This Mindset = Exponential Results

You can be brilliant, talented, want to influence for the kingdom but if you aren’t WHOLE-HEARTED about really getting RESULTS, you won’t be successful.

A big need I see that people need to implement into their leadership is a MINDSET of being TOTALLY IN. Without this, you will get lack-luster results and quit thinking you just must not have what it takes to be an influencer.

This is about a ten minute video and I impart in prayer the spiritual grace of perseverance that God gave me and I believe he will give to you if you take the time to watch and agree for this download in your own life!

Love you! Bec:)

P.S. Are you considering at some point launching a business coaching, speaking or writing your books? Have you launched but are just not being able to fill your pipe-line now? Join me for this free call and get the strategies you need to grow successfully!

Bold Influencer: Lisa Pollard

I talk a lot about this to my private clients and on social media. If you want to grow a profitable business or ministry, YOU MUST work on building the mindsets and leadership that is going to sustain you during discouragement.

So, I want to give a little shout-out to team member, Lisa Pollard who first joined our community back in July. Her daughter Nikki was being treated for Leukemia and in the midst of all her adversity she wanted to keep her dream to launch The Victory Project alive. She also has a plan for a book in the midst of coaching women through her business. Here’s something she shared with our team that I really resounded with me and I thought would you also…..

“Praying & studying God’s word is just one component of life, putting into practice what we pray is our responsibility too. Meaning…I can’t just say, Lord, give me the words for this book you’ve called me to write and then not get out a pen and paper. I must put my prayers into motion by acting on them, it’s from there that He will direct and guide.”

Well, Lisa has tapped into a simple but very powerful mindset. Faith put into action is what creates success! She also knows that attempting to vision cast but not having support to see it though and hold her accountable is not going to work.

Here’s what she has to say about why she committed to doing the work in our community:

“Do you know someone that has said…I sure would like a new job, I’ve been praying and praying, and then them not apply or seek employment anywhere else? Yeah, we cannot live that way…it’s hidden sabotage. IF we want a more successful life, we must live disciplined, strategic, and intentional. I want you to know that whatever it is that you feel you are here on earth to experience in growing your leadership and future business…YOU CAN! Is it to lead a specific group? YOU CAN! Do you desire to write a book or start a business or a blog? YOU CAN! How about that life long dream to be used for the Kingdom and be successful with the gifts God has placed within you? YOU CAN! It just requires a determined mind, a dedicated prayer life, a set of stretching yet achievable goals, and people in your corner that also have your success in mind and that will help keep you accountable.”

We have that. We can help you if you don’t have a faith-based community that is focused on helping you grow your mindsets or grow your first $25,000 in coaching, speaking or training. Get started with this free call I am doing this month. 

Contact me and let me listen to where you are and help you get plugged into accomplishing your dreams to influence for the kingdom!

Love, Bec:)

How To Evaluate An Experience Effectively

Individuals who continue in self-sabotaging behavior, whether it is spiritually, emotionally, financially, relationally or physically all have one thing in common.  They don’t know how to evaluate their experiences in a way that leads them to greater Lordship.

Subsequently, individuals who are successfully leading themselves and others are doing so because they walk in a high level of self-evaluation, learn from their mistakes and this makes them trust worthy even during times of apparent failure.  When people know you have a high degree of transparency in your life and do regular self-evaluation, they feel safer and are willing to trust you through turbulent transitions.

Today, I want to share with you how to evaluate what you might feel like are negative experiences and avoid following the traditional road of going along with what the majority thinks.  Another tactic of the enemy is making a decision because your afraid of what people will think of you.  You will never carry the confidence necessary to be a leader unless you can do the following during a painful experience or conflict.

  • Lordship is built by finishing, with clarity and power, what you started.  Many times people will say God told them to do something. If God truly tells you to do something, he has already provided for you the way to complete it and transition into the next thing successfully.  In prayer, when you have worshipped God and are still, ask the Holy Spirit this question. Am I believing a lie that I can’t continue this route and finish it with they way I intended to bring it to closure. Ditch the excuses on why you think it can’t be done, ask God for the ability to hear him and tap into your identity in Christ to finish like Jesus did.
  • Ask the Holy Spirit to reveal to you if you are making reactive decisions out of anger or fear. Many times people give into the anxiety and pressure of a situation and make narcissistic decisions (which leads to them feeling like failures when it blows up). A simple self-evaluation asking the Holy Spirit in prayer to empower you to approach your challenge REALISTICALLY, preparing to make small changes that lead to peace is a route God can bless easily. Hint: Not just your peace but the peace and prosperity of a everyone involved.
  • Are you recognizing and validating your feelings and others viewpoints. Many times people who come out of addiction based homes minimize their own feelings before others. When you don’t allow yourself to take the actions that validate your feelings, you will become passive aggressive. This one thing will save you tons of conflict as it’s a character issue. There is a way to validate how people feel (perhaps not their choices) and still keep unity. A solid time of prayer and worship will enable you to ask yourself this question in a detached manner.
  • Is a compelling story in your life being built? Will this story if it comes to a good end help you share a testimony of God’s grace? If so, then before the Lord in prayer, ask him to make choices that are going to give you grace to weather the stress.
  • Can you accept you failed and you are not a failure? If not, then you will feel victimized when you go through this challenge rather than growing in leadership. People who are shame-based internalize failure as who they are rather than accepting they needed to take more ownership and learn from their mistakes.

Did this help give you clarity? If so, share with me the one point that really spoke to you. Meet you in the comments!

Love, Bec:)

Desperation: The Key To Courage

Here’s the truth. Everyone has reached a point in time where they are desperate for change. They have either gotten tired of feeling limited or maybe there was a crisis of faith moment that was forced upon them. We all want to act in a way that is consistent with WHO we want to become or the goals we set for ourselves. So it’s very sabotaging if we say we want to launch a business or a ministry but then when we are given an invitation to learn the steps we have to take to do it successfully, we create excuses to delay our “suddenly season”.  It’s important to understand where this choice is made and how God provides financially for you to be enlarged.

Your old identity is who you were before you accepted Christ and unless it’s renewed through the word of God, prayer, and executing FAST~it will keep you from enjoying all the blessings and favor God has for you. It requires WORK to be enlarged and does not come through spiritual impartations. You cannot have someone lay hands on you or pray for you to have a work ethic. That’s something you have to dig down deep and cultivate because you are willing to do WHATEVER IT TAKES to be successful with the vision God has given you. This drive has always come to me when I felt like I was desperate, in a wilderness season, and honestly when I felt like I was on survival mode. There is never much provision when you’re in a transition, which is why it takes FAITH!

Through the cross you have been seated with the Christ and sit high above every principality and power that seeks to oppress or limit you. However, it takes time for your mind, soul and body to be renewed to the point where you develop a vision and purpose for your life that is significant. It takes time to learn the leadership and business skills necessary to run a profitable business or impactful ministry.  Without discipleship or mentoring, you simply don’t know how to develop the discipline (unless you had parents model Lordship to you)  that is required to push back the spiritual warfare you came under the moment you received Christ.

Here’s an example: Peter came to me because he had a desire to grow an online training program. He was frustrated with feeling all this potential but he was surrounded by people who were minimizing his confidence. He had a lack of vision and BELIEF that if he took the time to craft a fulfilling vision, he would even stay consistent enough to finish what he started. He said things like this to himself:

  • I would love to feel like I could impact people and grow my own coaching programs but I just can’t seem to get my head on straight and be consistent.
  • (After I spoke to him about getting disciplined with his physical identity) If I could find someone to work out at the gym with me, I would be successful. I keep asking people but no one will be committed to do it with me.
  • I’m pretty ADHD. I get overwhelmed and distracted. I’ve always been like this.

Peter is under spiritual warfare and seriously under-estimating the amount of tension he is getting from having a vision that will impact people spiritually! AND he is stuck in an old identity. I started Peter out on the steps he needed to take EVERY SINGLE DAY to move out of passivity and into asserting WHO he was a leader. We start by leading ourselves out of the wilderness and out of survival mode.

Where does these mindsets and choices come from? Sometimes from generational curses that can be broken off of you by someone who walks in authority. Maybe passivity was modeled to you. Many times it comes from things significant people in your life have told you that you have RECEIVED as truth, like…you would lose your head if it weren’t attached. You will never amount to anything. More often, the Lord just wants you to get to the place where your so miserable with a vision, you will step out in faith to stop caring about what people think and do what God told you to do! 

In addition, the enemy is crafty. He knows our weaknesses and then prompts people to reenforce what we fear. After you receive Christ, you can actually get more of this! When I walked him through the steps he needed to take daily to BECOME the kind of individual he wanted to be, his friends and family began to ask him if he had started on medication he was such a different person!

Your old identity is attached to very strong feelings of fear, rejection from people you want to please and what you believe is possible or not possible for you. It is deep down in your soul and the enemy has had time to reinforce what he wants you to believe with numerous life experiences. Once you have experienced a fear repeatedly, it has the potential to become your reality and DEFINE where you go in the future despite all your desire to want a different outcome.

I remember a time in my life where I was considering (and praying) investing time and money into becoming a public speaker. I shared that goal with a significant person in my life and they said to me, “Becky, why would you want to do that? You’re not a speaker, you’re a behind the scenes person as an intercessor”. The truth? I was a behind the scenes person at one time but God was trying to position me to be able to communicate at a higher level for what I would be doing today. The fear of speaking in groups was deeply rooted in me because of how many times I had been publicly shamed as a child in front of people.  (A year later, I made the top sales team in a job I had no experience for simply because I had learned to do presentations when I was fearful). This is why it is so important for you to learn a map for renewing your mind. I experienced the same thing Peter did, when you become focused and bold about the things you set your hands to, it creates a tension for the people who are familiar with the “old you”! I constantly had people tell me, ” You look different!” It is amazing what courage does for your appearance!

In Christ, you have the opportunity to co-create a powerful life with God. Results that are beautiful, influential and deeply satisfying to you. You have the choice to move from sabotage to SUCCESS. Unbelief to FAITH. However, it will not begin until you become uncomfortable enough to risk by creating new HABITS you have built of failure into habits of success. SUCCESSFUL habits will always point you towards faith and a future hope. Sabotaging habits will always remind you of past failures and keep you stuck in an old identity based on limiting beliefs.

Remember who you are today and share with me one realistic goal you could accomplish next year if you had the support you needed. Would it be starting a business? Becoming a speaker? Coach? Who would you become? 

5 Faith-Based Tips For Becoming More Childlike

Sabotage: One of the things that is common for people who come out of shame-based or addiction-based homes is that they have difficulty being child-like or having fun. This is truly defeating because it will affect your closest relationships as well as any creativity needed to grow a business or ministry. Much of the reason I see people struggle with this in coaching is because they were on survival mode as young children or adults and had to parent themselves. They are vigilant and have difficulty letting down.

It causes them to hold back or fear coming across as someone who doesn’t have it all together. Sometimes people interpret stoic individuals as prideful but from a prayer perspective, the root of pride is fear. Fear causes you to build walls that insulate you from risk and deep intimacy. However, Jesus tells us he loves when we are child-like and that it helps us be very successful in the kingdom of God! This is something important we want to integrate into our lives to avoid self-sabotaging ourselves. Avoid attempting to project a “cool” image and instead be who God created you to be.

SUCCESS: 5 Ways To Become More Child-Like Today

  1. Affirm yourself for asking questions. Here’s typically what shame-based people do. They squash down their questions as “stupid”. They stay in the background and don’t move to the front seat in class because they struggle with internalizing failure as WHO THEY ARE. They want to appear to other people they have it all together so they don’t risk coming across not in control.  In Christ, you are actually ENCOURAGED to be child-like and ask all the questions you want. Questions lead to increased imagination and creativity!
  2. Purpose to do something weekly if not daily you are passionate about. It seems like an oxymoron to have to MAKE yourself block time for having fun but whatever is not comfortable for you will always be pushed to the back-burner.  God is a good Father. He loves when we get excited about the things he gave to us to bring a blessing. Anything that ADDS joy to your life and helps you become a better person is from the Lord. Don’t just give, give, give yourself into a barren place. Block time for what energizes you.
  3. Choose FAITH over fear. Kids are notorious for impulsive action. They don’t wrestle over the ramifications of their choices. Don’t let fear paralyze you from taking the steps that you feel nudged by God to take. You don’t need to do it perfect, just move forward one step today.
  4. Reward yourself for overcoming fear.  Who doesn’t love a payout when they do the right thing rather than the wrong action? One of my horses Royal (the 16 hand beast) is terrified of spray paint cans, boxes, plastic bags. Horses are FLIGHT animals when they are afraid and have to be taught to trust their riders. I have had to work to build relationship with him because apparently he was driven to perform by previous owners and was very distrustful of anyone coming near him. He didn’t like me touching his head, ears or even approaching him in the field. The first year we owned him, we called him the “don’t touch me horse”. One of the things I did for Royal to build trust is reward him with a small treat (he loves fruit loops)  when he touches his nose to whatever I am asking him to not be afraid of.
  5. Be persistent in prayer. Let me tell you I have four kids and LOL! When they wanted something, they were excellent at asking and asking and bugging and reminding and finally, they usually received what they were asking for if they were persistent enough. Sometimes Jay and I would ask them for an idea on how they could make money to get what they wanted and help them set it up. Sometimes we would just buy it for them because it was a birthday or holiday gift. The bottom line is your father is a good dad. He wants you to feel comfortable enough bugging him in prayer for what will be a blessing to you and others. Be persistent in prayer to ask God for what brings you joy. 

Question! What do you love to do that brings you child-like joy? Meet you in the comments! Love, Bec:)


3 Tips For Keeping Momentum Through Chaos

What makes the difference between success and sabotage in overcoming chaos? Perseverance.

Often times it isn’t the most talented individual or the person with the most money who is successful, it’s the person who simply will not quit and keeps investing into their vision by FAITH!  I believe one of the things that enables us to persevere to the end of a vision, through chaotic seasons, is simply coming to a place where our natural strength is gone and we have to ask God to give us a supernatural faith to finish. The enemy comes to steal, kill and destroy so you must guard you daily prayer time and your faith in Christ. Here’s a quick way to discern how to persevere through a trial.

FAITH will always be future oriented. It gives you an expected hope and end. FEAR will remind you of where you failed, who you can’t trust, why you can’t move forward due to lack and why you can’t be successful.

Here’s what you need to know about starting and finishing your vision. You will have moments when you’re exhausted and you’re ready to quit. That is the time you have to pray and ask God to ignite you for the sake of others.  I try never to put my hand to something that is all about me because I know myself. I will quit. However, if I am serving others, I will always finish because I am motivated by love.

It makes no difference whether you want to lose 50 pounds or speak for Christ.  These principles apply.

  1. Become militantly aware of your thoughts.

This is the first battleground and where most people fail. Satan will always inject a fear-based thought that you think is your own and if you don’t reject it immediately, he will grow it. Here are some of mine from literally two hours ago.

  • I feel fuzzy and unclear.  (overwhelm)
  • I am too old for horses. I don’t have what it takes to train a high energy horse. I am going to get seriously injured. (steal my joy)

Do you think any of those thoughts were from the Lord? Hmmm. Nope. I said out loud to all of them. I do not receive this thought.

2.    Believe God wants to give you victory and your footsteps and circumstances are ordered by him even thought they feel completely overwhelming.  

When you see the compassion and works of Christ, you know he is simply reflecting his Father. Your Father wants to heal. He wants to provide. He wants to bring mercy where there is judgment. HE IS A GOOD DAD! When you fail, you simply run back to your Dad and ask for forgiveness and that you can yield to the work he wants to do in your life. When you have trouble, turmoil and challenges, go to the Lord and say this:

Lord Jesus, I accept all you bring by your hand. The sabotages and the successes. However, if this trial is from Satan, I resist it and I ask you Lord to illuminate to me in prayer if this a demonic attack. Learn how to pray and take patterns and repetitive challenges into prayer with you. God will show you if it is an obstacle that he has brought to conform you to the image of Christ or if it is from the pit of hell and you are to resist, pray and stand strong until he flees. Most of what you will deal with will be oppression not discipline from God.

3.    Plan on sharing your testimony with others. Today because you can’t be a victim and a victor at the same time. 

We have overcome through the blood of the lamb and the word of our testimony. Revelation 12:11

Always tell the Lord in prayer that you can’t wait to share this victory story with others. The enemy wants to suffocate and restrict, he loves pity. Loves painting you as a victim because it detracts from your sonship/daughtership in Christ! When people ask you how you are doing, or how things are going, ALWAYS SHARE something God has done to move your forward rather than what is lacking. Even in the midst of a fiery trial, this will keep you full of faith. If people ask you how they can pray, share with them that you want prayer that your faith will stay activated and passionate and that God’s will be done. You will see tremendous increase in your life from declaring the praises of God DURING the battle and what God is going to do for you AHEAD. Remember David and Goliath!

Meet me in the comments and let me know what God is currently doing for you! #victornotvictim



12 Identity Defining Statements

This is a very important assignment for you today if you want to operate out of your identity in Christ and make disciples for the kingdom. When I speak on how to overcome obstacles through your identity in Christ, I walk people through this coaching myself. I want you to say all of these statements out loud and stop and write down whether you agree or disagree with them. If you take this seriously and in your prayer time, you will see exactly where you need to do identity work for this upcoming year.  For example:

  1. I AM forgiven for every place I have hurt others or blatantly disobeyed the Holy Spirit when I felt led to not to something. Agree or Disagree?
  2. I AM a son or daughter that my Father is pleased with. Agree or Disagree?
  3. I AM adopted in the body of Christ, no longer solitary or floating and am making disciples with grace. Agree or Disagree?
  4. I AM a powerful, loving and disciplined person. Agree or Disagree?
  5. I AM rooted and grounded relationally in the love of Christ. Therefore I am a team player and can challenge my team-mates in Christ to pursue their high calling because that is what I am doing. Agree or Disagree?
  6. I AM a resource multiplier and don’t need more to grow. I use what’s in my hand and I let God do the reproducing. Agree or Disagree?
  7. I AM delivered from the power of Satan unto God from all ADHD, distraction, fear of man, mental illness and tormenting thoughts. Agree or Disagree?
  8. I AM a man or woman of great faith and SPEAK TO MOUNTAINS TO MOVE and they have to be uprooted. This goes for every obstacle in my life that is not in the will of God for me including debt, negative individuals, bad jobs, exhausting cycles.
  9. I AM a bold and wise person. Serpents, scorpions, abuse, control, injustice, or outright persecution shall not harm me, my calling or my career. I slip right through it. Agree or Disagree?
  10. I AM able to discern temptation, power plays, manipulative people that will distract me from my mission with ease. I handle them by speaking the truth in love like Jesus. Agree or Disagree?
  11. I AM an influential person who walks in authority. Signs and wonders follow me as well as words of wisdom and supernatural revelation for people. Agree or Disagree?
  12. I AM someone who is strategic, focused and says no without guilt to everything outside my vision. I am not a people pleaser, I am about my Father’s business.

 Watch this video and discover the two things this work will reveal to you if you are ready for more authority.

Do you have a heart for ministry, to coach, speak or write your own book about what God did for you? Then this is the team for you! In my Leadership team, I share the prayers, strategies, and ways I built my “biz-nistry” in an order that’s been proven to work. Bypass the years of trial and error and praying in frustration.  Instead, follow a clearly marked roadmap to successfully growing your identity, vision, authority, and business.

The Root Of Not Being Able To Build A New Identity

I want to begin by sharing with you that you’re not broken and you’re not crazy. There are a couple reason’s why you haven’t been able to discover your purpose and step into a new identity but it’s not because you’re not able to. After coaching thousands of people I can safely tell you that most people understand how much spiritual warfare they are under and how militant they have to be to get free. Most of the time people make excuses which leads to more delay and passivity in overcoming their challenges.

The kingdom of God is ASSERTIVE in nature and until you are ready to let go of excuses, God does not give you the GRACE to grow into a new identity. The Holy Spirit is poured out in FULLNESS in response to faith and repentance.

In today’s video, I give you some thought processes that I discovered hindered me and if you grew up in an addiction based environment than this is where OLD MINDSETS and IDENTITY’S come from. The statistics say up to 50% and more of the church have grown up in a dysfunctional or shame-based home. Once you are able to recognize the old identity and spiritual warfare, you can now begin to apply yourself to overcoming it. There are 5 points I break down more specifically in this video:

  • Hiding  
  • Surrounding yourself with partners and staff who enable you and won’t require bold actions from you 
  • Narcissism and lack of boundaries 
  • Surrounding yourself with people who are victims
  • Disposable relationships

Watch the video and I will meet you in the comment section! Love, love, Bec:)


Are You On Survival Mode? Tips For Thriving

My overall mission is to help you take the places in your life that the enemy meant to DESTROY you and show you how to use your identity to kick him in the hinderparts so you can transform lives for Christ!

In every conversation that I have with a client or friend who is hurting, I want to activate their faith to believe God for resurrection power and then take IMMEDIATE action. When we have real biblical faith we take action. Without that, we have a powerless religion and no demonstration of Christ on our lives. 

When you begin to see what God will do for you with just these two simple strategies, you will find He delights to enlarge you to share your story on how you overcame. 

Some of you have a strong calling for ministry, speaking, coaching, writing your own books and the enemy wants to keep you in survival mode so you don’t accomplish the purpose God has given you! Don’t let him! Watch today’s video and learn what you can do to move out of this state within a very short amount of time. 

Love, Bec:) 


How To Wait On The Lord Practically

In today’s video, I want to talk to you about what I learned about waiting on the Lord in the context of moving from a prophetic vision to an actual apostolic model in business. Prophetic is what helps you birth your vision but then you have to move into a new mindset and that will cause you to have to wait on the Lord in a new way.

Don’t sabotage yourself with passivity or frustration from not seeing your vision come to pass fast enough.

Watch this video and grow successfully! Meet you in the comments below!


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