Transformational Leadership

Transformational leadership can be seen when leaders and followers work together to move to a higher level of morality and vision. Transformational leaders serve through their strongest identity zones and by communicating boldly with grace, the expectations so that the whole team goes to a higher level of purpose.

There are four parts to a transformational leader’s identity:

  • The leader models what he or she is asking the team to grow into
  • The leader can motivate those around them consistently
  • The head carries a genuine concern for the team members
  • The manager asks for a high degree of ownership to be creative and excel.

Sabotage: A lack of bold communication will dilute the strength of transformational leadership. Many times people suppress challenging others on their team because they have wrong mindsets about what being “respectful” or “submissive” is and is not. Women even more so can confuse respect with NO COMMUNICATION. As in if I love this person or want to honor them, I won’t challenge them to more.

Masculinity in it’s essence, challenges you to BECOME MORE and ACCOMPLISH MORE. It’s strength, discipline, correction, vision casting. We should associate RESPECT with CHALLENGE. It means you see something potential wise in someone and you’re willing to call them up to the plate to receive it.

Feminine essence loves unconditionally, soothes and nurtures. It’s beauty, attractiveness, unity, laughter, unpredictability, go with the flow.  So essentially most women are more comfortable with feminine attributes in leadership.

But here’s the truth about the transformational leadership.  It’s not effective without strong vision casting and consistent challenge.

SUCCESS: If you want to tap into transformational leadership, you must be willing to call people up to the plate in a bigger way.  Which means that you must be walking your talk. So, that is where transformational leadership will always begin. With you. Challenge people to more but always begin by examining your identity for places that you are diluting your vision. This will always start with your personal leadership model that you keep in place daily. If you don’t have someone calling you up to the plate, helping you stay accountable for results, join my personal Leadership Team.

Love, Bec:)

Becky Harmon is an identity coach, intercessor and business leader. Her success in these arenas has placed her in demand as a personal advisor to ministry and marketplace leaders world-wide. Her personal experience of growing up in an alcoholic home, struggling with how to overcome food & alcohol addictions, depression, and financial sabotages through her identity in Christ rather than self-help, led her to develop her own out of the box coaching systems. To discover the specific attacks that accompany each part of your walk with Christ and the strategies you can implement to be an overcomer,  order 4 Phases of Spiritual Warfare. Available on Amazon and Kindle. 

Risk Reveals What You Value

The word “identity” is talked about a lot in Christian circles from the perspective of WHO you are in Christ as well as in the business realm from a branding perspective. But let me tell you what that looks like spiritually and practically in your personal leadership first. When you build a new identity, it’s typically in the middle of chaos, and it comes across edgy. It’s often misunderstood by people and labeled “pride.”

I grew up in an alcoholic home, decided to major in Criminology in college, and then launched into homeschooling though I had no teaching experience. Left Tallahassee to church plant with a team to Atlanta with no experience in ministry, had to go to work with no experience in sales after my husband suffered a lay-off, and we tapped our savings, (made the top sales team in 8 months), then had an identity theft for a million dollars when that was going well when we were stabling out financially. Started running and finished a half and full marathon in one year to re-take my mental clarity with no experience as a runner, and with no television experience was asked to do TV commercials and be a spokesperson for a leading identity company in the middle of that. Left that to pioneer my successful international coaching company right at the beginning of the second worst recession since the depression with ZERO money and no marketing experience. Grew it from nothing after I was told by bunches of “Master level” coaches I would never be successful building a brand out of my identity and message. Developed three coaching systems, three teams and run a profitable company to this day that grows yearly with no “success experience.”

So, I can tell you a thing a two about creating new successful identities and pioneering a successful brand, if you feel like God has called you to do ministry through your business. And you’re like me…you have no experience with “business sense.”

YOU DON’T NEED EXPERIENCE for identity shifts. YOU NEED BOLDNESS TO STEWARD WHAT’S IN YOUR HAND UNTIL IT GROWS. Leaders lead and pioneer before everyone else.

When you are given the OPPORTUNITY for an identity shift, it’s typically hidden in the midst of loss, confusion, and chaotic atmospheres. Every giant of the faith biblically had to move forward with nothing but an opportunity laid out before them. It was in the midst of tension and loss. You also might have to make a very quick decisions about new friendship circles and alliances risking the unknown. What people will think about you? Individuals who are insecure connected with your old identity, might not like you executing this fast and may even try to slow you down by second guessing you. Or insinuating you are prideful and unappreciative when you attempt to move to something bigger leadership wise.

Secondly, you will receive an invitation or strategy for the one next step. You will NOT receive the whole plan and what the new identity will mean for you. So many people hold back at this point, trying to work out of their intellectual realm rather. Identity shifts are NOT logical; they are divinely orchestrated. The invitation will have to be accepted, and you will have to step out in faith. You will have to pay a cost financially or in the form of tension in your current relationships. Sometimes both. This is to bring you to the place of dependence on God so he can define your identity in a deeper way. You will have to let go of old support to receive the new people God will bring to you.

Thirdly, a new identity means you are going to receive more authority and influence IF you keep your leadership model tight and don’t compromise. This is where many people don’t make the transition. They compromise on the core values that got them to the shift because tension and spiritual warfare comes to test your new authority. Your leadership model is what you put into place daily to keep you focused and processing stress so you can keep growing.

Or they don’t understand what real loyalty  is. The bottom line is new identities are created in the spirit realm first. Inwardly in your inner man. Then when you agree with WHO God is calling you to become so he can use you as he desires to, you begin to be given the strategies on a practical level to move to the bigger identity.

Pioneering is not for everyone. There is a cost you will pay to see lives impacted for the kingdom and to be released into your calling. However, there is a zone; I call it the BOLD identity area that you will enter that releases a grace and power into your life that nothing can compare to. Need support and personal mentoring? You can get that here on my own Leadership Team. 

Love, Bec:)

Becky Harmon is an identity coach, intercessor and business leader. Her success in these arenas has placed her in demand as a personal advisor to ministry and marketplace leaders world-wide. Her personal experience of growing up in an alcoholic home, struggling with how to overcome food & alcohol addictions, depression, and financial sabotages through her identity in Christ rather than self-help, led her to develop her own out of the box coaching systems. To discover the specific attacks that accompany each part of your walk with Christ and the strategies you can implement to be an overcomer,  order 4 Phases of Spiritual Warfare. Available on Amazon and Kindle. 

What Forgiveness Is And What It Isn’t

Standing in the Christian book store, I feel a wave of panic as I see the spiritual leader who had overseen me at a “grace-retreat”. I had a huge meltdown over the weekend and to say the least, I did not have a good experience which had probably really been disappointing.

This person spots me, and so I just walk up and apologize for the part I played in it not going well.  I was  7 month’s pregnant when I attended and gone into pre-term labor directly following. I had been on complete bedrest for month’s and had not been out in public since so I was shocked when I heard this come out of the person’s mouth. “Becky, I prayed about the whole incident and God told me to not forgive you”. I am a pretty new Christian but somehow that didn’t seem like something God would say so I just walked away shaking my head, knowing I had done my part to apologize.

Over the years I have seen many Pastors and and clients misunderstand what forgiveness is and what it isn’t. This is important for you to understand as related to your calling and purpose so you want to get this right as it can result in SUCCESS or a big sabotage for you!

One reason we resist forgiving is that it makes us feel very vulnerable emotionally. Most of us assume that if we forgive the person who hurt us, then we are at risk again of being victimized by them again. This is not the case at all so let’s talk about how to forgive and reconcile through difficult relational issues.

What Forgiveness Is

Forgiveness is a decision to move forward whether anyone else is with you or not. The truth is bitterness locks you into an old identity, constantly rehearsing and focusing on the past. What you could’ve done differently, what should’ve happened. What they did to you. How unjust it really was. How undeserved and disrespectful.  It’s like watching a game of football, someone calling a time out and the clock is stopped. Forgiveness, starts the game moving forward again and puts you in the position to take the ball over the goal line.

Forgiveness is being willing to process through the pain God’s way. Now, there’s plenty of ways to process through pain. Drugs, food, alcohol, rage but forgiveness is getting to the root of of all that so that you can you begin to heal. The world’s way of processing pain actually layers you down into more denial, bondage and separation from God and man. Forgiveness actually releases the power of God into your life to RESTORE what has been broken and bring you into a place of purpose and calling. Yes, by forgiving you are aligning yourself to be blessed and overflowing into your PURPOSE.

It’s keeping your heart tender and risking pain so that you can trust God rather than harden it and you protect yourself. Forgiveness is painful but it brings a refreshing and strengthening to your vision after you heal.

What Forgiveness Isn’t

Forgiveness is not giving in to whatever the offender says or how they want to treat you. A matter of fact, you can forgive AND ask for certain stipulations to be met in order to keep the relationship/communication intact in the case of a marriage or divorce. If you feel battered emotionally, you probably are, but you still need to forgive and then set up boundaries to make sure you ask for what you want to see happen.

Forgiveness isn’t admitting you were wrong and the offender was right. It’s simply acknowledging that you are ready to move on.

Forgiveness is not reconciliation. Reconciliation is to give God more glory. It’s almost the icing on the cake of a healed heart. It is God saying to you. I am proud of you for forgiving. Now I am going to give you the opportunity for you to experience the my supernatural restorative power. It manifests as a result of who God wants to send you to serve and to witness to them his calling on your life. That you walk your talk.  I want to share with you the story of Corrie Ten Boom on forgiving her Nazi prison guard. It is a great example of this principle. This experience gave Corrie and even greater platform to speak and influence people for Christ.

Individuals who withhold forgiveness do so because it gives them some degree of power as they don’t feel like they have been able to recover or move forward in a successful way. It’s really straight forward just like Corrie Ten Boom’s experience. If someone asks you to forgive them, always choose to forgive. If not, you are going to stay stuck and never step into the higher purposes of God for your life. A great book I recommend to my teams on forgiving from the heart is John Bevere’s book, The Bait Of Satan. It’s great to read to balance boundaries with.

Love, Bec:)

Becky Harmon is an identity coach, intercessor and business leader. Her success in these arenas has placed her in demand as a personal advisor to ministry and marketplace leaders world-wide. Her personal experience of growing up in an alcoholic home, struggling with how to overcome food & alcohol addictions, depression, and financial sabotages through her identity in Christ rather than self-help, led her to develop her own out of the box coaching systems. To discover the specific attacks that accompany each part of your walk with Christ and the strategies you can implement to be an overcomer,  order 4 Phases of Spiritual Warfare. Available on Amazon and Kindle. 

How To Become An Overcomer

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Not everyone knows this about my coaching business but I had an ID theft in 2005 and so I had no money and I had to build everything from the ground up with creative marketing idea’s. After my identity theft for that much money, I was even more convinced that God had called me to help people get set free through their identity in Christ so there was no backing down for me and I share this so that it can activate your faith to see what God can do for you!

This is a long post but a heart felt one. Debbie joined the Bold Identity Team about 2 months ago. (8 weeks) and has been so great about posting her homework consistently. This is from week 1 (Yesterday’s work~Building a consistent prayer identity).

I wanted to share this with you for those of you who are not clear on WHO you will become in a short amount of time. These are typical results for our team not exaggerated one’s. We have grown from clients telling friends and family how their life changed in under one year from the power of the BOLD mindset training we do and the power of praying weekly with a team.

Here’s Debbie’s thoughts literally cut and pasted out of the team with no edits from me. I did want you to see what I italicized so I could explain something to you at the end. 

This is the 2nd go around for me and I’ve already experienced a lot of changes. I am consistently getting up to do a Bible Study, but not at 5am like I originally wanted to. Sometimes it’s more like 6 or 7. My alarm is set for 5am again. I use that time to read & study His Word and listen to Worship music & His voice. I have found that the best place for this is sitting propped up in bed. When I take my morning shower is usually when I hear His voice the clearest. Before this course, I had actually invested in a waterproof notepad I had put in there to take notes!
My husband’s snoring has been an issue that had been keeping me awake. He has since set up a hammock in a different room that he can go sleep in if need be. It’s working, and thankfully he isn’t out there that often. We are still happily married. 🙂

To make a long story short, my family & I prayed that the Lord would go before me at my next meeting. I got formalized training this past weekend in a certain type of massage & the Lord gave me an idea. Spiritual warfare hit the morning of the next meeting. My blood sugar levels were too high and it took a bit to get them down. Then I got stuck in a big traffic jam on the interstate, putting me 20 min late. However, God is not late and I ended up sitting at the head of the table at the meeting so I could see everyone. We all give an “elevator” speech each time we meet, and when I gave mine, I passed around a sign up sheet for anyone who wanted a free, 40 min massage. I needed a minimum of 3 to complete my certification and I got 8! My competitor was nowhere to be seen that day. Thank you, Lord! I get my certification, people get an amazing massage experience, trusting I will get more referrals from this, & my faith & trust in the Lord that He’s got this business just grew a wee bit more. It was a good day that has turned into a busy week.

The busy week leads me to say I just started a method that is helping me block my time better in my calendar so I can better balance family/business time. The first change was using a paper calendar as well as my iPad. I now use a highlighter to block 2 hour time slots that I’m available for family, business, etc. It also helps me to see that I truly am getting things accomplished and to not beat myself up for “not doing enough”.

I also had the privilege of doing a Facetime chat with a national sales director for Mary Kay. She had been a keynote speaker at one of our networking events and I had emailed her afterward to see if I could take her to lunch. She was already out of town so we did the online chat where she gave me some extremely helpful tips for my business even though we are in different industries. I’ve already seen a difference in my efficiency & stress levels. Before this course, I don’t know if I would have had the courage to contact her. I’m so glad I did!

I’ve also started leading a small group of key leaders in my business team. Before I would’ve left it up to my mentors, but now I’m just doing it. 

All this leads me back to my vision board I created last time. I still pray over it and study it, especially when things get tough. The reason “why” is so key to getting past obstacles. Like Rebecca A., I’m noticing that some things may need to be tweaked. I have been thinking for awhile now that I need a new laptop & finally it dawned on me I need to find a picture of a laptop to stick on there. Sometimes it can just be the little things. I’m noticing that I’m already accomplishing things on there or they are in progress, such as working out & getting fit (I’ve been very consistent in my exercise).

Thank you, Becky Harmon  for providing this course. I’m finding it invaluable to my growth & development as a leader & to the future development of leaders around me. ~ Debbie M. 

  1. 1. We rotate through 8 weeks of training for only $47.00 a month. I created the program to cycle like this for literally under $100.00 because people need months and up to a year to actually have their identity solidify. Bet no one told you that. This is why people get breakthroughs’ and lose them. Accountability in a team keeps you focused until your CONFIDENT in your leadership and that you won’t lose your SUCCESS.
  2. We encourage you to try and try again if you fail with no condemnation.  Which you will. Bet no one told you that either. When you have been in a limited identity for decades it’s normal to fail. But on our team, we remind you of who you are and then force you to lead. Nothing like having other people dependent on you to cause you to step up to the plate in lining up what you SAY you’re going to do with what you actually execute on.
  3. When you commit to building a new identity, you’re going to get spiritual warfare. We pray over our team EVERY WEEK. You’re going to renew your mindsets and get SLATHERED in prayer while you do it. Need prayer? Post it in our team and you have the whole team praying for you INSTANTLY.
  4. We are going to challenge you to become the leader you claim you want to be. That means vision casting, blocking your time and researching how to be more effective in your leadership instead of why you can’t be successful. We call up to the plate WITH LOVE!
  5. You’re going to take bigger and bolder actions after joining our team and have supernatural breakthroughs. We see it all the time. Lives changed and God will get the glory in your life.
  6.  You’re going to start seeing yourself at a higher level of leadership because you’re going to realize WHO you really are. You won’t hold back anymore because you’re afraid of failing. It’s true.
  7. Lastly, we are going to help you vision cast. I provide you with TONS of EXTRA TRAINING and we help you put it into practice!

What are you waiting for? We have a Money Back Guarantee if you are not completely satisfied! Join the BOLD IDENTITY TEAM and we introduce you that day into our Facebook team! Get READY TO GO BOLD with DEBBIE!

Love, Bec:)

Becky Harmon is an identity coach, intercessor and business leader. Her success in these arenas has placed her in demand as a personal advisor to ministry and marketplace leaders world-wide. Her personal experience of growing up in an alcoholic home, struggling with how to overcome food & alcohol addictions, depression, and financial sabotages through her identity in Christ rather than self-help, led her to develop her own out of the box coaching systems. To discover the specific attacks that accompany each part of your walk with Christ and the strategies you can implement to be an overcomer,  order 4 Phases of Spiritual Warfare. Available on Amazon and Kindle. 

Identity In Christ: The Warfare Begins With This

Spiritual Warfare From Building New Identity from Becky Harmon on Vimeo.

Many Christians don’t recognize spiritual warfare. I know I didn’t in the beginning of my walk with Christ. They wonder if they can really build a new bold identity and break out of decades worth of sabotaging patterns.

Satan is a crafty catty. He knows what to say to you so that you think it’s YOUR IDENTITY speaking to you. No one ever breaks down the exact statements he uses to keep you stuck and exactly what you need to do quickly to resist and stand strong until your new identity is solidified.

Here’s the truth, you know you’re tapping into the will of God for your life when you’re uncomfortable, you’re having to risk failure and you’re doing what you’re doing for the sake of others. When it’s about YOU and your kingdom, you want to stay comfortable, safe and have lots of security.

In five minutes,  I break down for you exactly how to recognize the warfare and how to pray against it so you can focus on your new identity rather than praying out your problem!

Ready to start building YOUR new identity? I’m here for you to make it happen, safely and with all the support you need in my Bold Identity team!  Join me now! 

Becky Harmon is an identity coach, intercessor and business leader. Her success in these arenas has placed her in demand as a personal advisor to ministry and marketplace leaders world-wide. Her personal experience of growing up in an alcoholic home, struggling with how to overcome food & alcohol addictions, depression, and financial sabotages through her identity in Christ rather than self-help, led her to develop her own out of the box coaching systems. To discover the specific attacks that accompany each part of your walk with Christ and the strategies you can implement to be an overcomer,  order 4 Phases of Spiritual Warfare. Available on Amazon and Kindle. 

10 Facts Every Christian Woman Should Know

 10 Facts Every Christian Should Know

1. Everyone has issues they have to work through. Especially the leaders who seem successful.
2. When God tells you he loves and accepts you despite how you’re performing, believe him. It’s true.
3. Sometimes we all melt down. And when we do, it’s not pretty. So, avoid anyone with a phone who can record it.
4. For every woman unhappy with where her marriage is there is a woman who just wishes she was married.
5. You should definitely see yourself as an overcomer. Jesus finished strong and you’re in HIM.
6. Don’t expect men to give you permission to lead. Do it and your results will be your podium.
7. It’s okay to get upset and want to take action. Just be willing to go through the spiritual warfare to get to the other side.
8. We all have that one friend who champions us. Block time for her weekly, she will be a sword at your side.
9. You should have a vision. Not a hope. It’s not your husbands job to create it for you. Do the work yourself.
10. You’re a woman. Your born to birth life and stronger than you think. It doesn’t matter how you feel or whether you can see it right now. It’s WHO YOU ARE DNA wise.

Love, Bec:)

Becky Harmon is an identity coach, intercessor and business leader. Her success in these arenas has placed her in demand as a personal advisor to ministry and marketplace leaders world-wide. Her personal experience of growing up in an alcoholic home, struggling with how to overcome food & alcohol addictions, depression, and financial sabotages through her identity in Christ rather than self-help, led her to develop her own out of the box coaching systems. To discover the specific attacks that accompany each part of your walk with Christ and the strategies you can implement to be an overcomer,  order 4 Phases of Spiritual Warfare. Available on Amazon and Kindle. 

Marketing For Christian Coaches

Marketing doesn’t have to be difficult. You do this by taking the time to translate your identity in Christ into a brand. The results of understanding your identity in Christ are enormous! It will help you grow in intimacy with God because you know how deeply he can be trusted. It will help you  overcome obstacles God’s way rather than striving and honestly, to do spiritual warfare correctly so you can break generational curses and set huge goals for your life that will glorify Christ. At a higher leadership level it will equip you to formulate your own vision and the momentum to complete it. This is why when you become a Christian, understanding your identity in Christ is so important.

Marketing your coaching business out of your boldest identity zones enables you to do the same thing. It will help you take the work Christ has given you as a testimony, identify it and then help you magnetize clients out that story. This is the same work a Pastor has to do to church plant. Every church has a unique identity and mission to make disciples and you do too. This is why you want to niche tightly in the beginning of your coaching.

It’s about not “preaching or selling to people” but rather serving them in such a way that they are drawn authentically to what you are offering. When you are pastoring a church, you have in person meetings at a set time on Sunday where people can come and listen at no cost to the revelation and training you have to give your members. If you are casting a strong vision under the guidance of the Holy Spirit and investing your financial and time resources well, your congregation will grow and they will willingly give their money to see the vision completed. This is authentic church growth. And might I add has the addition of the Holy Spirit on it with unity to confirm his presence.

I believe a Christian business is run the exact same way. We aren’t selling, we are serving. If you own your own faith based business you need to have consistent service that is dependable and people can count on, to be able to create an awareness in your audiences mind on who they become if they partner with you, continue to add programs that are going to help your clients grow and for you to use the same kind of identity words in your business over and over again until it becomes a recognized name. You have a platform that you use to communicate with your audience daily and weekly. This is the heart of marketing. Simply being able to serve CONSISTENTLY.  Your business or ministry is just an extension of the specific identity results that you help people get who partner with you.

Today, I wanted to share the simple schedule I use for marketing my business and serving my clients on a weekly basis.

Consistency = Credibility. If you can remember that as a foundation for your business, you will be wildly successful without hype and with peace.

I use 3 media outlets consistently: My Facebook business page, Twitter & LinkedIn.

I link them to a simple schedule vehicle called Hootsuite. This enables me to schedule in one place my posts without going to each individual outlet. You can get started with the personal account with Hootsuite with about $10.00 a month. And really, when you’re first starting out, you don’t need anymore than this. It takes me approximately 1 hour to schedule one day’s worth of posts.

Once a week I blog about either prayer, identity, leadership teaming or growth for coaches. I write my post within Michael Hyatt’s website theme, Getnoticed. I have used a lot of themes, I like this one a lot and it’s easy to use.

I sent out my blog with a little note to my subscribers through Aweber. Aweber helps me serve my clients weekly. Typically, I sent this out on Tuesday or Wednesday.  It’s my “Pastoral” platform where I help them stay consistent with their leadership and how to grow their influence with peace.

Hope this gives you a feel for how simple this can be! Let me know if you have any questions.

Love, Bec:)

Becky Harmon is an identity coach, intercessor and business leader. Her success in these arenas has placed her in demand as a personal advisor to ministry and marketplace leaders world-wide. Her personal experience of growing up in an alcoholic home, struggling with how to overcome food & alcohol addictions, depression, and financial sabotages through her identity in Christ rather than self-help, led her to develop her own out of the box coaching systems. To discover the specific attacks that accompany each part of your walk with Christ and the strategies you can implement to be an overcomer,  order 4 Phases of Spiritual Warfare. Available on Amazon and Kindle. 

How To Win Friends and Influence People On Social Media

Would you like to learn how to win friends and influence people on social media? A substantial part of being successful as a Christian coach and speaker is being able to equip people to take action. You can begin to build credibility as a leader (even with no existing “expert” status) by using social media, to help people “get” your identity and how you can help them. As you grow in influence, you also want to avoid the things that will sabotage your platform.

Here are some practical applications from Dale Carnegie’s, How To Win Friends and Influence People book. First, you need to understand, as a  leader and coach, your job is to help change your client’s mindsets so they can live free, receive transformation with grace and then ideally take actions to reproduce this in others. These strategies are broken down into posts I have used to demonstrate to you how I do this on a daily basis. It is not enough to have a Facebook page. You have to be actively engaging your audience in conversation and posting often enough consistently. You cannot post on a personal page more than once a day without having people hide your feed which is why you want to be on a business page investing in marketing if you are serious about growing your platform.

If you haven’t read last week’s blog on the statistics of why it’s important to use social media to grow your influence, you will want to start with this blog because it helps you clarify your core identity. You cannot communicate to others what you don’t have clarity for in your own personal leadership.

Next, here is how to begin to grow your influence successfully on social media in your business or ministry page and avoid sabotage. These strategies should be going out on your feed between 3 and 8 times a day for maximum momentum. Once a day is not going to grow your influence in a way that will convert to clients. The principles are from Mr. Carnegie’s book with a modern day social media tweak from me.

Principle 1 – Begin with praise and honest appreciation~ Once or twice a week, find someone to give a shout out to on social media. Don’t sabotage yourself with a poverty mentality by being afraid if you promote other people, you will lose momentum. You don’t have to fluff people, find authentic ways to help them receive credit for the work they are doing. Here’s an example and I try to do this atleast once a week on my business page:

How to win friends and influence people on social media

Principle 2: Don’t sabotage your influence by calling out people out publicly unless you have too. ~ It just doesn’t pay to make other people look bad when you can have fun with it. It positions you to avoid looking victimized by customers who are looking to stir up drama. What’s more effective and make’s you look light-hearted is to use humor.  Here’s a great example of this from the Social Media examiner on how to handle trolls.

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 Principle 3 – Talk about your own mistakes before instructing the other person. One of the greatest way’s to help people build success on social media is to just share with them what you did that really made you fall straight on your face! This helps your audience see you want to lead from compassion. You want to save them embarrassment, here is an example of how to do this on video that you can share on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn.

Principle 4 – Ask questions instead of giving direct orders. Mr. Carnegie meant this in context to diplomacy and coaching people into problem solving for themselves rather then you dictating the solution to them.  I am going to give a little bit of a different twist for this blog’s purposes. People love to share what they think and a way to help people feel valued is to ask their opinion.  On social media, you have to give your audience a specific call to action EVERY TIME or you won’t help them get results. So, ask questions but do it like this:

How to win friends and influence people on social media

Principle 5 – Let the other person save face in the issue’s they are struggling with. Use the power of prayer to help you build relationship and helping your client understand the identity you will help them produce in their life. Create conversations about WHO YOU SEE THEM AS IDENTITY wise and attach a visual graphic so that it causes them to get drawn into the conversation.

How to win friends and influence people on social media

 

Principle 6 – Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement. Be “hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise.” Use every opportunity you have to lift people up and affirm them for taking action. This is one of the most powerful gifts we have as influencers.

 

 

Principle 7 – Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to. Giving people public affirmation for what other’s are saying about them, is such an authentic way to encourage them to keep pressing forward.

How to win friends and influence people on social media

 

 

Principle 8 – Use encouragement. Make the difficulty seem easy to correct. It really helps to write out why you feel so strongly about encouraging them. As you talk about it, give them one or two short tips that help them feel like they just need a tweak or two not a complete OVERHAUL!

 

Principle 9 – Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest. I personally believe video posts are one of the greatest ways to help people feel great about taking action. I attempt to load at least one of these a week publicly because of their potential to go viral.

Have any thoughts or comments about if this helped you OR what has worked or not worked for you? Let us know and join the conversation!

Love, Bec:)

Becky Harmon is an identity coach, intercessor and business leader. Her success in these arenas has placed her in demand as a personal advisor to ministry and marketplace leaders world-wide. Her personal experience of growing up in an alcoholic home, struggling with how to overcome food & alcohol addictions, depression, and financial sabotages through her identity in Christ rather than self-help, led her to develop her own out of the box coaching systems. To discover the specific attacks that accompany each part of your walk with Christ and the strategies you can implement to be an overcomer,  order 4 Phases of Spiritual Warfare. Available on Amazon and Kindle. 

Discover Your Core Identity On Social Media

When I first started out in coaching, I certainly didn’t know my core identity on social media or understand how to influence people with it. Truthfully, I looked at Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest and other social sites as more like a distraction. So I want to share with you a couple of statistics about why using social media correctly is a successful lead generation tool and the way to grow the kingdom of God with grace.

Social Media is now a significant way that people create, communicate and control the identity that they want to project to others. The beauty of it is YOU can help people form a new positive self-identity by just creating an atmosphere on your personal page or business that people want to identify with. Buzz feed’s founder Jonah Peretti built his whole site around touching into people’s generational identity and giving them an opportunity to share that with others. Tapping into the good old days and feeling of camaraderie it gave people. Let me give you some facts about this first.

In a new survey conducted in September 2014, the Pew Research Center Facebook remains by far the most popular social media site. Those on Facebook remain highly engaged with 70% saying they log on daily, including 43% who do so several times a day. These are the primary reason’s your friends or clients will share what you have going on if you follow a couple of daily guidelines according to a survey taken by the New York Times Insight Survey Group. They want to:

  1. To bring valuable and entertaining content to others. 49% say sharing allows them to inform others of products they care about and potentially change opinions or encourage action.
  2. To define ourselves to others. 68% share to give people a better sense of who they are and what they care about.
  3. To grow and nourish our relationships. 78% share information online because it lets them stay connected to people they may not otherwise stay in touch with.
  4. Self-fulfillment. 69% share information because it allows them to feel more involved in the world.
  5. To get the word out about causes or brands. 84% share because it is a way to support causes or issues they care about.

To authentically influence people, here are a couple ways to avoid sabotage and build success.

Sabotage=> Processing out pain on Facebook or who you are irritated with politically. This will magnetize all the individuals to you who are passive aggressive and angry. By the way, this works in your personal life too. The quickest way to diminish your credibility and authority is bitterness, complaining and whining.

Success=> Print out this blog and circle out 15. From the 15 pull out 3. Put it on a sticky note and from this point on, everything you share “identity-wise” will wrap around these three core values. In the comment box below, list your three! Next week I will show you how to translate this into strategic actions that will help you take your influence to the next step so write them on a sticky note and keep them near your computer!

Ability Abundance Acceptance Accomplishment Achievement Adaptability Adventure Affection Affluence Alertness Ambition Anticipation Appreciation Approachability Artfulness Assertiveness Assurance Attentiveness Audacity Availability Awareness Awe Balance Beauty Being-ness Belongingness Benevolence Blissfulness Boldness Bravery Brilliance Briskness Buoyancy Calmness Camaraderie Candor Capability Care Carefulness Certainty Challenge Charity Charm Chastity Cheerfulness Clarity Classy Cleanliness Cleverness Closeness Cognizance Comfort Commitment Compassion Competence Complacency Completion Composure Concentration Confidence Conformity Congruency Connection
Consciousness Consistency Contentment Continuity Contribution Control Conviction Conviviality Coolness Cooperation Copiousness Cordiality Correctness Courage Courtesy Craftiness Creativity Credibility Cunning Curiosity Daring Decisiveness Decorum Deepness Deference Delicacy Delight
Dependability Depth Desire Determination Devotion Devoutness Dexterity Dignity Diligence
Diplomacy Direction Directness Discernment Discretion Discipline Discovery Discretion Diversity
Dreaming Drive Duty Dynamism Eagerness Economy Ecstasy Education Effectiveness Efficiency Elation Elegance Empathy Encouragement Endurance Energy Enjoyment Enlightenment Entertainment Enthusiasm Exactness Excellence Excitement Exhilaration Expectancy Expediency Experience
Expertise Exploration Expressiveness Extravagance Extroversion Exuberance Evolution Facilitating Fairness Faith Fame Fascination Fashion Fearlessness Fidelity Fineness Finesse Firmness Fitness Flexibility Flow Fluency Fluidity Focus Fortitude Frankness Freedom Friendliness Frugality Fun
Gallantry Generosity Gentility Genuineness Giving Grace Gratefulness Gratitude Gregariousness
Growth Guidance Happiness Harmony Health Heart Helpfulness Heroism Holiness Honesty Honor Hopefulness Hospitality Humility Humor Hygiene Imagination Impact Impartiality Impeccability Independence Industry Ingenuity Inquisitiveness Insightfulness Inspiration Instinctiveness
Integrity Intelligence Intensity Intimacy Intrepidness Introversion Intuition Intuitiveness Inventiveness
Joy Judiciousness Justice Keenness Kindness Knowledgeableness Lavishness Leadership Learning
Liberation Liberty Liveliness Logic Longevity Love Loyalty Majesty Mastery Maturity Meekness Mellowness Meticulousness Mindfulness Moderation Modesty Motivation Mysteriousness
Neatness Nerve Obedience Open-mindedness Openness Optimism Opulence Order Organization
Originality Outlandishness Outrageousness Passion Peacefulness Perceptiveness Perfection Perseverance Persistence Persuasiveness Philanthropy Piety Playfulness Pleasantness Pleasure
Plentiful-ness Poise Polish Popularity Potency Practicality Pragmatism Precision Preeminence
Preparedness Presence Privacy Proactivity Proficiency Professionalism Prosperity Prudence Punctuality Purity Qualification Quietness Quickness Realism Readiness Reason Recognition Recreation Refinement Reflection Relaxation Reliability Resilience Resolution Resolve Resourcefulness Respect Restfulness Restraint Reverence Richness Rigor Sacredness Sacrifice Sagacity Saintliness Sanguinity Satisfaction Security Self-control Selflessness Self-realization Self-reliance Sensitivity Sensuality Serenity Service Sexuality Sharing Shrewdness Significance Silence Silliness Simplicity Sincerity Skillfulness Smartness Sophistication Solidarity Solidity Solitude Soundness Speed Spirit Spirituality Spontaneity Stability Stillness Strength Structure Substantiality Success Sufficiency Support Supremacy Surprise Superb Supremacy Sympathy Synergy Tactfulness Teamwork Temperance Thankfulness Thoroughness Thoughtfulness Thrift Timeliness Traditionalism Tranquility Transcendence Trust Trustworthiness
Truth Understanding Uniqueness Unity Usefulness Utility Valor Variety Victory Vigor Virtue Vision
Vitality Vivacity Warmth Watchfulness Wealth Wholesomeness Willingness Winning Wisdom Wittiness Wonder Worthiness Zeal Zest Zing

Okay time to get started, FAITH FORWARD! Love, Bec:)

Becky Harmon is an identity coach, intercessor and business leader. Her success in these arenas has placed her in demand as a personal advisor to ministry and marketplace leaders world-wide. Her personal experience of growing up in an alcoholic home, struggling with how to overcome food & alcohol addictions, depression, and financial sabotages through her identity in Christ rather than self-help, led her to develop her own out of the box coaching systems. To discover the specific attacks that accompany each part of your walk with Christ and the strategies you can implement to be an overcomer,  order 4 Phases of Spiritual Warfare. Available on Amazon and Kindle. 

How To Be Consistent For Christians

I constantly have clients ask me how to be consistent to take the actions we agree on in coaching. I want to help you answer this today from a Christian perspective as we serve the Almighty, who created our universe with everything in it and it’s wonderfully consistent every day!

First and most importantly, if you are not consistent..it’s because you have believed the devil who loves to tell you that you are unworthy of success and you will never learn how to be consistent. Every one who names the name of Christ is consistent because that your BOLD IDENTITY. Are the sun and moon consistent? Is Jesus Christ consistent? Then you are because you have been crucified with Christ. One of the most important things you can do if you desire to live a purposed life is to build an identity that is consistent. If you desire to be trustworthy, have authentic confidence, then being consistent is at the core of this. I want to begin to help you understand how to build this into your life by pointing you to this one scripture before you start.

I am crucified with Christ: nevertheless I live; yet not I, but Christ liveth in me: and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by the faith of the Son of God, who loved me, and gave himself for me. Galatians 2:20

Take courage and activate your faith by meditating on this scripture. Your identity in Christ is to grasp the goal set before you and finish what you start faithfully. When you receive this revelation, you find you begin to move gradually into small wins that translate into bigger wins and more provision for your life. This will impact your personal life and your business success.

3 Powerful Tips On How To Be Consistent

1. Ask God to give you a short-term (within 6-8 weeks) goal in prayer.  Write it down and if you can describe in about a paragraph what it would mean to you emotionally to accomplish this. This is a very powerful exercise and sometimes this one strategy alone gives people the focus they need to produce this result. I believe one of greatest things Christ had modeled  was clarity on his identity, his mission and his intention to fulfill it despite the price he would pay. If you want to be consistent, do the work to define the why’s of your mission and what you will receive by accomplishing it.

2. Suit up for the impending spiritual battle. Because it’s on the way as soon as you draw a line in the sand and you make the commitment that you are not going to settle anymore for mediocre. Break down your spiritual battle into daily strategic actions. Start your day in prayer, submitting your heart to Christ and again activating your faith MILITANTLY. The enemy’s job is to remind you of your old inconsistent, double-minded, inadequate and fearful identity. Your job is to tell him of your new bold identity by DECLARING OUT OF YOUR MOUTH WHERE YOU ARE GOING.

This is not new age. It’s not name it claim it. It’s you taking authority over your air space as you do not wrestle against flesh and blood, you wrestle with principalities and unseen forces. Do you believe your Bible? Then understand you have a hidden spiritual battle that requires you to do the WORK in hidden places to win.   Now, what you need to know is you may not feel victorious, but this is where you begin just to learn how to deal with the enemy and not rely on how you feel about something. Our emotions change. Christ and his word are unchanging and a sword for you to do some smotin’ in the hinder parts with. Gotta loves the KJV for a dignified description for a butt whooping.

3. Block time for this activity, and it becomes NON-NEGOTIABLE. If you want to learn how to be consistent, you have to execute. This is super simple, but people just stay in these mental places passivity of intending to take action and never really take it. You know how you are going to get results? You block time on your daily calendar for this. I have news for you. You’re not serious about being consistent if you don’t invest money into moving forward into this activity and you don’t block time for it. MONEY and time are two great definers of how serious you prioritize something. No moolah, no time. You got a religious spirit. Whoops, did I say that out loud?

4. Make the goal you finish and not measuring or grading yourself. We have a phrase, just suit up and show up. Too many people focus on doing things perfectly, so they talk themselves out of doing it at all. You have a pass from me to get a D- on anything you try as long as you finish it. God does not measure you. He claps at your attempts and runs towards you when you take your first step.

There is nothing that will make you bolder than realizing you have been a consistent person all along. Work on gaining clarity on your identity, and you will be consistent! If you need help building this, our leadership team is the next step for your consistent success.

Love, Bec:)

Becky Harmon is an identity coach, intercessor and business leader. Her success in these arenas has placed her in demand as a personal advisor to ministry and marketplace leaders world-wide. Her personal experience of growing up in an alcoholic home, struggling with how to overcome food & alcohol addictions, depression, and financial sabotages through her identity in Christ rather than self-help, led her to develop her own out of the box coaching systems. To discover the specific attacks that accompany each part of your walk with Christ and the strategies you can implement to be an overcomer,  order 4 Phases of Spiritual Warfare. Available on Amazon and Kindle. 

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