Stop Trying And Do This Instead

​​What do you do when you hit a challenge in your marriage, work or ministry that you’re not being able to solve? Is your first response to just try harder?
 I have a type A personality:)
​​That means I am achievement oriented and find significance through solving problems.
However, this can be a huge sabotage for me (and you if you do the same thing) if you don’t know when to stop and problem pause (This is what I call, stopping before you get frustrated and you talk to God about it).
Of course, there are situations where people just give up too fast and don’t have mental toughness to stick things out, but what I see from a coaching perspective often times is that people become emotionally connected to what isn’t “working”. They just steel themselves up and do the same thing again. This keeps them stuck in an old identity and they stop moving forward because they keep trying and trying.
In today’s video I talk to you about how I learned how to shift out of “trying” after the birth of my third child and I couldn’t seem to lose weight. In other words I was trying to diet and the Lord spoke to me to stop trying and come to him so he could break down for me exactly what to do. In today’s video I share with you what was at the root of my trying harder and sabotaging myself. 
Because here’s the truth, when we follow Jesus, the yoke is easy and the burden is light.

​We are given GRACE to build results. I lost 30 pounds in three months without exercising and I never went back to dieting and trying harder with food. This is always a whole 8 week course I have available in my membership area if you would like to receive training on this. 

Faith forward and see you in the comments! 

Love, Bec:)

 

Becky Harmon is an identity coach, intercessor and business leader. Her success in these arenas has placed her in demand as a personal advisor to ministry and marketplace leaders world-wide. Her personal experience of growing up in an alcoholic home, struggling with how to overcome food & alcohol addictions, depression, and financial sabotages through her identity in Christ rather than self-help, led her to develop her own out of the box coaching systems. To discover the specific attacks that accompany each part of your walk with Christ and the strategies you can implement to be an overcomer,  order 4 Phases of Spiritual Warfare. Available on Amazon and Kindle. 

Women Teaching Men: Success Or Sabotage Biblically?

Yesterday, I talked on my business Facebook page about an Instagram post my daughter Abby did talking about how thankful she was that the Lord has graced her to make disciples, teach and lead.

But a really good question was asked on my page… “Do you believe women can teach men in the church”.

My response is below and is very simple.

First, we need to think about the mandate that Christ gave us in Matthew 28. Who was it addressed to?

And today in our modern world of internet, marketplace leadership…where is the church?

The second part of my response is in regard to the tension that I see women create for other women.  I share the questions I ask those who question my authority to preach and teach in the church and outside of it.

I’ll explain more in this week’s video, see you in the comments! 

Becky Harmon is an identity coach, intercessor and business leader. Her success in these arenas has placed her in demand as a personal advisor to ministry and marketplace leaders world-wide. Her personal experience of growing up in an alcoholic home, struggling with how to overcome food & alcohol addictions, depression, and financial sabotages through her identity in Christ rather than self-help, led her to develop her own out of the box coaching systems. To discover the specific attacks that accompany each part of your walk with Christ and the strategies you can implement to be an overcomer,  order 4 Phases of Spiritual Warfare. Available on Amazon and Kindle. 

Pulling The Jesus Card

I have an essential training today that if you choose not to be offended by, will help you build grace and more authenticity into your life.

Sabotage=>Don’t pull the Jesus card with people when you’re making decisions. Sound thought processes are based on two things. Logic and serving everyone involved. Typically people who start quoting bible text at you during a confrontation are doing so because they are trying to justify why they feel entitled to have their way.

When Jesus leads you to a decision, it’s mission-minded and will bring life to everyone involved.  There will be a fruit that will be established and can be discerned quickly.

There might be times that a coach, mentor or spouse will ask you to move forward on something and I had had clients tell me they pulled the Jesus card when they didn’t get the response they wanted to get from my client. I have also personally experienced people threatening me by quoting scripture when I did not give in to their demands that were clearly selfish and fear-driven. So, I am speaking directly about what I have coached hundreds of people through as well as how I respond when this happens.

  1. In context of  marriage… as I have coached A LOT of women through this with control freak husbands. If you’re married, wonderful that Jesus told you to do something but one small detail. You aren’t one anymore. You’re two. So, you should not move forward until you’re spouse feels comfortable because of you once you pull the Jesus card, you shut down the whole conversation. Because I don’t know about you, but I’m not going to argue with Jesus. I mean, come on. That invites a lot of potential lightening strikes and the ground opening up to swallow me. I would rather just watch the fruit of what “Jesus” told you and see if it pans out or not. If its spirit led, you’re going to have peace, right living and results that you can use to train someone else with.  In other words, the cycle of sabotage in your life is going to end. Your marriage gets better not more strained. People respect you, not resent you for bullying them. Because when you obey Jesus, you are lifted out of your situation and resurrection power is released.

If it was merely your will because you didn’t want to deal with your consequences, come under more Lordship or didn’t want to do what you’re spouse or mentor suggested…guess what? YOU GET TO GO AROUND THE MOUNTAIN ANOTHER 1,347 times. Why? Because God is pretty patient and he doesn’t push accountability or mentoring down anyone’s throat. He just lets you get tired of the stupidity and frustrating results. I’m just keeping it real for you, not trying to be offensive. It’s important to be authentic, NOT RELIGIOUS!

So, here is the kind of things you don’t want to pull the Jesus card for as it lessens your authority:

  • Boundaries on your time. You are called to be mission-minded and invest time into what God has revealed is your purpose and who you do that mission with. You don’t need to tell people that you prayed about it and Jesus said no. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for being purposed about your time nor should you feel guilty for actually thinking strategically about your life. Just say no but thank you for offering the opportunity!
  • Decisions that you think you’re friend, parent, boss, pastor, spouse might not be in agreement with. That is not going to work well for you trust me. Manipulation is witchcraft to God.
  • Boundaries that someone has asked you to be considerate of and you’re not liking them or it’s not the way you would do things. When you threaten people or accuse them of a lack of Lordship, the ship is going to sink and you may not have any other recourse after this so don’t pull that card unless you’re ready to end the relationship and you have been very prayerful about your decision.

SUCCESS=>

  1. This video will help you understand how to manage your time more efficiently. When your idea is clear you won’t be easily manipulated by others. If you receive an invitation that you are just not comfortable with, spend a day in prayer asking God to show you why you’re feeling a check about it. It’s either one of two things. Not the time for this or consider you just don’t want to die in your flesh. God will speak to you clearly about how to move forward but just remember, just say yes or no!
  2. Apologize quickly if you have unintentionally violated someone’s boundaries.

Remember…Save the Jesus card for those times when you’re being pressed, and you took the time in prayer to seek God’s will and you’re ready to deal with the consequences this statement makes. Anything else lessens your authority.

Faith Forward! Love, Bec:)

Becky Harmon is an identity coach, intercessor and business leader. Her success in these arenas has placed her in demand as a personal advisor to ministry and marketplace leaders world-wide. Her personal experience of growing up in an alcoholic home, struggling with how to overcome food & alcohol addictions, depression, and financial sabotages through her identity in Christ rather than self-help, led her to develop her own out of the box coaching systems. To discover the specific attacks that accompany each part of your walk with Christ and the strategies you can implement to be an overcomer,  order 4 Phases of Spiritual Warfare. Available on Amazon and Kindle. 

How To Pray And Bless Your Enemies Practically

Today, I want to share with you how to pray for the people that are causing you to feel bitter and resentful.

Why do we want to do this? Well first, unforgiveness will kill your clarity and every bit of purpose you are called to. It’s SPIRITUAL WARFARE that has to be overcome by PRAYER.

I have been betrayed. Disappointed. Let down. But every single time the enemy came in to steal my peace and my hope…like a FLOOD the spirit of God lifted up a standard, and I was promoted. I believe this in part was due to what I am going to share with you today so listen, this is one of the best tips I have for you if you feel stuck in past conflicts and relational traumas.

You’re going to pray very specifically and consistently for this person. I tell people to pray for a year if necessary on a daily basis. Many times we just give people platitudes that are generic and don’t bring them to the personal pain and suffering in the cross. It’s reasonable Christianity to pray for those who mistreat and persecute you unjustly.

Everything you want in your own life and need RIGHT NOW, you’re going to pray for them to receive a powerful blessing. Here’s some I have helped clients work through. I learned this by implementing it and seeing the results in my own life. This works SO POWERFULLY you’ll be amazed by the freedom and joy you feel after a very short time. I have even written out prayers for my clients with these issues.

  1. Bitter Divorce. You’re going to pray financial provision that is abundant for this individual. That their heart heals from the abandonment, they have felt. You’re going to pray against any assignment of rejection coming against them. You’re going to pray that God sends them a new spouse that is under Lordship and parents out of a revelation of feeling deep love and highly favored by God.
  2. You got fired. You’re going to pray that God sends the leadership team or your ex-boss fabulous, spirit-filled employees who are on fire for God and walk in authority. You’re going to pray a financial blessing on the whole company. That their business will explode with profits and they will run the company with integrity.
  3. You have family that is addicted to… That the Lord will bless them with a long life and great peace. That he provides money for them and they use that to make right choices. That they know how to receive and give God’s abundant love and be sent to serve others out of their own overcoming message. That the Lord uses for good what the enemy means to destroy them with.
  4. You’ve been molested or sexually traumatized. You’re going to pray for this individual that they receive the love of Christ. That they can break free from the shame, guilt, and condemnation that they are under and that they receive a revelation of their identity in Christ. That they find good friends that help them safe, forgiven and free. That they can walk in wholeness in their sexuality.

And here’s the thing, praying like this will KILL your flesh, and you will walk under the PROMOTION of God.

Becky Harmon is an identity coach, intercessor and business leader. Her success in these arenas has placed her in demand as a personal advisor to ministry and marketplace leaders world-wide. Her personal experience of growing up in an alcoholic home, struggling with how to overcome food & alcohol addictions, depression, and financial sabotages through her identity in Christ rather than self-help, led her to develop her own out of the box coaching systems. To discover the specific attacks that accompany each part of your walk with Christ and the strategies you can implement to be an overcomer,  order 4 Phases of Spiritual Warfare. Available on Amazon and Kindle. 

How To Process Emotional Pain Practically

One of the biggest challenges I have seen my clients struggle with over the years is not knowing how to process emotional pain and stress correctly. It’s probably one of the most important things you can put in place in your life because it affects how your children respond to rejection, change, and stress. Will they choose to medicate themselves during pain or will they turn to God and actions that will help them make right decisions.

I believe this is one of the make or break issues for maintaining a bold identity and also overcoming spiritual warfare, so I wanted to break this down practically for you. First, in life, no one is immune to pain. It’s only a matter of time before your heart get’s broken, you experience financial stress, or you simply can’t manage one more activity due to your schedule. Somethings got to give, and typically this is the breaking point in people’s leadership model. They let go of what they know they need to do to stay healthy.

Your leadership model is what you do consistently, every single day to help you function at your best and stay focused on the goals God have given you. Usually, when people tell me they struggle with double-mindedness or inconsistent, they have never been taught to put their leadership model into place and make that their number one priority for the day.

And here’s what I want you to know, if you grew up in an addiction based or shame-based home, you most likely FEEL GUILTY for implementing your leadership model without compromise. In other words in fear-based or shame-based home, there is NO LEADERSHIP because the idol takes precedent and everyone in the family enables to keep it in place. If you try and keep your leadership model in place and resist the enabling, you are told you’re selfish! So, it’s important for you to know that NORMAL is to have a leadership model and prioritize that because it helps you stay emotionally, physically and spiritually healthy.

I have three things I ask a client to do when they begin in my Leadership program. The first is to get up at 5 am to read the word and have a sweet prayer time. (That means you have to go to bed earlier). The second is to block 30 to 60 minutes for exercise before their day begins because it boosts their metabolism and helps them avoid internalizing stress. (Introverts are famous for over thinking and exercising forces them to work off repressing emotions). The last is to write down their vision they want to accomplish for the year because without a clearly written vision; you will never say NO to things that distract you. Most likely if you are struggling with people pleasing, you have not implemented your leadership model consistently, or you feel guilty for doing so.

Here are five steps to take when you begin to experience sabotaging circumstances that are causing you emotional pain.

  1. Prioritize your prayer time and exercise without guilt.  It goes into the I WILL DO THIS UNLESS I AM BLEEDING FROM A MAJOR ARTERY. Prayer and exercise are the two things that will equip you to navigate this situation and make good decisions through it. It is also much easier to keep your emotions under control when you are channeling them.
  2. Do not think over and over again about the past. What went wrong, what you should have said, what you could’ve done better. It’s faith forward! Pray and ask God what steps to take to help you resolve your situation and take those actions with confidence that you prayed and God works for good what the enemy means for evil.
  3. Pick out a scripture to keep your faith-focused. When you find yourself worrying or projecting what could go wrong, confess this scripture out loud. If you have to do it 100 times a day, do it.
  4. When people ask you what they can do for you to help, let them. I have two rules during stress. I only tell people who I know will pray and can do something practical to help me. The truth is, we are a family in Christ. Families support each other during stress. Don’t push people away when you’re hurting. It is sabotaging for you and them.
  5. Offer to pray with people and to walk with them personally. It makes a difference. What I find is people begin to UNLOAD the pain during prayer, walking, running because it helps them start to let go of the control they have been locking down the pain with. I have seen absolute miracles from these two practical things and you will too.

Becky Harmon is an identity coach, intercessor and business leader. Her success in these arenas has placed her in demand as a personal advisor to ministry and marketplace leaders world-wide. Her personal experience of growing up in an alcoholic home, struggling with how to overcome food & alcohol addictions, depression, and financial sabotages through her identity in Christ rather than self-help, led her to develop her own out of the box coaching systems. To discover the specific attacks that accompany each part of your walk with Christ and the strategies you can implement to be an overcomer,  order 4 Phases of Spiritual Warfare. Available on Amazon and Kindle. 

Does Fear-Based Or Faith-Based Thinking Define Your Life?

I have struggled with anxiety probably my whole walk with Christ. So, there’s my thorn for you to touch and feel.

And let me tell you, it’s one of those gifts that people just don’t talk about very often. I say it’s a gift because it’s one of the way’s God has answered my prayer for my life to have a purpose.  So, as you read today, this is not a lecture friend. This is my life, and I want to tell you that through Christ, God will do for you what he has done for me if you don’t quit. You can overcome the stranglehold fear has on your life and not let it dictate to you how your marriage, family, and career will be played out.

I thought I was broken mentally because I couldn’t see myself being faith-filled, gracious, kind or content. Couldn’t see myself making sound,  favorable decisions that helped me rule my queendom with power.  From the time my feet hit the floor in the morning, life was a struggle. As I pushed the coffee button, I heard in my mind….

I feel so sad. I hope today I will feel loved. I hope things go okay today with Jay and the kids. I hope I don’t get overwhelmed or anxious today. I hope God provides for me and I can pay that bill. I hope I am in the will of God. I hope my back doesn’t hurt. I hope things work out with so and so. This was my mindset. I hoped for change, but I never committed to it. That’s because change required me to be accountable to someone for my thoughts and actions. The change was RISKY. I didn’t know that learning how to THINK in a faith-based way just required a training and daily action. That it was GROW-ABLE!

I told myself there must be something wrong with me mentally. Maybe I had cancer somewhere in my body. Maybe I had a chemical imbalance. I even had two separate pastors who told Jay that I had psychological problems because of stupid stuff I did because of fear. Imagine that. No one saw in leadership potential in me that just needed refinement or training but rather In the very place in the body of Christ I am called to minister in, (coaching, equipping and releasing) I was told I was damaged by significant authority figures. I share this because this might have happened to you also and you need to understand….

The enemy will always find a vessel to reinforce to you his plans for your life. WATCH OUT. Be sober; it’s unrestricted spiritual warfare!  But here’s the truth. I didn’t have mental problems. What I had was an internal identity theft that had been going on since I was a child. Probably for multiple generations in my family. And the old Becky was so accustomed to being a victim of my disappointing thoughts about who I was and what God could do through me, that I  simply couldn’t see myself in any other way other than as someone who had a constant struggle. I performed for love spiritually, physically and emotionally with my closest relationships. I was comfortable with pain. I deserved pain. The pain had been my best friend for many years, and it saturated my physical body. The more freedom I tried to walk in, the more manifestations of anxiety I went through.This is normal. You will have PHYSICAL signs when you have an assignment of fear in your life. You have to train yourself to respond robotically just like the military trains you in boot camp and with a system in place, or you will not win.

Here are some of the daily symptoms I had and you might too:

  1. Couldn’t keep a thought straight in my mind. Super jumpy and sound sensitive. Terrible headaches at a migraine level anytime I went to confront anything in my life that overwhelmed me.
  2. My heart would race, I would get tunnel vision and stop being able to process. I couldn’t hear or make a decision. It would take me a full day to recover and think straight.
  3. I was exhausted to the point I had to go to bed but then couldn’t sleep. Cried constantly.
  4. I had no energy and was out of shape. Was a chronic asthmatic. Always coughing or chest was tight.
  5. Felt disillusioned with life and people. Had no vision and couldn’t formulate one.
  6. Woke up constantly at night and tossed and turned.
  7. I was moody, demanding and impatient with people. No contentment, constant drama.
  8. Didn’t want to go hang out with anyone who had joy. If I walked alone, I would be bombed with thoughts someone was going to attack, rape or harm me.
  9. I was cynical and sarcastic. Always second guessed people’s motivations. I couldn’t love sacrificially because I was saturated in FEAR!
  10. Had to drink alcohol to decompress or relax.
  11. Over processed every decision I made, struggled with perfectionism, taking action and what people thought of me. I was saturated with idolatry.

Boy wouldn’t that be a popular doctor to go to. Doctor Deliverance:) Hi, I would like to make an appointment to see if I have the sickness of idolatry. Sure, that will be $250.00 for the initial consult and be here 15 minutes early to fill out the paper work on how many generations in your family has been rebelling against God with perverseness, rebellion, gluttony, fornication, and drunkenness. Here’s your prescription: Pray for one hour a day, exercise instead of eating or drink, memorize the word of God, worship him instead of your needs. Spend any extra money on someone who is more destitute than you are. 

Insert Crickets. Nope, that’s way too easy.

Here’s the truth=> If you are not advancing daily into what you believe is God’s will for your life, what your heart desires, moving where you think God has called you to move and doing what you believe will bless not just yourself or others, then fear is defining your identity not Christ. If you are going forward because of finances or what other’s may think of your decision, waiting for permission, fear is defining you, not Christ.

What I found is CHRIST makes a way where this is no way WHEN YOU DECIDE TO OVERCOME THE FEAR. Not before. Why? Because he wants you to be dependent on him.

I had to go in my weakness and people see me “needy”. To training for speaking when I was melting down with migraines. We moved to Atlanta with a team to church plant when we lost THOUSANDS and THOUSANDS to do so. I decided to train for a marathon in the middle of a fear of cancer because of rectal bleeding spasms. I launched a business during the recession and after a million dollar ID theft with no resources financially. Nothing my friend. NOTHING has come to me without a fight. And most likely it won’t for you either. Get used to it!

I dreamed bigger by the grace of God because I wanted to be a giant slayer in my generation and break free from the idolatry of fear.  Now, I had people suggest medication, but my personal decision was that I wanted to press through it with the word of God, herbs, vitamins, and exercise because I knew what I got the breakthrough it would help others. When I was dealing with thoughts of harming myself I promised my friends and family I would tell them if I considered following through and would be willing to go on medication if it came to that point. Which it never has. God has used this weakness to minister to many people now, and I want to encourage you that if you will choose to look at where you are weak as an INVITATION for Christ to be glorified in your life then whatever your giant is, your weakness will be the stone that brings him down. I have noticed now over decades that so many leaders will go down massive self-sabotaging roads just because they won’t admit they are stuck in fear-based thinking. It’s more socially acceptable to say you’re an alcoholic and call that at a disease than to say you’re fearful.  Why don’t more people just admit,

I NEED DELIVERANCE FROM FEAR, PEOPLE PLEASING AND NARCISSISM!

I can tell you why I didn’t for the longest time. I didn’t want to admit I was saturated with ANXIETY and negativity and that I had control over it.  Seeing myself as fearful was a real eye-opener because I had built up so many walls of “cool-ness,” self-sufficiency and what I wanted people to see me as. I had to admit all my relationships needed to change and boundaries had to go into my life to raise my leadership level.  And then I began to learn how to practice the presence of God which was life changing for me and one of the main things I teach to those who struggle with fear. Friend, there are PRACTICAL actions you can take without attending a fire-walking seminar, listening to self-help audio’s, running to conference after conference for a religious high.  The first step is admitting this is you and you want to be conformed to the Lord’s identity and not the plans the enemy has for you. Another is understanding that you will have to let God work this through your life in his timing and not your’s. And that feeling out of control makes you HUMAN not broken.

Also, if this is something you struggle with also and need support, I want to invite you to join my community, it’s free. There you will be challenged to break out of this idolatry in a supportive, focused way.

Faith forward my friend because God has a POWERFUL and BOLD plan for your life that is filled with righteousness, peace, and joy in the HOLY GHOST!

Love, love, Bec:)

Becky Harmon is an identity coach, intercessor and business leader. Her success in these arenas has placed her in demand as a personal advisor to ministry and marketplace leaders world-wide. Her personal experience of growing up in an alcoholic home, struggling with how to overcome food & alcohol addictions, depression, and financial sabotages through her identity in Christ rather than self-help, led her to develop her own out of the box coaching systems. To discover the specific attacks that accompany each part of your walk with Christ and the strategies you can implement to be an overcomer,  order 4 Phases of Spiritual Warfare. Available on Amazon and Kindle. 

7 Questions To Help You Discover Your Purpose

Every day I coach people who are desiring to grow into a more significant life. It could be that they have found themselves in an unfortunate place of an unwanted divorce, illness or layoff and they have lost their vision. At times people have built success, but now they are ready to go to the next level. Other times people just feel like they haven’t found their boldest identity zone due to a lack of clarity on how to do that work.

I created the following resource for my team to help them get more clarity on their life purpose and what they are called to leadership-wise. Whether you are a stay at home Mom wanting to bring in some extra money, empty nester, or don’t feel energized by your current vision. If so, this 45-minute audio is going to answer some questions for you so that you can begin to apply yourself in prayer to live the kind of life that is going to fuel you. This is pure training but incredibly powerful if you are ready to do the work to live your best life before God.

Here are some of the result’s you will get from this call:

1. The first question that everyone should ask who is committed to authentic Christian life.

2. The one thing that will keep you balanced and on overflow rather than living in crisis.

3. How to be child-like in faith practically.

4. How to think about your life through a lens of philanthropy and find you’re calling.

5. The one question to ask if you have to raise money fast.

6. Recovering lost success that you’ve forgotten about.

7. Why you want to ask your friends this question to stay in your boldest identity zone.

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Becky Harmon is an identity coach, intercessor and business leader. Her success in these arenas has placed her in demand as a personal advisor to ministry and marketplace leaders world-wide. Her personal experience of growing up in an alcoholic home, struggling with how to overcome food & alcohol addictions, depression, and financial sabotages through her identity in Christ rather than self-help, led her to develop her own out of the box coaching systems. To discover the specific attacks that accompany each part of your walk with Christ and the strategies you can implement to be an overcomer,  order 4 Phases of Spiritual Warfare. Available on Amazon and Kindle. 

I’m Done With Ministry. Are You?

This is a guest post by Anna Latshaw. I followed this up for my Leadership Team with a 60-minute question and answer time by Anna herself. 

I’m Done with Doing Ministry! Are You?

Ministry. What feeling does that word evoke? Is it a dirty word? Are you burned out? Do you feel taken advantage of. Maybe in your heart, you’re even “done” with ministry?

If that is the way you feel, could it be that you have fallen into the trap of doing ministry?

How’s this mindset switch?

What if we were created to not gain a sense of BEING, out of DOING. But to DO out of a sense of BEING?

When we try to do ministry before we know who we are – we will gain identity from ministry and that’s not healthy. Authentic, life-giving ministry flows out of a secure identity, an already established identity, a comprehensive understanding of who we are in Christ.

Eph 2:10 For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand that we would walk in them.

Can you see the order this verse flows in? We are to know: That we have been created by God, in a very intentional and expert manner. That we are empowered by Jesus to do good works. That God has already prepared us for the purpose He has created us for. When that is the case, our good works or ministry will flow out of who we already are and what He has done. Our being!

As John 7:38 says: He who believes in Me, from his innermost BEING will flow rivers of living water”.

As we seek God – to know Him and become more like Him – ministry becomes a natural overflow – not something we do or manufacture. It’s not a title or position – it’s an authentic and continual overflow of our relationship with God.

It’s not contrived and it’s not something we put on & off. Ministry isn’t a compartment of our lives. Our lives minister. We comfort others with the comfort we have received. Out of our bellies flow rivers of living waters. Those who have received much, will give much.

Think about a Rolex watch. A Rolex costs so much money because of the fine craftsmanship that goes into making it. Only watches that meet the highest standards of excellence are worthy to bear the Rolex name. But the minute (excuse the pun) a watch has been branded with a Rolex logo and put onto a shop floor for sale – that watch isn’t trying to earn the credibility of a Rolex. It IS a Rolex. It functions out of the craftsmanship and purpose it was created for. In the same way we are not trying to become children of God, loved and approved by Him, chosen for His purposes and bearing His name. That IS who we already are. Our good works aren’t something we do to gain significance- they flow out of who we are. We are branded by the creator as fully approved and absolutely worthy of His name.

Unfortunately, the problem is that, even in the church we still allow ourselves to be defined by worldly standards. Think about it? How does the world get definition about “who they are”? It’s by what they do! If you were to ask someone to tell you a little bit about themselves – probably the first thing they will mention is what they do – “Well, I am a doctor, or a teacher, or a pastor, etc.”
Every definition of self is typically a reflection of a job, a position, a relationship status, (i.e. husband, wife, single), our talents or hobbies, our accomplishments, our academic success, etc.

If we are to minister to the world – shouldn’t we have a good news message that offers something other than what they already know? “Hey, come join our church, you can come and get your sense of significance by serving in the kids church, or handing out meals to homeless people or leading worship. Come and find out how awesome you are. The more you “do” the more we will pat you on the back and give you bigger titles! Something is wrong with that picture.

No wonder there is an exodus from traditional church. We are not inviting people into a true gospel experience. We are inviting them into works dressed up to look a little more pretty. But it is works and it still equals death.

The good news is – that even if others around you aren’t living out of this sure identity in God. You still can. It’s not that we are to abandon church – but you can take responsibility to ensure you function healthily within it!

We aren’t better Christians because we do more!

For by grace you have been saved through faith; and that not of yourselves, it is the gift of God; not as a result of works, so that no-one may boast. Eph 2:8

It is a lie when we think that ‘doing’ more ministry makes us a “better Christian”. If we understand the finished work of the cross, the wholeness, healing, freedom and righteousness that was attained for us as a free gift by the death & resurrection of Jesus. Then we realize our righteousness is only attained through Jesus. It’s not possible to earn a free gift. It is simply to be received. The moment we truly receive that free gift – our life becomes a ministry. You now have something to offer a broken world. “I was lost but now I am found, I was blind but now I see.”\

Christianity was never supposed to be a more sanctified version of works. It is a radical encounter with a living God, where we discover that we are loved, not because of what we do; That we are successful, not because of what we have achieved; That we are approved of, not by our merit – but because of who God says we are. Because we are His child. Created in His image. And God sent His Son to die for us in order that we can be in relationship with Him & free from the crippling and merciless standards of the world.

Think about Jesus’ ministry. He is our greatest example. He never had a title. He was mostly unrecognized by the organized church. But He knew where he came from and where He was going – John 13:3. He only did what He saw the Father doing – John 5:19. Jesus’ entire ministry flowed out of relationship with God and out of a secure identity. Knowing that He was the Son of God, all power was given to Him and that His purpose was to do the will of God.

It’s as simple as that folks. You are created by God. He lives inside of you and He has empowered you to walk out His purposes for your life. Your life is a ministry. The church or ministry can’t take away from you any of your joy, sense of value or purpose if you don’t give it the power to. The only reason those things can be robbed from you is if you are trying to get those needs met through ministry. If we know our value, our joy is in serving the Lord because of what He has done for us, and our purpose is already established in Christ – ministry becomes an expression of those truths in your life.

Enjoy being who God has created you to be today. Ponder on the reality that you have the living God on the inside of you & go and be a light to the world around you in a way that only you can. And let your river flow!

[guestpost]Anna Latshaw is a daughter of God. Out of that identity, Anna Latshaw currently pastors Dwelling Place Atlanta, a church in Marietta, Georgia that she and her husband Dan have helped plant. She is also a full-time mother of four beautiful girls. Born and raised in England, Anna has had the heart for vulnerable children since she was a child. This passion has led her to actively serve the poor in Atlanta and South Africa and to participate in short-term missions to orphanages in Romania, Russia, and Uganda. After being introduced to Pastor Elijah Sebuchu, Anna founded Hands of Love USA in May of 2007. Through her fundraising efforts, the second Hands of Love orphanage and school in Kiteezi, Uganda was begun.[/guestpost]

Becky Harmon is an identity coach, intercessor and business leader. Her success in these arenas has placed her in demand as a personal advisor to ministry and marketplace leaders world-wide. Her personal experience of growing up in an alcoholic home, struggling with how to overcome food & alcohol addictions, depression, and financial sabotages through her identity in Christ rather than self-help, led her to develop her own out of the box coaching systems. To discover the specific attacks that accompany each part of your walk with Christ and the strategies you can implement to be an overcomer,  order 4 Phases of Spiritual Warfare. Available on Amazon and Kindle. 

The Difference Between A Vain Imagination And A Kingdom Vision

There is a big difference between a vain dream that glorifies the flesh and an authentic kingdom vision.

A Kingdom Vision Vs. A Worldly Vision

A Carnal or Selfish Vision Will~Reflect what the world values which is sexual power, money, and fame. It will require you to conform to this in your dress, speech, and actions.  For example, if you believe God has promoted you in the entertainment industry,  your job is to adhere to biblical standards with boldness. This will give you an opportunity to express why you will not take actions in your dress or speech that do not glorify God. This is so others may be convicted by the righteousness of Christ within you.  If you feel like you will not be able to be hired or keep your job if you do not do what is required to maintain it, then you need mentoring to birth more courage, or you need to immediately quit and trust God for provision. Authentic promotion does not sabotage your own faith or cause other’s to stumble for your “liberty or favor.” Duck Dynasty is a great example of this. They have grown from a simple business, then to a cable show to a multi-million dollar empire. Their simple dinner time blessing reaches millions yearly.

A Godly Vision Or Dream Will~ Take the existing gifts and talents you have already and grow them into results that will benefit others. Even though you are persecuted, rejected, suffer loss financially or oppressed for a season you will be able to stay consistent serving, and people will be convicted by your steadfastness, your courage, and your faith. Think of Joseph in the Old Testament, Joyce Meyers starting in her living room and local church and Chick-Filet for business. They started out with one yummy chicken sandwich, opened a location, close on Sundays are completely militant about their core beliefs and faith. And they grow every time they are boycotted for it:)

A Carnal Dream Or Delusion Will~ Not come to pass and will confuse people scripturally. One of the first questions to ask anyone who wants to give you input for your life or vision is if they believe Jesus Christ is the only way, the truth, and the light. If the answer is yes, but….then you don’t listen to one more statement. It’s not Jesus + or – anything. Secondly, people who are suffering with narcissism or under religious deception are not able to clearly articulate the results they can provide within a reasonable amount of time.  They can be great speakers and very persuasive, but they won’t have testimonials or results that can be tested over time and that you can see the fruit from.  They will have the endless talk about what they believe God has called them to with no result’s that ever come out of it which is characteristic of vain imaginations. Vain imaginations are grandiose and seldom practical. Like, Hey, that makes sense. The next step is to tell people we can help them produce this, this and this. Third, if God has spoken to you, then what you said you were going to do happens within a short time span, and it glorifies Christ. It’s just that simple. If you keep hearing God tell you to do something over and over and you can’t get provision for it, then consider you’re either not hearing God, or you need to move in a different direction. Provision always follows compelling Christ-like vision.

A Godly Vision Or Dream Will~ Give you the endurance to overcome the pain and obstacles you will require seeing it come to pass. For example, my youngest son Joe is in Bootcamp for the Marines. When he joined, he was willing to endure the drill sergeant screaming at him 24 hours a day, the endless physical fatigue, swim test, gas chamber and lastly the crucible at the end which includes a complete test of mental toughness. His platoon will hike 48 miles, with 45lbs of gear, full 29 team building obstacles courses, with only two meals and 6 hours of sleep. When they are done, they will be handed their Marine pin. And here’s the thing, he’s submitted himself to this process because he has a vision of WHO HE WILL BECOME IDENTITY WISE AT THE END OF this process. If you don’t have a clear and compelling vision for your life that FUELS you, when you encounter hardship you give in because pain is to be avoided, not embraced on your road to significance. Again, this seems simple, but you can create a vision that fuels you regardless of how untalented or how little money you have because God promotes through stewardship!

What are your thoughts? Faith forward, Love, Bec:)

Becky Harmon is an identity coach, intercessor and business leader. Her success in these arenas has placed her in demand as a personal advisor to ministry and marketplace leaders world-wide. Her personal experience of growing up in an alcoholic home, struggling with how to overcome food & alcohol addictions, depression, and financial sabotages through her identity in Christ rather than self-help, led her to develop her own out of the box coaching systems. To discover the specific attacks that accompany each part of your walk with Christ and the strategies you can implement to be an overcomer,  order 4 Phases of Spiritual Warfare. Available on Amazon and Kindle. 

10 Ways To Be A BOLD Spiritual Mother

Before we begin, let me explain the title. I am writing this blog for all the women who are tired of watching the enemy swallow up their friends, family and they are ready to be the kind of woman who creates tension to the enemy. Without apologies.

If you have never had someone you love cut themselves with razor blades, attempt suicide multiple times, sabotage themselves with addictions, and other assorted life-defining decisions that delay’s them for decades, then you might not understand the level of “I don’t care what anyone thinks” focus you have to go to in order to spiritually rescue someone who is captured by the enemy like this.

If you are here because you want to ignite other women with an overcoming mentality for the kingdom, then get your coffee because you and I are going to talk about how you can take care of business.

10 Ways To Be A Bold Spiritual Mother

 1. Model fearing God and not people pleasing.  You do this by getting your affirmation from the Lord through prayer and worship. Teach women how to get on their face, crying out to God to be delivered from needing affirmation from people. Make prayer your number one priority daily and set aside 1 hour a morning. If you want to impart boldness, you’re going to have to walk in authority, know your identity in Christ and know how to stand during tension when everyone else is crumbling. God builds this resolve in you by creating situations where you feel rejected, and you have to pioneer alone. Get used to it. It’s boot camp for strong women.

2. Model being prepared to be the one in the room who say’s what no one else will and takes action alone. Be submitted, not stupid. Most men love this as they want to be respected themselves for their leadership. There will be a few that will pull the “You’re not submitted card.” Ignore them and let your fruit and result’s praise you in the gate. Value your calling enough to set clear boundaries about what you will do and what you won’t tolerate. If you find yourself compromising, repent and get another woman in prayer to pray over you firmly and remind you WHO YOU ARE until you regain your strength.

3. Model a compelling vision that makes other women say, “Dang. That’s what I want”. I’m not talking about being perfect. I’m talking about being bold, faithful and not apologizing for wanting the best out of life and your relationships.  Understand you will get back to back spiritual warfare for living a transformational life that impacts other women. Pray that God will allow you to finish strong in a heroic way that leaves a legacy for your daughters and other women.

4. Realize everything out of your mouth is either going to position you as a victim or as a victor. Memorize the word of God. Declare the scriptures when you feel weak and when the enemy is screaming to intimidate you. Jesus spoke the word to the devil. He didn’t think it demurely. Have a big mouth and channel it against the devil.

5. Surround yourself with women who shoot for huge goals in their leadership, their life and in the marketplace. See yourself as the pioneer, get into a team or organization that affirms you for thinking outside the box. Don’t play it safe as second in command. Be all in before God and who you are accountable to. Be submitted and coachable by those you trust. There will be a time when you can’t hear God, the warfare is so thick, and you will need those women around you.  Model victory even when you feel completely tapped. Embrace the fight and don’t run from pain. You will become what you speak over yourself.

6. Encourage other women to get started with what grace God has given them even if they are 16.  Get on your face in prayer, fight for the weak, come up with ideas on how to impact for Christ and run like the race horse you are. Start a Bible study in your neighborhood, school or workplace. The key is immediate action. You’re a mother in 9 month’s not nine years. Quit waiting for maturity. You don’t need a theology degree or anyone’s permission. Christ died, and the apostles didn’t attend theology school. They were out making disciples right after the Holy Ghost was poured out. You have your mission instructions in Matthew 28. Spiritual mothering is a mindset and revelation of authority. It comes when you’re ready to reproduce disciples for the kingdom. You won’t become a mother until you’re willing to advance the kingdom militantly.

7. When you find someone, you respect, insist on serving her. This will help you later weed out the people in your life who want to hang around you to soak and with no intention of doing any work themselves. Oh, sorry if that doesn’t sound very compassionate but here’s the truth.  I don’t want compassion. I want to win, and you need to surround yourself with other militant women. You have no time for people who don’t want to kick the devil’s teeth in. Take her out for breakfast with a steno pad and ask questions and shut your mouth. Run her errands, offer to clean her car, ask her if you can run with her, offer to match the socks in her sock basket. Do not take no for an answer. I did this with 2 or three women, and they let me in their friend circle when I was in my twenties. They were wealthy and wise. Bam. Your making powerful friends. One woman in your life like at this level of authority is all you need for turning into a female spiritual Rambo.

8. Give other women and your daughters permission to hear God for themselves, do the work and make mistakes.  Don’t be so quick to give solutions when other women are in pain. Pain makes people get on their face. Instead remind them of WHO they are AND WHAT THEY ARE CAPABLE OF WITH THE HOLY SPIRIT.  Encourage them to go to God for themselves and ask him specific questions on how to solve their problems. Teach them how to worship God, pray hard for hours and confess the word of God over a problem until they learn how to pull down strongholds themselves. Teach them how to fail big time and then go back to God the next day. Let them work through their salvation with fear and trembling; it builds mental toughness.

9. Model teaming. There are no lone Rangerette’s. You know why? They got picked off by the enemy. When the obstacle is life-threatening, you need people partnering with you in prayer who know their authority and how to be RELENTLESS until they get the victory. Teach her not to worry about what anyone thinks about her other than God. That’s the only person she will be standing before at the end, and if she does what you tell her, she will hear, “Well done, good and faith butt-kicking woman.”

10. Tell me you’re strategy below so you can help other women with your wisdom!

Faith Forward, Bec:)

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Becky Harmon is an identity coach, intercessor and business leader. Her success in these arenas has placed her in demand as a personal advisor to ministry and marketplace leaders world-wide. Her personal experience of growing up in an alcoholic home, struggling with how to overcome food & alcohol addictions, depression, and financial sabotages through her identity in Christ rather than self-help, led her to develop her own out of the box coaching systems. To discover the specific attacks that accompany each part of your walk with Christ and the strategies you can implement to be an overcomer,  order 4 Phases of Spiritual Warfare. Available on Amazon and Kindle. 

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