Answer To “I Don’t Have Money”

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Dear Friend!

I receive so many gut wrenching emails from those who want to be part of my Leadership Team but feel limited by their current financial state.

In this video I explain how I use to struggle with the same mindset and lack until someone challenged me with the thought process I am going to share with you today. It deeply transformed not just my finances but me as a servant leader. This one video could change WHO surrounds you and what result’s you receive this year. It’s well worth the time to watch.

Love, Bec:)

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Becky Harmon is a coach, speaker, and entrepreneur. Her success in these arenas has placed her in demand as a personal advisor to ministry and marketplace leaders world-wide.  To discover how you can build an influential life and reach people for Christ out of the most sabotaging of circumstances, order 4 Phases of Spiritual Warfare. It breaks down the individual strategies and prayers you need at each phase of your walk to remember WHO YOU ARE and stay faith-filled through even the most difficult challenges. Purchase it today on Amazon and Kindle. 

 

How To Receive Provision From God & People

Imagine spending decades investing in a relationship with someone you actually respected only to find you when you go to the mailbox one day that you’re being served with divorce papers. Maybe you spent years being known for being robust and resilient, and you now have a debilitating illness and feel very confused and double-minded. Or maybe you did all the right things as a parent and yet your children are rebelling and wandering. Now, there is a heaviness on you that is suffocating and trying to squeeze the life right out of you. It could be rejection, addictions, fear in the form of illness, a lay-off, you now have a spiritual battle on your hands that could be lengthy and require deep fortitude to overcome.

But here’s an important question to answer if you want to push through this successfully.

Are you inadvertently placing a barrier between you and God’s provision?

The Lord allows spiritual warfare like this to take us through a refinement process and to create more action. Where you were, YESTERDAY is your old wine-skin and identity. Now, you need to be more assertive and take new action because he is trying to build GREATER LEADERSHIP in you.

Often this translates into your business or ministry into new levels of authority. But if during this spiritual warfare you are choosing to escape the pain by isolating yourself from others, eating, turning to alcohol or medicating activities like shopping, video games or computer games, you are placing a barrier between you and the revelation God wants to drop down to you to create SUCCESS.

Now, I know that seemed like a pretty strong statement to make but here’s the thing. I have been through this process over a dozen times, and I have come out the other side every time with a powerful new identity. New identities lead to promotion, favor and open doors you could never have opened yourself. So let me take you by the hand and explain to you how to get through this in a way that will release a supernatural wind into your life.

There is the process that has to be followed if you want the provision to flow.

Many times people become depressed (anger turned inward), leave churches and break off contact with the very people that can carry them through the pain they are in because during spiritual warfare they feel so….alone. Or maybe you have been considering anti-depressant drugs like I have a couple of times in my life because the weight of battle I was in just got too much for me. But here’s what I want you to know.

Emotional pain is an opportunity to see God’s miracle working power in a whole new way if you can embrace it rather than numb it. It causes us to cry out from the very depths of our being and brings a fire to our soul. Pain gives us an opportunity to be authentic and vulnerable. To receive from a place of weakness rather than results you have achieved through your performance. To see how God covers and protects you through the love, gifts and encouragement of others. I am a result oriented coach but where I make the greatest gains in my leadership and business is typically through seasons of pain where I am being stripped.

I am a result oriented coach but where I make the greatest gains in my leadership and business is typically through seasons of pain where I am being stripped. Spiritual warfare will either create greater holiness and intimacy or greater self-reliance that disconnects you even further from God and others who can help you.

One of the things that prevents people from doing identity work during tension is they have had multiple generations of people in their family who are under rejection spirits that have come through bi-polar, addictive, compulsive, narcissistic parents or (name the pain because everyone has it in their family). Now, that spiritual stronghold has become part of their FAMILY IDENTITY not just their personal identity. Now, you’re talking about an intergenerational demonic assignment that isn’t going to let go with one or two prayers.

Recognizing and yielding during warfare takes discernment, identity work and a team around you. Resisting medicating is some of strongest spiritual warfare you will receive. Why? Because it’s socially acceptable if not encouraged. But here’s what I tell my teams. Guaranteed, your mom and dad may have been saved, but they may not have been OVERCOMER’S. That’s an entirely different level that involves Lordship, deliverance and within teams that have a focused goal so that you are RELEASED properly. It’s like if your dad was in the military in the infantry, it doesn’t mean he knows how to be a SNIPER and SEAL that works on a specialized team. When you go through identity work, you are being prepared to ATTACK the enemy on his ground and take it back. It’s about the closest you are going to get to being a ranger or seal as you’re going to get in your spiritual life. You are moving from being just a Christian to a mature, seasoned warrior who is dangerous to the enemy.

I have seen God vindicate me in multitudes of places where I have been attempted to be shamed by the enemy. A matter of fact, let me encourage you with this. Where sin abounds. THAT MUCH MORE GRACE ABOUNDS.

Here is something for you to practice this week if you are in spiritual warfare and are ready to make a 100% commitment to receive a higher level of training.

Go to the Lord in prayer. Pray this:

Father, I recognize you are giving me the opportunity through this painful experience to take what the enemy meant for evil and TURN it into a resurrection experience that I can glorify you with. Lord, you are my high priest and live to make intercession for me 24 hours a day. I ask that you give me grace to not medicate the pain I am in. If on the cross Lord, you could resist the hyssop offered to you to numb your excruciating pain, I Lord through your strength can resist medicating my pain. Father, here’s the truth. I have become accustomed to turning to food, alcohol and these other things (name them) to ease my pain. I now have other Lords ruling over me other than you. I am the one who is putting up a barrier between us. Father, forgive me. I am like a sheep that has gone astray. I repent. I ask you to do the work to me you need to do to process through this pain correctly and see you bring me the provision my heart and life needs. I take authority in the name of Jesus over this spirit (name it) that is attacking my family, and I ask you Lord to vindicate me.

I love you. You’re called to greatness, and I want you to step into it. Join my Leadership Team if you need practical strategies for expanding your influence through your own identity and brand!

Love, Bec:)

Becky Harmon is a coach, speaker, and entrepreneur. Her success in these arenas has placed her in demand as a personal advisor to ministry and marketplace leaders world-wide.  To discover how you can build an influential life and reach people for Christ out of the most sabotaging of circumstances, order 4 Phases of Spiritual Warfare. It breaks down the individual strategies and prayers you need at each phase of your walk to remember WHO YOU ARE and stay faith-filled through even the most difficult challenges. Purchase it today on Amazon and Kindle. 

 

Men: 3 Keys To Gain More Respect In Your Marriage

If you are married to a strong woman who does not always see things eye to eye with you, there are practical things you can do to make your wife feel more secure in your leadership in times of transition or tension.

Ephesians 5:25-33 The Message

Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church~ a love marked by giving, not getting. Christ’s love makes the church whole. His words evoke her beauty. EVERYTHING he DOES AND SAYS is designed to bring the BEST out of her, dressing her in dazzling white silk, radiant with holiness. And that his how husbands ought to love their wives. They’re doing themselves a favor`since they’re already “one” in marriage. No one abuses his body, does he? No, he feeds and PAMPERS it. That’s how Christ treats us, the church since we are part of the body.

3 Keys To Make Your Wife Respect YOUR Leadership

  1. When you go to make a decision that you think your wife will have a different opinion on, do this: Pray for this ~ Father, I am trying to make the best decision I can, but I want you to know I am open to doing it differently. Ask him to confirm to you through your wife if this is a right direction. Then go to your wife, and tell her I HAVE BEEN PRAYING ABOUT THIS and I WANT YOUR THOUGHTS ON THIS. This is going to produce multiple things for you as a leader. First, your wife is going to feel more secure that you’re praying about decisions that impact her and the kids. Second, she’s going to feel valued that you had asked her opinion before you plowed ahead.
  2. If she disagrees with a decision, tell her: Thank you, I hadn’t seen that side of it, I am going to go back to God now (or talk to another leader about this before executing) and see if this is the right decision. The biggest mistakes are made when you are isolated, you have no male friends to run any resolution’s by and you’re trying to lead into new territory with no “intel” (you’re not reading books on the topic/talking to your sources who might know the region better or otherwise you’re just hoping you’re going to be successful with literally no training, preparation or advanced weaponry (prayer). If men looked at their marriages and families with a military perspective, they would be much more willing to get additional support in difficult seasons in their family.
  3. Take ownership of the results in your marriage and your family. This isn’t just a wedding tip though it will make your wife BRAG on your leadership, it’s a business teaming tip. Leadership means YOU OWN THE RESULTS no matter what happened or what goes wrong. That’s why most people don’t build successful long-term visions. It’s not your wife’s fault, it’s not your kid’s fault. It’s not the ministry or business team that was not cooperating or rebellious. It’s your ability to pray and lead effectively. Everything rises and falls on your leadership. Leadership is being willing to be evaluated, taking ownership when things go wrong without shift blaming and changing your style if what you’re doing isn’t working. You don’t need a year to examine your results. Sometimes Jay and I could see results from a decision in 2 days, sometimes two months. Jay has always been willing to change what isn’t working which had made me trust him more even during times when things seemed like they were going south.

Bottom line. We don’t want to be ordinary Christian leaders. We want to finish strong and win the war our culture is in. To win, you’re going to have to be willing to be different which is why I create communities. Need support to grow your leadership? Join my Leadership Team, your spouse receives a membership for no extra cost.

Love, Bec:)

Becky Harmon is a coach, speaker, and entrepreneur. Her success in these arenas has placed her in demand as a personal advisor to ministry and marketplace leaders world-wide.  To discover how you can build an influential life and reach people for Christ out of the most sabotaging of circumstances, order 4 Phases of Spiritual Warfare. It breaks down the individual strategies and prayers you need at each phase of your walk to remember WHO YOU ARE and stay faith-filled through even the most difficult challenges. Purchase it today on Amazon and Kindle. 

 

4 Steps To Overcoming Attacks Of Sexual Identity Confusion

Sexual identity confusion can be a spiritual oppression that can be put in place when individuals are molested by members of the same-sex, exposed to pornography or coerced into sexual experimentation before marriage. There are times when this is an inter-generational stronghold that has to be broken off in prayer.  My objective with my testimony (and I shared this message on my mission trip to Uganda)  is not to be graphic or inflammatory but to help you precisely understand how to process through the attacks of condemnation the enemy brings.

When I was 12  years old, I spent the night with a much older girl who was fully developed, sexually active and of course I was not at the time. Of course you think I would have clued into the fact of why would a much older girl want to spend her weekend with me but nope I didn’t get it!  She introduced me to games and experimentation with my body and hers.  This was my first encounter with my sexuality and experiences that ideally should have taken place within the context of marriage. I was old enough to know this was wrong but was starved for affirmation so for months I engaged in this behavior and hoped no one would find out about it. I certainly didn’t tell my mom. It felt like just a blip on my life screen at the time. Sure I hoped no one would find out but I thought in my immature mind this was an isolated event that would have no impact.

Then, when I was a couple of years older, I “happened” upon some pornography in a school setting (of all places) that was filled with images of women in various poses of undress. This again led to more behavior that led me to channel tension in an inappropriate way.  Then, I met my first boyfriend. I was already engaged in images, feelings and constant sexual tension that made me feel impure so what was one more step to losing my virginity?

Then, (and you can see the progression here) we broke up, and I moved on to more experiences that just reinforced that I had nothing to value or guard. Added to this was now one of the primary ways I became stimulated was by images of women. In my late teens, I began to wonder if I was bi-sexual or gay.  Massive sexual identity confusion for me and there was no way I was going to share this with anyone so more squashing and more hiding, desperately hoping no one would find out really who I was at the core. A dirty little girl.

I received Christ in college and wouldn’t it be nice if all those memories washed away under the blood of Christ? Well, they didn’t. I knew intellectually what the word of God said about my new identity but how to establish that was pretty foreign to me. So today, I want to share some things with you that I wish someone would have walked me through as clarity came,  but I had to fight tooth and nail for it.

I believe that today God want’s to deliver many of you from the guilt and torment this has created for you so you can pursue the destiny God has on your life. You need to understand that the struggle you are in is typical for Christians who have not been taught, been guarded or opened up the door themselves to oppression with wrong choices.

To begin I want to give you two scriptures for context and coaching.

In the book of Ecclesiastes it says there is an appointed time for everything. A time to give birth and a time to die; A time to plant and a time to uproot what is planted.…Simply put,  when you engage in sexual experiences in the wrong time, it creates nothing but temptation, spiritual warfare and death. .

“Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God?  You are not your own; 20 you were bought at a price.  Therefore honor God with your body,” (1 Cor. 6:19-20)

1. Have you acknowledged this and repented? You have obtained a great victory and weapon. The blood of Jesus. It consecrates, it sanctifies and now you are holy and set apart if you have invited Christ into your heart.  Begin with repentance if you have not already taken this to the Lord. Understand God is here to set you free from condemnation not add to it. Let him set you free from the shame and understand this unfortunately can happen and it does not need to define you or your sexuality.

2. Know that just because you repented, it doesn’t mean the images are gone, the chemical imprint this has made on your mind and body (this is why addictions are so hard to kick) and the shame you FEEL and walk in will not necessarily be gone. Now you have to deal with pulling down the vain imagination that got set up through the experience. It will take time to deal with in prayer!  I have seen people delivered instantaneously and then I have had seen people have to pull down strongholds for five years. God is God and you can’t put him a box or time so just get ready to do the work without stressing about why it’s taking so long. Expect your free and then stand in your freedom!

3. Guard your mind and your eyeballs from this point on. We are constantly bombed with sexual images in magazines and TV non-stop. Don’t linger on anything visually that causes you to rehearse images or experiences. If you find your mind is wandering backwards, without stress or condemnation, plead the blood of Jesus over your mind and thank God for your victory. You have been washed clean. It’s a fact and feelings will follow what you establish CONSISTENTLY. You may have to do this 20 times a day.

4. Practice the presence of God daily. Read his word, block time to walk and worship him, and just ask the Holy Spirit to begin to lead you in a life of sanctification, holiness, and power. He DESIRES to help you feel deeply loved, highly favored and know your value. Surround yourself with people who want the same. You will become who you hang out with. If your hanging out with God and his people, you are naturally going to grow in grace and power.

Do you have a desire to walk in more clarity and freedom? Then listen to my 12 Transformational Truths audio and get started impacting people with your life!

Love, Bec:)

Becky Harmon is a coach, speaker, and entrepreneur. Her success in these arenas has placed her in demand as a personal advisor to ministry and marketplace leaders world-wide.  To discover how you can build an influential life and reach people for Christ out of the most sabotaging of circumstances, order 4 Phases of Spiritual Warfare. It breaks down the individual strategies and prayers you need at each phase of your walk to remember WHO YOU ARE and stay faith-filled through even the most difficult challenges. Purchase it today on Amazon and Kindle. 

 

Passive Aggressive Behaviors

Watch out for passive aggressive behaviors in your life and with others. It will kill your clarity, momentum, and the truth is YOU are responsible as a Christian to guard your peace. If you don’t do that, you won’t grow a bold identity as a Christian!

At the heart of permitted this behavior in your life is a lack of leadership or ability to ask the questions that will bring clarity to fear. Typically people who are passive aggressive have grown up in homes where one parent was controlling or addictive, and the other parent was a passive/enabler.  This person is usually SATURATED with idolatry and it won’t come down without you really being willing to stand through the tension.

Passive aggressive people expect to be disrespected or taken advantage of eventually, so they jump to conclusions when there is the least amount of miscommunication or mistakes made. They BELIEVE they are disrepected at the core of their identity and it’s become WHO THEY ARE IDENTITY WISE. They are also great at excuse making about their behavior which is why it takes so much energy and time to deal with these kinds of people. If this is in your response patterns, you have to get militant about addressing this as it has most of the time been in your family for generations. Most of the time if it’s addressed,  they not only deny it but turn it around so that you feel shamed or doubt you saw it.

Passive aggressive leaders surround themselves with enablers, so it’s classic crazy town banana pants feeling for anyone who attempts to address it. The challenge in business is time is money, so honestly, you have to evaluate if this is the kind of partnership you want in your life as it’s a massive financial leak to your profits and marketing.

So, how do you know you’re dealing with a leader or business owner who is passive aggressive? Here’re some characteristics:

They tell you they are going to take care of it but “forget” regularly

They triangulate to others in the family in team rather than directing their questions to the person who can change the situation

Everything seems fine and then all the sudden they just email you about how disappointed they are with you or your performance.

They keep pushing the boundaries until you explode because they don’t want to be the one who initiated the conflict

They ask you to deal with confrontation for them because they are too busy or you are “great” at being diplomatic

They won’t deal with individuals one on one but rather address the offense in a group setting by alluding to the problem

You will hear them always complain about how they are not respected, or they just keep getting taking advantage of over and over again

They cut people off relationally, but then when they see them publicly in front of others they pretend all is well

They show favorites depending on who is affirming them

They can point out every little detail of how you failed but don’t take any ownership in how they failed to lead.

They always have an excuse for why they couldn’t finish a project or why it didn’t work out

So how do you deal with these kinds of friends, business acquaintances, and family in your life? First of all, address their behavior as passive-aggressive but guard your heart and time with them! If you decide to confront them, have in mind the decision or action you will be taking ahead so that you get to put it in play.

Next, don’t second guess yourself. Passive aggressive people have a way of making you feel like it’s your fault when they are minimizing or manipulating you. If you think uh-oh feeling, most likely, you are right. Pray for them to receive the truth but again, don’t come under the fear they try to intimidate you with. Limit your time with them unless they acknowledge their issues.

Lastly, and this is the most important. You HAVE to set very clear boundaries with them without guilt. If they are attempting to control you, just let them know up front precisely what actions you will be taking and then EXECUTE every time. If you don’t, you have taught them that you are negotiable.

Remember, boldness means you can’t back up when there is tension. Hold your ground, establish your authority and stay focused on your mission. Don’t let passive aggressive people distract you from accomplishing the work that God has put you here for! Need help with building a bolder identity at this point in your life? Join my Leadership Team and receive the mentoring you need to stay consistent and clear!

Faith Forward! Bec:)

Becky Harmon is a coach, speaker, and entrepreneur. Her success in these arenas has placed her in demand as a personal advisor to ministry and marketplace leaders world-wide.  To discover how you can build an influential life and reach people for Christ out of the most sabotaging of circumstances, order 4 Phases of Spiritual Warfare. It breaks down the individual strategies and prayers you need at each phase of your walk to remember WHO YOU ARE and stay faith-filled through even the most difficult challenges. Purchase it today on Amazon and Kindle. 

 

How To Write A Book

Wondering how to write a book or coaching manual? Well, it’s easier than you might think. You don’t have to have perfect grammar, sentence structure or talk like a professor. In today’s world where so few Christians live purposely, it is becoming more necessary for everyday people like you and me just to share the testimony God has given us in an authentic, simple way. 

How to write a book for coaching or discipleship is really about breaking things down simply for people, so they can understand how they can receive transformation.  

You know where I began? At 5 am with a journal. I remember a lady telling me early in my walk..”Becky, you have the most simple but captivating thoughts God gives you”. I thought to myself at the time, “That’s nice”. I could never have imagined the simple one liners God was giving me 25 years ago would be used now to encourage people the way they do. And this will blow you away too. 

One of the best strategies I can give you is as you contemplate how to write a book is to believe in the power of getting started. Most people worry to far ahead how God is going to expand them when they haven’t even harnessed their thoughts down on paper or a laptop. Give God something to work with. It’s hard for him to guide a stationary bus.

I have no seminary experience, no one taught me how to write a book, I had no formal writing training, no business classes and majored in Criminology in college. I got B’s in my college writing courses. I have been part of top sales teams with “accidental success”.  You know what impresses God and people in your life? Your faith and boldness! That is what the Father affirms!  Believe if you block time towards your goals (especially in writing) you will be used for HIS glory.

Some of you are wondering how to write a book and the truth is you have a book or two or three in you.

Here are three simple tips on how you can get started today. 

1. Start blocking 1 hour a day to write down specific thoughts on what you think will help the people you want to reach be successful. Seriously. Get up with a cup of coffee and EXPECT that God is going to give you more clarity. Watch how your mind begins throughout the day to perceive more and more strategies.

2. Begin to just write from a conversational tone of voice, like you were writing to a best friend. Part of what makes a coaching manual compelling is you are authentic. Be yourself, tell stories about why you think they will want to do it this way. If you have received a particular revelation, try your best to help people catch it and then give them a scripture to tie it in.

3. Share your pain and what you specifically did to process that hurt that made you successful. It will give God glory and your clients will find you much more relatable. Remember, it’s simplicity that makes you great not elevating yourself over others.

Are you ready to take action and get started writing your own discipleship or coaching content? Join my leadership team! 

Becky Harmon is a coach, speaker, and entrepreneur. Her success in these arenas has placed her in demand as a personal advisor to ministry and marketplace leaders world-wide.  To discover how you can build an influential life and reach people for Christ out of the most sabotaging of circumstances, order 4 Phases of Spiritual Warfare. It breaks down the individual strategies and prayers you need at each phase of your walk to remember WHO YOU ARE and stay faith-filled through even the most difficult challenges. Purchase it today on Amazon and Kindle. 

 

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