decisions), SEEK someone who will mentor you spiritually and stretch your comfort zone. If you don’t have one or two people in your life you get advice through weekly, that only leaves you one way to grow. The hard way. Leaders always have someone pouring into them and the better leader you are, the more comfortable you will be with building relationally with people who think completely opposite of you!
  2. Successful People Recognize Negative Patterns And Address Them Through Consistent Prayer First. If you have a situation happen to you more than once or twice and it’s creating turmoil for you, then consider it could be it spiritual warfare that you need to assertively address in prayer. Here are some examples of what you need to apply your identity in Christ to overcome.  Rejection in a job, marriage or parenting. Anxiety, Panic Attacks or Depression, Intimidation and Control From Family Members, Car accidents, Migraines, Lay-Offs, Financial Turmoil, Perverted Dreams (And you’re not doing anything that would open the door for this), Addictive Tendencies, these are just a few tactics that the enemy uses to discourage and wear you down. Remember, we do not wrestle with flesh and blood but with principalities over family’s and regions.
  3. You Teach People How To Respect You By The Boundaries You Consistently Implement. You show people what is unacceptable and acceptable by the way you respond to inappropriate behavior. This means becoming intentional and raising the bar on what you believe you’re worth. This is not to say people can’t disagree with you. This just means you’re valuing yourself, verbalizing what you need and expecting that your voice will be heard. Successful people watch for boundary violations and resentment so they can communicate it early to stay in the place of quality service. You will have what you tolerate.
  4. Believe In Your Ability To Problem Solve And Execute Quickly. Leaders do not wait for others to solve their problems. They assume all challenges are “figure-out-able.” They use what is in their hands, resist needing more and set deadlines around challenges. I have one analogy that may seem unyielding but it’s effective for snapping people out of “I don’t know what to do.” Imagine this. Somebody has a gun to your head. They are going to pull the trigger by the end of the day if you don’t have the problem solved. (I told you it was extreme). If your life was on the line, do you think you could solve the problem? Yes, I think you could make some pretty bold and quick decisions not caring what anyone thought about it. In other words, most people struggle with the fear of risk, and when it’s life or death, you fish or cut bait.
  5. Don’t Be Defined By Other People’s Vision’s But Create Your Own. We are all born with the potential for greatness. I shared this with someone this past weekend; there are many people who can teach on leadership. There are not people who equip and RELEASE. The releasing part is where you identify whose kingdom the leader was building for. People who are truly kingdom minded will not feel threatened by individuals investing and leaving to start their own thing. A matter of fact, they see that as a compliment. There is a time to learn and serve, and there is a time to launch and lead. Great leaders do both.

Have these points resounded with you? Need prayer AND practical support? Check out my Leadership Team where I provide both.

Love, Bec:)

Becky Harmon is the founder and CEO of Successnotsabotage Coaching, located outside Atlanta, Ga. Gifted with a strong teaching and training mission, she has coached, spoken and ministered throughout the United States and overseas. She is a sought-after identity coach and speaker and has authored more than six books. Whether training on how to apply your identity in Christ, pray and break people out of victimization thinking, or multiply your influence authentically, Becky equips Christians for a demonstration of practical power. She transitions pastors, churches and marketplace leaders, into new identities and impact in their sphere of influence. No matter how stuck you have been, Becky will show you how to begin to use what the enemy sabotaged you with for the glory of God.

10 Ways To Be A BOLD Spiritual Mother

Before we begin, let me explain the title. I am writing this blog for all the women who are tired of watching the enemy swallow up their friends, family and they are ready to be the kind of woman who creates tension to the enemy. Without apologies.

If you have never had someone you love cut themselves with razor blades, attempt suicide multiple times, sabotage themselves with addictions, and other assorted life-defining decisions that delay’s them for decades, then you might not understand the level of “I don’t care what anyone thinks” focus you have to go to in order to spiritually rescue someone who is captured by the enemy like this.

If you are here because you want to ignite other women with an overcoming mentality for the kingdom, then get your coffee because you and I are going to talk about how you can take care of business.

10 Ways To Be A Bold Spiritual Mother

 1. Model fearing God and not people pleasing.  You do this by getting your affirmation from the Lord through prayer and worship. Teach women how to get on their face, crying out to God to be delivered from needing affirmation from people. Make prayer your number one priority daily and set aside 1 hour a morning. If you want to impart boldness, you’re going to have to walk in authority, know your identity in Christ and know how to stand during tension when everyone else is crumbling. God builds this resolve in you by creating situations where you feel rejected, and you have to pioneer alone. Get used to it. It’s boot camp for strong women.

2. Model being prepared to be the one in the room who say’s what no one else will and takes action alone. Be submitted, not stupid. Most men love this as they want to be respected themselves for their leadership. There will be a few that will pull the “You’re not submitted card.” Ignore them and let your fruit and result’s praise you in the gate. Value your calling enough to set clear boundaries about what you will do and what you won’t tolerate. If you find yourself compromising, repent and get another woman in prayer to pray over you firmly and remind you WHO YOU ARE until you regain your strength.

3. Model a compelling vision that makes other women say, “Dang. That’s what I want”. I’m not talking about being perfect. I’m talking about being bold, faithful and not apologizing for wanting the best out of life and your relationships.  Understand you will get back to back spiritual warfare for living a transformational life that impacts other women. Pray that God will allow you to finish strong in a heroic way that leaves a legacy for your daughters and other women.

4. Realize everything out of your mouth is either going to position you as a victim or as a victor. Memorize the word of God. Declare the scriptures when you feel weak and when the enemy is screaming to intimidate you. Jesus spoke the word to the devil. He didn’t think it demurely. Have a big mouth and channel it against the devil.

5. Surround yourself with women who shoot for huge goals in their leadership, their life and in the marketplace. See yourself as the pioneer, get into a team or organization that affirms you for thinking outside the box. Don’t play it safe as second in command. Be all in before God and who you are accountable to. Be submitted and coachable by those you trust. There will be a time when you can’t hear God, the warfare is so thick, and you will need those women around you.  Model victory even when you feel completely tapped. Embrace the fight and don’t run from pain. You will become what you speak over yourself.

6. Encourage other women to get started with what grace God has given them even if they are 16.  Get on your face in prayer, fight for the weak, come up with ideas on how to impact for Christ and run like the race horse you are. Start a Bible study in your neighborhood, school or workplace. The key is immediate action. You’re a mother in 9 month’s not nine years. Quit waiting for maturity. You don’t need a theology degree or anyone’s permission. Christ died, and the apostles didn’t attend theology school. They were out making disciples right after the Holy Ghost was poured out. You have your mission instructions in Matthew 28. Spiritual mothering is a mindset and revelation of authority. It comes when you’re ready to reproduce disciples for the kingdom. You won’t become a mother until you’re willing to advance the kingdom militantly.

7. When you find someone, you respect, insist on serving her. This will help you later weed out the people in your life who want to hang around you to soak and with no intention of doing any work themselves. Oh, sorry if that doesn’t sound very compassionate but here’s the truth.  I don’t want compassion. I want to win, and you need to surround yourself with other militant women. You have no time for people who don’t want to kick the devil’s teeth in. Take her out for breakfast with a steno pad and ask questions and shut your mouth. Run her errands, offer to clean her car, ask her if you can run with her, offer to match the socks in her sock basket. Do not take no for an answer. I did this with 2 or three women, and they let me in their friend circle when I was in my twenties. They were wealthy and wise. Bam. Your making powerful friends. One woman in your life like at this level of authority is all you need for turning into a female spiritual Rambo.

8. Give other women and your daughters permission to hear God for themselves, do the work and make mistakes.  Don’t be so quick to give solutions when other women are in pain. Pain makes people get on their face. Instead remind them of WHO they are AND WHAT THEY ARE CAPABLE OF WITH THE HOLY SPIRIT.  Encourage them to go to God for themselves and ask him specific questions on how to solve their problems. Teach them how to worship God, pray hard for hours and confess the word of God over a problem until they learn how to pull down strongholds themselves. Teach them how to fail big time and then go back to God the next day. Let them work through their salvation with fear and trembling; it builds mental toughness.

9. Model teaming. There are no lone Rangerette’s. You know why? They got picked off by the enemy. When the obstacle is life-threatening, you need people partnering with you in prayer who know their authority and how to be RELENTLESS until they get the victory. Teach her not to worry about what anyone thinks about her other than God. That’s the only person she will be standing before at the end, and if she does what you tell her, she will hear, “Well done, good and faith butt-kicking woman.”

10. Tell me you’re strategy below so you can help other women with your wisdom!

Faith Forward, Bec:)
P.S. I created this series to help you identify your message and WHO you’re called to mentor! It’s free and I check your homework myself!

Becky Harmon is the founder and CEO of Successnotsabotage Coaching, located outside Atlanta, Ga. Gifted with a strong teaching and training mission, she has coached, spoken and ministered throughout the United States and overseas. She is a sought-after identity coach and speaker and has authored more than six books. Whether training on how to apply your identity in Christ, pray and break people out of victimization thinking, or multiply your influence authentically, Becky equips Christians for a demonstration of practical power. She transitions pastors, churches and marketplace leaders, into new identities and impact in their sphere of influence. No matter how stuck you have been, Becky will show you how to begin to use what the enemy sabotaged you with for the glory of God.

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